Superficial?? ques. for girls!

[homerallii1]

Hey girls, im a 13 year old. I'm Heavy, husky, watever you want to call it. I'm wondering if girls are superficial. I know a lot of guys are... and i think it's just stupid. But im just wondering. Cause girls flirt with me non-stop and i cant imagine why anyone would like me cause of how big i am....

LOl, I'm wellkept, and fairly attractive... Just wondering

Chubby, 5'9"

[Sapphire]

When you say "big" do you mean it as in "bulky" and "well built" or as in "chubby"?

I personally find that while appearences do matter, it is not the be all and end all. It is important that a couple are attracted to each other on a physical level. I have had my fair share of relationships where this was not the case and they didn't turn out well.

[byee]

I'm not a girl, but let me add my $.02.

I don't think people are superficial b/c they're concerned about appearances. I think it's human nature to be drawn to people we find physically attractive. It's not the most important thing, but it is the first thing people notice. If it's appealing (or at least tolerable), there's a better chance the relationship will develop.

There are a lot of things that you cannot control about who you are, and also what others reaction to it will be. Weight isn't one of them, you DO have control over that, and if you've got more than you know you should, it might be best to lose it so you aren't relegated to 'just friends' status by the girls who can't tolerate the extra weight.

[Zephyr]

This is a hard question to tackle.

But to answer your question: Doesn't matter that much.

First off: Everybody is superficial to a point. By this, I mean that we all have our preferences.

Example: A friend of mine prefers heavy-set guys more than anything else.

As for myself: I prefer really tall guys, chubby or skinny, but that's never stopped me from dating short or average height guys because I look at personality first and foremost. A guy with a great personality is my key thing, but it's a major plus if they're really tall.

Seriously, as far as fitness goes: Even if you're chubby, just make sure that you take care of yourself, keep your health in-check, and be happy.

[Requin]

It depends on the girl. I'm not a girl, as you might of noticed!
We all have are preferences and what we find attractive, so we are all a bit but it doesn't really matter.
There's someone out there for you, for everyone infact. Even me.
YOu shouldn't worry.

[homerallii1]

Yea, i mean im healthy and stuff... as the doctor says just heavyset. and chubby. I wouldn't call myself unnatractive though.

[Trademarked]

i said it makes a little difference. if the guy is unkept and disgusting, yeah, not a chance. it's all in how he takes care of himself. so i would date a "heavyset" guy only if he wasn't completely morbidly obese because of too much KFC and television.