I need to ask this, do not think badly of me...

[curiousashley87]

"I know incest, or sex with family members, is generally wrong but is it really wrong if it is done between sisters?" I was asked this by a friend of mine who has an older sister. I need to know how to tell her the truth without hurting her but I am also curious about this...

[raiders rule]

Well, i wouldnt go up to her and say "thats sick", but you should firmly tell her that its not a good thing to do and that its wrong.

[byee]

Yes, the answer to your question is that from a psychological perspective, incest is always a very bad, very destructive thing, regardless of the genders of the participants.

Families 'work' because there are certain 'rules' that keep things safe and ensure the primary purpose of family life: The safety and well being of all members so that they can grow up with the skills they need to be productive members of our society (and also have good relationships with people of their choice later on).

So, things like emotional nurturance, support, limit setting, the teaching of basic social skills, etc., all fall under that category. Sexual needs, while everyone has them, are far more personal, and really matter most later in life when you have a suitable partner. So, their gratification by other family members is not essential, it violates the 'primary purpose' of families, it is outside the purpose of 'taking care of' other family members in a way to ensure their survival.

When family members cross that line, the result most often is a disturbance in issues like basic trust, a sense of violation, and a feeling of powerlessness, as people come to terms with the sense that what's happening isn't really very essential, nor important, but usually benefits only one, usually the older member.

[Zan0ra]

No its still not good idea. Things like that could possible trigger a chain reaction that could split your parents apart. anything sexual with your/between your siblings is wrong.