Parents did a bad job raising us?

[Hi i am jon]

alright i was just browsin some of the puberty fourms and then it got me thinking.....we have a lot of questions, and people who dont know about VT or any other site dont get to ask the questions unless they ask a parent...........but shouldn't our parents have tought us some of these things so we would not have to wonder........because there is a lot of questions....and that means parents are not teaching their kids enough about puberty :x it may be awkward but i think they should still teach a little more, like me for instance......i just learned all the stuff i know from watching my brother grow up, and assuming things....my mom never talked to me at all about growing up....
what do you guys think?

shouldn't our parents have tought us more?

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

no, i deliberately refused the sex talk from my parents

[Ravenous]

Yeah it would be extreemly awkward and annoying. I would much rather learn in my own way.

[kolte]

When I was 12 and my brother was 14, his friend came over and my mom overheard them talking about a porno and so that day she hearded us in the living room and told us that masturbation was ok as long as we did it in privacy and in our own space and she said that we would be going threw changes and that we could go to puberty 101 If we were worried about anything. It was disturbing but I guess it was a nessessary question.

[Whisper]

Meh i've never had a prob talkin bout sex, puberty, porn w/e

1 mum
1 dad
2 sisters
its all good

for years I thought PMS meant Putting up with Mens Shit

[redcar]

for years I thought PMS meant Putting up with Mens Shit

*shuders* pms wat a nasty group of words if ever i heard them

[moon_dance666]

friends are nice 2 talk 2... i like hearing theyre view points... sometimes
from my parents i would just get her way of whats right and wrong

[Hi i am jon]

When I was 12 and my brother was 14, his friend came over and my mom overheard them talking about a porno and so that day she hearded us in the living room and told us that masturbation was ok as long as we did it in privacy and in our own space and she said that we would be going threw changes and that we could go to puberty 101 If we were worried about anything. It was disturbing but I guess it was a nessessary question.

it should always be things like that.......but look at the puberty forums....parents should have gave their kids a way to know all this stuff....well at least some..........health in school does most the teaching i guess, but i always have bad expeirences with that........when i was in third grade there was this bus thing that we went on that tought us about the human body and how it will grow and all that, but it ended up they attempted to rape a girl......then when i was in 6th grade my health teacher was a pedophile, he would look down the girls shirts the whole period.......but BACK TO THE POINT lol, there should be more awkward momments like that.....i guess it would not be as awkward if it were son/father and mother/daughter.......but eh i dont know....i think they should have tought more

[kolte]

my father isnt here to teach me.

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

thats what schools are for

[///James///]

my friends and i never talk about sex, we always do inuendos tho! o and they call me gay all the time (fun!)

as for parents did a bad job raising us, i think puberty is quite past the stage of raising us, cos we are semi-independent to be honest.

[nwshc]

thats what schools are for
All the schools teach is shit.

Do not listen to the schools.

[///James///]

I feel my parents did a good job under the circumstances and difficulites they had with family.

I can talk to my parents about anything, but i dnt need to cos im fine as it is!

[Cable]

I suppose if your parents slowly taught you these things as yougrew up, yuo wuold feel more comfortable around them talking about it.

Howver I think that everybody says they can do a better job parenting than their own parents. Maybe we can, but I respect the choices my parents made.

[Hi i am jon]

I suppose if your parents slowly taught you these things as yougrew up, yuo wuold feel more comfortable around them talking about it.

Howver I think that everybody says they can do a better job parenting than their own parents. Maybe we can, but I respect the choices my parents made.

agreed....i dont think we can do a better job parenting our selves becasuse NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT, every way, your parents "raised you" if they were never there, its still raising you, you will grow up thinking how they were bad parents, which may be true but technically you built yourself off of their actions making them have just as much as part as raising you as you did, my mom is always at work and my dad is dead...i built myself off of hating my dad for dying......its because of him i am the way i am today although he wasn't really there..

but...still i think that would be a parents job to teach us about it that way if we had any questions like the majorty of us do we could ask them and not feel so awkward.........like i said before, if you dont know of VT you may not feel comfortable talking with your friends, your parents never talked about it, you may just have to wonder about everything, then if it IS somthing bad like testicular cancer you are just screwed.....so parents must talk about puberty and make their children feel ok about this stuff