is actual interaction better than dreams

[Yasmine]

if you have real physical interactions with a guy, is that better than the feelings in your dreams? or about the same?

[Rawrbaby]

I think I know what you mean. You want to know if feels better in the flesh than in the mind.

Well It should, but then agian it all depends on the person. Most people prefer physical interaction.

[Zan0ra]

Probably when your awake. You have control over everything. But dreams are also fun, especially if you have the dream about him.

[Sapphire]

The question is rather like "Is having £1,000 better than just imagining that you have it?"

Of course the reality of intimacy in a relationship is far better than intimacy in dreams. A greater sense of comfort and love can be experienced because you are know that they are there for you when you need them. Plus, you can have a laugh and chat with the person at other times than in your dreams.

[byee]

Yasmine, the answer to your q depends on your readiness and your expectations.

For something to be 'Better' in real life, you have to be ready for it, want it, and perhaps above all, have a reasonable expectation of what it will be like and what you'll feel like afterwards.

In your case, b/c there's so much else going on for you and that you have yet to work out and get comfortable with, there might be benefit in enjoying the fantasy, at least for the meantime.

[Yasmine]

i enjoy the fantasy, but then i keep craving the best out of it, and i think the best out of it, is actually doing it. i never had those cravings a couple years ago, but now i do.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think is better physical interaction cuz they can tell u n act how they feel and in ur dreams is all control by ur mind

[Sapphire]

I think you should go for it. You shouldn't be put off just because you have a lot on your plate. As long as you and your partner are respectful of each other, open with each other and communicate honestly there is a lot of good that you can benefit from the relationship. When people say that love heals, they are right. Nearly anything can be improved when you are in a loving environment. Loving and being loved can help you build up your self esteem and your confidence in yourself.

Don't settle for just anyone though, you shouldn't let yourself be taken advantage of just because you want to experience this. Finding someone who you like, trust and feel comfortable with is very important otherwise it could bring you more bad than good.

[Yasmine]

the only problem is, not alot of guys are gonna want me.

[Sapphire]

Keep looking for ones that do then. They are out there, and they are the ones that you should be concentrating on because they are the ones worth having.

I mean, do you really want to chase a guy who isn't bothered about you as a person but immediately judges you?

[Requin]

The visions in your mind may well blur the actual feelings that would happen in reality by exaggerating them. This isn't the case for all but it could happen in this way. So you may well go into having sex imagining it will be like in your dreams.
But it will most likely be far better :-)

[byee]

the only problem is, not alot of guys are gonna want me.

I don't think that is accurate, Yasmine. You will need to find a very specific kind of guy who is extremely understanding and very comfortable with who he is. This will take more time, and until then, you'd undoubtly find whatever you create in your mind more satisfying than what you might experience before you find *him*.