Gentlemen's Etiquette.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Mods/admins feel free to move this were you feel it should go.

So in honor of my Grandpapa I thought I would share his list of things that a Gentlemen should do in front of lovely ladies and other men. Seeing as we are growing into men I figured that we should all learn from him.

Do's/Don'ts when being around women
Do's
-Be very curtious
-Stand tall even if you are tired
-Remember your pleases and Thank yous
-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent)
-Pay for every meal
-Listen to what they have to say!
-Use polite humor
-Ladies first always and forever.
-If its raining and there are puddles you stand closer to the street so they don't get wet.
-Keep your hands above the waist when dancing.
-Greet her nicely and warmly (I.E hug,kiss on the hand, kiss on the cheek or a peck.)
-Give her your jacket if she is cold
-Walk her home if she cannot get a ride.
-Be patient with girls always!

Don'ts
-Do not use foul and vulgar language.
-Do not be disrespectful to your mother in front of other ladies.
-Do not even ask to split the bill anywhere.
-Do not cut in front of her anywhere let her go.
-Do not kiss her with tongue until after 12 A.M
-Do not be all handsy when she needs her space.
-Do not use dirty jokes.
-Do not touch her in any "private areas" in public.
-Do not I repeat do not rush a woman.
-Do not use words like (You look hot,smoking,sexy,skanky.)
-Do not interrupt a woman.
-Do not stare at her chest eye contact only!
-Do not kiss her, let her kiss you.

Hope this helped, this helped me long ago when my grandfather told me all about being a Gentleman.

[Dolphus Raymond]

Good rules I think mostly. Some girls find being paid for kind of condescending. Always good to remember the #1 rule - listen to what she wants, not what you think she wants. Some guys think it's gentlemanly to order for a girl at a restaurant, for instance, but that's just controlling.

[GRB123]

what this got 2 do with puberty

[Rutherford The Brave]

what this got 2 do with puberty

It actually has alot to do with Puberty, so let it go. You see guys have a tendency to ignore their manners when their hormones are raging.

[PrLatino93]

nice rules, KGTM. every guy should know how to respect women and be a gentlemen even with their hormones raging.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

wut r the rules for guy going on a date with guy?....................... well wut r they :?

[iFap]

Very nicely done :) This seems like a good list to follow.. I will try to remember this next time I am with a girl :D

[theOperaGhost]

That's a wonderful list of do's and don't's! Every guy is much better off if they can follow that.

[Serenity]

Hmm....moved to R&D

[homerallii1]

Good rules... Some of them classics :D lol i've disobeyed many of those rules. LOL! but yea, my lady wasnt quite so classy :D ... Good tips

[Gumleaf]

i have to say that i agree and do a lot of those things already. no tongue kiss before midnight? you have to be kidding! i'm rarely awake then!

[Serenity]

Let's see...here are the ones I agree with:

Do's

-Be very curtious [but not like super strictly polite...I like jokes. I like fooling around and goofing off. I don't want some uber proper guy.]
-Remember your pleases and Thank yous [again...no need to be way polite]
-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent) [just don't overdo it.]
-Listen to what they have to say!
-If its raining and there are puddles you stand closer to the street so they don't get wet.
-Greet her nicely and warmly (I.E hug,kiss on the hand, kiss on the cheek or a peck.) [it's nice, but not an OBLIGATION]
-Give her your jacket if she is cold
-Walk her home if she cannot get a ride.

Don'ts
-Do not be all handsy when she needs her space. [that's just anyone...]
-Do not I repeat do not rush a woman.
-Do not stare at her chest eye contact only!


Maybe I'm just not enough of a lady...? lol

[Gumleaf]

actually i like your version better val, i'm all for that :P

[Torn]

''-Pay for every meal''

What if the lady insist to pay? *shivers* Scary..

[Maverick]

''-Pay for every meal''

What if the woman insist to pay? *shivers* Scary..Then let her pay?

If you're with someone that likes to pay as well, its easy to work out a deal where you alternate. If you pay this time, she pays the next then so on. I think its pretty fair and both can be treated on a consistent basis.

Its what I do with my friends at work.

[Sapphire]

I find some of those a bit too restrictive. Some of them just take the fun out of a lot of things lol.
I think they apply more to your Grandpa's era than ours to be honest with you.

[Whisper]

-Do not stare at her chest eye contact only! WHAT! boobs are important its like a compliment

[ShatteredWings]

I disagree with some of these.. .and i'm a girl



-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent)
that's rather over doing it...
-Pay for every meal
i just... yeah..

-Do not use foul and vulgar language.
-Do not be disrespectful to your mother in front of other ladies.
-Do not even ask to split the bill anywhere.
o.O
-I cuss all the time
-haha. that's overdoing it
- i happen to disagree with this accient code of etiquate
-Do not kiss her with tongue until after 12 A.M
-Do not use dirty jokes.
-?? thats a joke right. how bout not unless she wants it?
- thats the only humor i get
-Do not interrupt a woman.
-Do not kiss her, let her kiss you.
-sometimes that could be a good thing...
- serously? haha

[Sage]

I find some of those a bit too restrictive. Some of them just take the fun out of a lot of things lol.
I think they apply more to your Grandpa's era than ours to be honest with you.

Awwwww, come ooon. If you really loved a girl you wouldn't mind being "restricted" ,_,

[Sapphire]

I am a girl and my boyfriend does most of these.

He compliments me, pays for things, is polite, is well spoken, is respectful and mindful of what I do/don't want etc. I do show him the same respect and care.

Some of these, though, take the fun out of it all and, in my opinion, are too restrictive for this day and age.

[Serenity]

WHAT! boobs are important its like a compliment

Hey I'm not saying you can't look, but if I'm trying to have a conversation with you I'd like to know you're listening to me and not fantasizing about the many things you'd like to be doing to me lol

[ShatteredWings]

Hey I'm not saying you can't look, but if I'm trying to have a conversation with you I'd like to know you're listening to me and not fantasizing about the many things you'd like to be doing to me lol

haha. that's my logic commpleatly. you MAY look, but keep it to my face mostly thanks.


and, cody, i really do like your logic there :)

[Rutherford The Brave]

My grandpapa raised me well, and he certainly didn't live in an different ERA.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

but i still want 2 know r there any rules 4 guy going on a date with a guy i dont want 2 b ignore again

[Rutherford The Brave]

I would say the same things apply, except for the whole boobs thing unless your date has man boobs. Also what are you talking about being ignored, I read your post and I didn't understand it at all.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

oh sorry then my bad any way thnx i guess :D

[Sapphire]

KGTM, I didn't mean to offend you. I was simply saying that times have changed.

FYI, I used "era" appropriately as it refers to a period of time.

[Gumleaf]

of those mentioned in the original list, these are the ones that apply to joanne and me:

-Be very curtious i'm always curtious anyways
-Remember your pleases and Thank yous its just politeness and do it all the time
-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent) do it often
-Listen to what they have to say! i always listen to what jo says. communication is the key, is it not?
-Use polite humor i do that and use dirty humour too sometimes lol
-Greet her nicely and warmly (I.E hug,kiss on the hand, kiss on the cheek or a peck.) well we always greet with a hug and a kiss
-Give her your jacket if she is cold
-Walk her home if she cannot get a ride. i always walk her home, especially at night. i don't like her walking on her own at night

[Rutherford The Brave]

KGTM, I didn't mean to offend you. I was simply saying that times have changed.

FYI, I used "era" appropriately as it refers to a period of time.

Its fine it wasn't offending, I was just saying he wasn't that type of man :).

[Ryandel]

Don'ts

-Do not kiss her, let her kiss you.



Nice list!! Odd thing is m ex hated it when I didn't kiss her. She didn't like the fact that the girl has to be the one that's forward in relationships.

[thesphinx]

Good Job REP ++

[Sapphire]

Nice list!! Odd thing is m ex hated it when I didn't kiss her. She didn't like the fact that the girl has to be the one that's forward in relationships.

To be honest, I know a lot of girls (me included) that would not be happy with that either. Relationships only really work if both of you give and take equally.

[optimashprime]

Mods/admins feel free to move this were you feel it should go.

So in honor of my Grandpapa I thought I would share his list of things that a Gentlemen should do in front of lovely ladies and other men. Seeing as we are growing into men I figured that we should all learn from him.

Do's/Don'ts when being around women
Do's
-Be very curtious
-Stand tall even if you are tired
-Remember your pleases and Thank yous
-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent)
-Pay for every meal
-Listen to what they have to say!
-Use polite humor
-Ladies first always and forever.
-If its raining and there are puddles you stand closer to the street so they don't get wet.
-Keep your hands above the waist when dancing.
-Greet her nicely and warmly (I.E hug,kiss on the hand, kiss on the cheek or a peck.)
-Give her your jacket if she is cold
-Walk her home if she cannot get a ride.
-Be patient with girls always!

Don'ts
-Do not use foul and vulgar language.
-Do not be disrespectful to your mother in front of other ladies.
-Do not even ask to split the bill anywhere.
-Do not cut in front of her anywhere let her go.
-Do not kiss her with tongue until after 12 A.M
-Do not be all handsy when she needs her space.
-Do not use dirty jokes.
-Do not touch her in any "private areas" in public.
-Do not I repeat do not rush a woman.
-Do not use words like (You look hot,smoking,sexy,skanky.)
-Do not interrupt a woman.
-Do not stare at her chest eye contact only!
-Do not kiss her, let her kiss you.

Hope this helped, this helped me long ago when my grandfather told me all about being a Gentleman.

very well said you and your grandad are so right

[japanman]

Let's see...here are the ones I agree with:

Do's

-Be very curtious [but not like super strictly polite...I like jokes. I like fooling around and goofing off. I don't want some uber proper guy.]
-Remember your pleases and Thank yous [again...no need to be way polite]
-Use compliments like (you look wonderful, beautiful and eligent) [just don't overdo it.]
-Listen to what they have to say!
-If its raining and there are puddles you stand closer to the street so they don't get wet.
-Greet her nicely and warmly (I.E hug,kiss on the hand, kiss on the cheek or a peck.) [it's nice, but not an OBLIGATION]
-Give her your jacket if she is cold
-Walk her home if she cannot get a ride.

Don'ts
-Do not be all handsy when she needs her space. [that's just anyone...]
-Do not I repeat do not rush a woman.
-Do not stare at her chest eye contact only!


Maybe I'm just not enough of a lady...? lol

Aw man you found out my morals :(

Altho my hormones sometimes tend to get the better of me...

[ShatteredWings]

Aw man you found out my morals :(


isn't that a good thing?

[japanman]

Well yes lol i was trying to be funny xD but it didnt work lol

[Gumleaf]

ok, so this is just a general comment on guy's etiquette in general. i think when you are in a relationship, a guy should make an effort to show that he cares for her by doing certain things, but you need to work out between you, what is acceptable and what isn't for you. for example, if jo is cold, i always give her my jacket. but if we go out for hot chocolate, i don't pull her seat out for her, why? because its not necessary and its not something that either of us are comfortable doing really. then there are the little things that jo does for me, would that be girl etiquette? when it comes to the crunch, in a relationship i think there should be give and take and in this day of age, all those things mentioned are not really appropriate or even thought of for many couples i wouldn't think.