Is it my emotions or puberty?

[DjDream]

Well this is about my friend Chase. We have known each other ever since we were very little. We are best friends and enjoy being around each other. In fact we sleep at each others' very often and spend almost every moment together, yeah we have even taken showers together, you know to save the environment. But I recently have been experiencing wierd feelings and I have decided that I have fallen in LOVE with Chase. I know it is very strange and I don't know what to do. I mean I only feel this way about Chase and nobody else. Both Chase and I have our girlfriends but don't spend much time with them. Sometimes when we are talking I don't even to what he is saying because I just focus on his ocean blue eyes. Other times I thnk that I am not able no control myself and want to kiss him. I just don't want to ruin our friendship for something that may be the product puberty. I just don't know what should I do. Wht do you recomend.

[Musicalmonstar]

I rthink you should let him know how you feel

[Trademarked]

i'm 90% sure you're going through the RAGING surge of hormones called puberty. you might end up gay (I did) you might end up straight and look back on these thoughts and laugh "ohh, what was i THINKING? chuckle chuckle...."
it would be helpful to know how old you are, cause i'm sure you're going through puberty and thinking with your penis like most guys do.
wait it out. IF you think you ABSOLUTELY MUST, tell him, or if he's really open to it then go ahead. but what you gotta remember here is that it's your choice what to do. puberty does crazy ass things to your brain.

[DjDream]

I am 15 YO

[Trademarked]

and how far along in puberty are you? and have you recently masturbated or had any sort of sexual release recently? cause (not saying it is) but it could just be sexual tension inside yourself trying to get out.
are you open to the fact that you might be gay?

[byee]

This is not raging hormones. That's about horniness. This is different, you're describing a deep feeling for your friend, it's emotionally based.

I would not recommend you talk with Chase about this until you sort it out, if you don't understand it, we can't expect him to. And then there's the issue of 'what's the point?'. We would need to answer that one, too.

OK, my first thought is that if you've known this guy forever and been really close and done a lot of things with him, and truly enjoyed him as a person and a friend, esentailly 'grown up' with him, then it's perfectly natural to develop an attachment to/with him, to love him. It's nonsense that guys cannot love eachother, and it's also untrue that if a guy loves another guy as a friend, based on that, that he's 'gay'. Love is a natural emotion, just like the others, and unlike some, is good for you.

The question is what kind of love is it? 'Gazing into his deep blue eyes' certainly sounds romantic, is it? Do you think that your feeligs are based more on a romantic kind of love? Or does it feel more like a bonded, brotherly (good brotherly) love? Do you fantasize abut him and you in that context?

I think you'd need to spend some time trying to more accurately determine what kind of love you feel.

[DjDream]

I just want me and Chase to be together because I really love him like a brother and maybe I developed other deeper feelings for him because I have known him my entire life. And its not like I feel like this for all the other guys. I think that Chase is a very important aspect of my life and I just wanted him to be so much closer to me that we could never be apart. Chase truly is everything you could want in a friend and a lover. I know that Chase loves as much like a brother, though I am not if he loves me the same way I love him. Also, I that if I were to say anything to him about how I feel inside he totally understand, but I do think that our friendship could never be the same.
I will say that I have had dreams in which me and Chase are in a field by a forest, just the two of us. I have had dreams were we hug each other a kiss but nothing sexual. Hopefully this will pass and me and Chase will keep on being friends. However, I fear that this could really b something emotional and that if I do not say something soon I could regret it. Thank you so much for your advise it has been very helpful.

[byee]

again, i'd encourage you to consder the result of talking with him about this, what would be the point? It would likely change things and not necessarily for the better. What is he to do with this info? Besides, he probably knows all this anyway.

Loving someone is Ok, being dependent on them is another matter. It sounds like you might have crossed that line, and maybe you should try to back it away a bit, to still love and enjoy him, but also enjoy your other friends and spend time with them, enjoy them, too. Maybe you need some perspective.

[Gumleaf]

boys puberty - teen sexuality

[DjDream]

Well I should then to stay away from him for a while. I will try to dedicate more time to my girlfriend and my other friends. It's going to quite hard but I will survive. I will just keep in mind that it is for the better of the friendship. I will just love him from far away until this feeling ends.

Honestly, I don't think that Chase has noticed my feelings, since be is very innocent and often gets easily distracted. Besides I have done nothing that could give any clue.

Once again thanks loads for your help.

[The Batman]

Friendships are built from love, trust, and common interests just like any relationship. It's quite easy for best friends to become more than friends because all of the same feelings are there. The way you describe chase is making it seem as if you are more interested in him romantically than brotherly. You say that you guys do everything together even though you both have girlfriends which seems to me that you guys only like the idea of having a girlfriend rather than having one. You two are incredibly close even if you've known each other your whole lives, you guys do things that most brothers wouldn't do together. So this has me thinking that maybe there is something more than just "brotherly" love here. Don't be afraid of these feelings just learn to control them, and when the time is right tell him about them. But only do it if you think that there is a slight chance that he has the same feelings for you.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

I think that chase needs to know about this feelings.
Because like you he might be hiding his feelings like you do and talking to him is the only way you will know how he feels about you.
Talk to him step in to his shoes for a moment