best friend relationships

[scottyman]

so i am in love with one of my best friends and and she has no idea(or at least i think she doesnt ). and i have liked her ever since christmas time and i was just wondering do these relationships usually work out, because i dont want to jeperdize our friendship if we break up

[Oblivion]

Well, in my opinion the relationship would work very well, but then when/if you broke up, it would most likely ruin your friendship.

You could both promise that if you ever broke up that you would still be friends, but it still might not work out.

[Gumleaf]

well i have two opinions here and this is why. if i think with my brain, it tells me that its not a good idea because if things turn bad and you break up, it will mostl likely be the end of the friendship too. but if i think with my heart, it tells me to go for it, because it will make you happy and its a great feeling to be in a relationship with your best friend. now i can speak with some experience here. i'm currently in a relationship with my best friend. she has been my best friend for 2.5 yrs and we've been together for 4 months. right now we are very happy, in love and basically unseperable. but in saying that, it doesn't mean that this will last. so what you need to weigh up is whether its worth the risk of being very happy together, or the chance of losing her as a friend all together. only you can make that decision.

[Zan0ra]

Same thing with me. Unfortunatly she's secretly dating my other freind. I have to wait.

[byee]

This is an age old question, the 'what happens to my besty if it doesn't work out with her'? I think it's an irrelevant point, too.

Feelings are really powerful, and once you start experiencing someone differently, it's hard to go back, anyway, if you tell them or not.

So, you either hold onto these changed feelings and desires, which is really uncomfortable, or you take the risk and see what happens. What you might want to consider isn't so much the outcome, but the experience.

If you can tolerate the changed feelings in the context of the same relationship, fine, it's less risk, but also less opportunity.

[scottyman]

yeah i am kinda in the same ship as zanora, right now she is dating one of her friends... grrr
but its a long distance relationship and it will be a while before she brakes up with him so yeah

[Zan0ra]

well I hope things work out between you to soon. :)

[Vampir3Saliva]

You never really know if it will work out until you try it. If you guys have alot in common and communicate well, I see no reason why you two couldn't make it work if you connect well with each other. You may even stay friends if you break up. Alot of people do.

[the_guy_123]

Me and my best friend for 5 years are going out and its going good
i think if friends hook up it ill work because they already know everything so theirs nothing to hide

[jma94]

Well, I guess I'm on the other side of this ordeal. I've been best friends with this girl for four or so years, and now she tells me she's in love with me. ._.
It's a huge shock, but I felt the same. But we're not doing anything about it, since we don't want to ruin our friendship. You can't have someone else decide. You have to decide whether or not to tell her. If she feels the same, it'll get much more complex, unfortunately. But it might turn out to be an extremely good thing. :] And it might not. You have to decide if it's worth it.

[clueless]

I have the same problem, I plan to just tell the girl. I don't know how to say it though.

[foof1]

You'd have to be really lucky for a relationship from when you are a teen to last. The two of you would really have have to like each other. If you want to go ahead.