Morally wrong, but you can't help it?

[BeautifulSilence]

Ok, I know we get quite a few people asking if some fetishes they have aren't normal, and we all understand that if you find something a turn on then it's nothing you can control, right?

Well, I was thinking about these people who find ethically wrong things turn ons. For example, 'kiddy porn'... I'm pretty sure that they know it's really sick and disgusting, but they can't help that they like it. Obviously, they don't tell anyone and they probably don't possess loads of it ... But what are they suppossed to do, if the onlything that sexually interests them is illegal?

Anothe example, would be [I forgot the name of it] when you have to hurt someone to get aroused. This can be more controlled, I guess? Instead of actually hurting someone they could ask their partner to roleplay or something...

Anyway, basically, if the only thing that [I]excites you is illegal and just wrong in every way, what are you supposed to do?

***Thoughts were triggered by watching Donnie Darko and Little Children [both of which had situations involving pervets]***

[Maverick]

What are they supposed to do? Seek psychological help. Sure people have weird fetishes but in the majority of them they don't involve hurting other people or children. When it goes to that level then that's when it is a problem and the welfare of children and people are more important than satisfying someone's fetish.

[byee]

When people are attracted to little kids what they 'should' do is recognize these urges aren't healthy, and probably reflect some real inner turmoil, and get some professional help. It's not just about the risk to society (which is real), but also the needless pain associated with being that deviant. Remember, Laura, that deviance usually comes from some trauma, and the resultant urges are reflective of that unresolved trauma.

Your second example, of people enjoying pain, is called masochism. Again, the real issue is that it represents a deviance, that most people find pain repulsive, not arousing. So, when something so obviously represents a departure from the norm, there's usually a reason for it, and that reason should be the topic of therapy.