Trading Pictures Online...

[Uhhh]

Alright so I've been really curious about experimenting with other guys but could never really do it in real life although I might in the future. I decided to swap pictures/webcam with guys in the past. I never showed face or anything. Just recently someone my age sent me pictures of his penis to compare.

I really really regret it now. What should I do? Any kind words? :(

[Oblivion]

What you should do: Stop if you haven't already; It's unsafe

Kind words: It is very easy to be tricked by hormones into doing stupid stuff you later regret. Don't worry about it :)

[Gavin]

Stop before you end up regreting it even more.

[Requin]

Yeah stop now, if you haven't.
You'll only regret doing it. It's a part of puberty having to deal with sexual urges and things that your mind does to you. Now you've learnt not to do someting.
Learn from your mistakes :-)

[byee]

The internet presents with a lot of new opportunities and new challenges, this is one of them. It opens up a lot of otherwise unknown and unavailable opportunities, and you have to judge for yourself what's Ok and what's better left alone.

Your reaction here, of not feeling OK about this one experience probably tells you that you shouldn't do it again. Reasonable people (a true oxymoron during puberty! j/k), have this internal barometer of what's Ok and what's not, regardless of it's availability. Your barometer is swinging to the 'Rain' side, so heed that. You might be about to get wet if you disregard your feelings! When something is OK, we usually don't feel regret afterwards.

I think the best way to judge things online is to use the same judgement/common sense that you would use in real life. So, if having the experience in real life would work for you, if it's OK with you, then it might be OK online. Take chatting here. If we were available to you, say, in school at lunch, you'd probably be OK approaching us and hanging out. And with time, maybe even talk about stuff like this.

So, lets' look at your example. If you wouldn't be OK being naked or doing sexual things, in the same room, with a stranger (which is what camming and trading pics are), then it's probably an indication that it's not such a good thing to do online.

It's not about the anonymity, it's not about the technology, or the availability, or even your desire/curiosity (which are feelings), its about the activity. The determination should be based on the activity, b/c that's the part that causes the feelings, and it's the feelings that would cause the problem. The technology or the anonymity won't protect you from that. You might feel uneasy b/c what you're thinking of doing is basically having a sexual experience with a stranger. And when you strip away all the curiosity and anonymity, the feelings about doing that aren't so great.

Remember that simple mathematical rule, that you always do to one side of the equation what you you do to the other? Same here, except substitute the word 'online' for 'equation': If it's OK real time, then it's OK online. If not, then you probably shouldn't do it, regardless of it's availability, or your curiosity.

In your case, what's done is done, learn from the experience, and don't do it again. Feeling 'regret' should only serve as a warning about these kinds of activities in the future.

[Zan0ra]

As everyone said. Its not a good idea. If your not happy with it. Then dont do it. Do you even know these people? Its best stop now.

[Patchy]

The internet presents with a lot of new opportunities and new challenges, this is one of them. It opens up a lot of otherwise unknown and unavailable opportunities, and you have to judge for yourself what's Ok and what's better left alone.

Your reaction here, of not feeling OK about this one experience probably tells you that you shouldn't do it again. Reasonable people (a true oxymoron during puberty! j/k), have this internal barometer of what's Ok and what's not, regardless of it's availability. Your barometer is swinging to the 'Rain' side, so heed that. You might be about to get wet if you disregard your feelings! When something is OK, we usually don't feel regret afterwards.

I think the best way to judge things online is to use the same judgement/common sense that you would use in real life. So, if having the experience in real life would work for you, if it's OK with you, then it might be OK online. Take chatting here. If we were available to you, say, in school at lunch, you'd probably be OK approaching us and hanging out. And with time, maybe even talk about stuff like this.

So, lets' look at your example. If you wouldn't be OK being naked or doing sexual things, in the same room, with a stranger (which is what camming and trading pics are), then it's probably an indication that it's not such a good thing to do online.

It's not about the anonymity, it's not about the technology, or the availability, or even your desire/curiosity (which are feelings), its about the activity. The determination should be based on the activity, b/c that's the part that causes the feelings, and it's the feelings that would cause the problem. The technology or the anonymity won't protect you from that. You might feel uneasy b/c what you're thinking of doing is basically having a sexual experience with a stranger. And when you strip away all the curiosity and anonymity, the feelings about doing that aren't so great.

Remember that simple mathematical rule, that you always do to one side of the equation what you you do to the other? Same here, except substitute the word 'online' for 'equation': If it's OK real time, then it's OK online. If not, then you probably shouldn't do it, regardless of it's availability, or your curiosity.

In your case, what's done is done, learn from the experience, and don't do it again. Feeling 'regret' should only serve as a warning about these kinds of activities in the future.

Sam really has got everything covered there +rep!!

HOWEVER! The internet cant be risky, you can get some really weird people who aren't actually who they say what they are or who they are.

[amIweird]

hey I used to do the same thing but I would do it with older guyz. I stopped, and you should too, but I just wanted to let u kno yur not alone