Do I need counceling for this?

[DaretoFallup]

I really haven't been through anything that bad, and i'm greatful to be lucky enough to not experience most of the things people at my age unfortunately do.

1. i was mentally and emotionally abused by my ex-step-dad for 8 years.
2. I remember every fight my mom and her ex had.
3. I can trust VERY few males.
4. I know deep inside my mom's bf is a great guy, but im afraid the same thing that happened with my mom's ex will happen.
5. I feel as if I have no dad. My dad and mom adopted me the day i was born. But my dad left when i was 6 months old. My dad is an alcoholic, and he has never tried to form a relationship with me even if I try, which i shouldn't have to.
6. I constantly beat myself up because, i hate who i am, i know i can do better.
7.I think all the time, im afraid someones leaning over my shoulder at this very moment, im afraid theres a rapist outside my window, now when i look at my brother all i see is blood red eyes steaming angry face. I can't be a kid, because i know the constant threats of danger. I'm afraid to go to sleep, because i dont want to die in my sleep. I'm afraid to go outside past dark, afraid I'll get murdered, raped, etc. I think about over 10 things at once, and it's hard to concentrate on one. I think danger, safety, happiness, sorrow, anger all at once, then my current activities. I can't stop thinking about the past and the bad times, im afraid they're right around the corner coming back to haunt me.


Should I ask my mom about counceling? cause now its hard to function normally without being scared

[The Batman]

I think maybe you should get counseling they are alot better at this than we are(except Sam maybe). Just go out and try to get some help and be sure and keep us updated.

[DaretoFallup]

ok, i'll talk to my mom in the morning.

[The Batman]

Why don't you do it now while it's on the top of your mind if you wait to long you might change your mind or simply forget.

[DaretoFallup]

cause I'm not sure if she's still awake, I'll go find out I guess.

Ok, I talked to my mom, and she said she'd make some phone calls tomorrow to find out whos registered, and to get me an appointment thank you for the fast reply :)

[Never_Forget]

I hope the councelling helps =]
And yes, I have just randomly joined this conversation, but nonetheless...

[DaretoFallup]

heh, np, i dont mind, sometimes i feel so alone, then i just get back on vt :)

[byee]

I think maybe you should get counseling they are alot better at this than we are(except Sam maybe). Just go out and try to get some help and be sure and keep us updated.

[email protected], I appreciate the acknowlegement (*blushes*).

Therapy is perhaps the greatest thing you'll ever dread having to do every week.

It's great to have someone who is there totally and only for you, who will listen and understand (although not always agree) with you, and most importantly, believe in who you are, as a person.

It also can be a dreadful thing because there's no where to hide from yourself in that room.

However, having THAT kind of relationship makes THAT kind of work worth it, the feeling you get is phenomenal when you figure out what your demons are and finally understand and slay them.


If you can master whatever it is that you fear, if you can deal effectively with those issues on your own or with the help of your parents or other caring people, and whatever it is that's going on inside doesn't interfere with your life and sense of well being, then you don't need therapy (please, don't call it 'counseling', Dr. Phil does 'counseling', real therapy is far different when it's done properly).

If, however, you can list the things that bother you and interfere as clearly and as detailed (and lengthy!) as you have, I think at least an initial eval. sounds like it might be in order. I'd suggest that when your mom makes the call, that she ask the therapist if they're 'interactive', you sound like you'd want someone who's going to talk a lot with you, not just listen and nod. And tell her if you prefer a guy or a girl therapist.

Good luck, let us know how it goes!

[DaretoFallup]

thanks Iamsam was waiting for that your posts=the best lol and ok my moms waiting for the therapist to call her back

[Sapphire]

Counseling refers to professional guidance in resolving personal conflicts and emotional problems. Counselors can help with most problems of everyday life - relationships with family, friends, marriage, partner or lover, school and career challenges and choices, personal growth, religious and spiritual questions, and so on.

Therapy is an abbreviation of Psychotherapy, meaning the treatment of psychological disorders or maladjustments. Professional treatment includes psychodynamic individual therapy, group therapy, family therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy.


The above definitions are just a guidline as to what to expect from the two differing services avaliable. However, it isn't always as clear-cut as this and professionals use the terms inter-changeably (sp?) because they are similar. It seems that you could benefit from counselling and therapy equally.

During your first few appointments (not just the first one because it can be a very unnerving thing to go through) you should be asking yourself whether you feel that they are the right therapist/counsellor for you. If you don't feel comfortable with them for whatever reason then get yourself another one. Once you have someone you can build a good rapport with then the rest should be more beneificial to you and that little bit easier.

[DaretoFallup]

wow, once again without vt id be lost in space, lol dig it deeper (interesting username btw) it would be a good idea to find the right person for me (ty) never woulda thought of that

[DaretoFallup]

sorry, You guys said to keep you updated though soo....
****UPDATE****

I went to see the therapist today and basicaly I was diagnosed with severe depression and now im on meds, also on meds for anxiety. have another appointment next Tuesday, and I like the therapist person, so hopefully she'll help me out with all this crap.

End of update.

[byee]

Well, good luck and keep us posted!