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AutumnDae
July 24th, 2008, 03:34 PM
...Are now like shunning me or something.

Is it weird that the person who used to call you probably 2 or 3 times a day doesn't call at all now? Or that she doesn't return texts, and if she does, she blows you off in them. How about not returning phone calls, or not picking up her cell at all?

That'd be my "best friend", fondly known as Lindsey. I don't know what I did, or didn't do for that matter. I've asked to hang out, go places and she basically won't talk to me. Okay, we have talked on the phone like twice since summer started. People lose a bit of contact over a long break from school, but not me and her. We aren't supposed to. We are supposed to talk every day. That's what happened before. That's what should happen now. I call her almost every day, and she says "Yea, I'm about to eat. I'll call you back in like an hour." Hour comes by, and passes. Then another, and another, and another. Until I am getting ready to go to bed. She is usually up until 2 or 2:30, so I text her some nights. "Hey, what's up?" Don't mention the fact that she didn't call me back. "Oh nothing. I was just about to go to bed. I fell asleep on the couch watching t.v, goodnight." I sit there in awe. This is not the Lindsey I know. Falling asleep at 9:30 on the couch? That only happens when she is sick? So what the hell is going on?

I don't know what is going on with any of my friends.

Well let's give a little background info before I go any further. Not too much though. In my "group" of friends, there are 7 of us. Within this group, there are a few more groups. I'll name the 7, so I can use names from now on. There is Angela, Hanna, Chloe, Lindsey, Cathy, Camille and me.

I don't talk to Angela that much. Don't ask why, she ignores me most of the time. Hanna and I are close for a while, and then we drift off. She's the type of person who I can only take so much of. Chloe and I are eh. Close, not close. Whatever. Lindsey, see above paragraph. My mom often calls us "attached at the ear" because we talked on the phone so much. See the past tense of the word talk. Cathy, what to say about her. She will get her own paragraph. Camille, nothing is wrong with her.

I have a lot more friends than them, but they are the only ones that are causing me trouble.

Cathy, her own paragraph. She would want this. She's rich, and very snobby sometimes. (Talking to Camille before class started one day) "Cute shirt Camille, where is it from?" "Thanks, I got it from Aero last weekend."
*disgusted face* Oh. I didn't know anything that nice could come from that store." I then glanced down at basically my whole outfit that came from that store. My jeans, I didn't see anything wrong with. I had gotten a few compliments on them that morning already. My shirt, a henley that she had said she liked that last time I wore it. Camille gave me a look like "Woah. Bitch, much?" We haven't hung out since November. Her birthday party. I had spent about 4 hours searching for the perfect gift for her. Spending my own money, so I could get her something nice. She opened it up, (It was a CD that she had been wanting, a shirt, and a pair of Victoria's Secret crop sweatpants) and said "Oh...thanks Autumn" with no enthusiasm. Whatever. I'm kind of done with her. She hasn't called. Barely talked to me at school. Only when she needed answers from homework.

So is that what I am? A walking homework hotline? Lindsey asked for answers a lot too. And Angela and Chloe for French during lunch. (They had it after lunch, I had it before.) Hanna needed answers a lot too. I feel like crap. I want to be their friends. It's been the 7 of us. Well 6 until Camille moved here in 3rd grade. Since first grade. Why all of the sudden am I being left out? Everyone else is hanging out with each other. I'm not included. Did I do something? Say something wrong? I don't think so.

I don't even know what I am asking. Just wanted to get this off my chest I guess. I feel a lot better now that it is out in the open.

jakieboi
July 24th, 2008, 03:47 PM
wow thats some long post.... only got past the 1st bit :P got bored no ofencce.... yeh i know how u feel i havent seen all my mates in 2-3 weeks and when i rang he the other day he sed no1 likes me up there any more (where we hang about) so i just started going 2 the gym but thats me :P

MrPinnick17
July 24th, 2008, 05:23 PM
WTF, first off don't let that nasty bitch Cathy make you feel inferior. Aero has great stuff, it's really priced great too. I would have tore her down, but I'm a guy but trying to be in a girls point of view. Your right, you don't need her, but because she's in your group it can make things a little complicated. Like if you don't talk to her, or your mean to her then she might have a get together with the people you call your friends and you get left out.

I kinda feel bad now I kind of blow off my friend chase. I mean he was my friend but now we don't really hang out in the same group, he sort of back-stabbed us but it was by accident. I blow him off and lie to him so much I feel pretty bad now.

But back to you starting from the top with Lindsay it seems like since she's in your group along with Cathy it would make since that maybe Cathy told Lindsay to stop hanging out with you. This is just a guess, but it seems logical in my eyes.

I would confront Lindsay first before anything, maybe she's having family issues and can't really talk or connect with you like she used too. Talking to her about what's going on, and why your not as close as you used to be could help. She might just need someone to talk to but doesn't know how to reach anybody without sounding too selfish. Just be straight foward, like, "hey girl why is it that our friendship seems a bit disconnected lately" or something like that. Your a girl and I'm not and you know your friend better than me.

We all have ways of saying the right thing and getting people to say exactly what you what them to say, it seems a little sociopathic but you gotta get to the bottom of this.

In the meantime I'd call Angela and Chloe and see what's up. Maybe you guys can have a girls night, the three of you and maybe talk about what's been going on casually. If you feel like you've been left out of some things they have been doing that they're telling you about, just jokingly be like "oh well where was I?"

I don't wanna be blunt, but I have friends that I would really only be friends with inside of school. I mean yeah if I see them at the grocery I'll be like hey but I'd never ask them to hangout with me and my buds. I don't think this is your situation though you say you've been friends since 1st grade and there is no reason why you can't all keep being friends.

Do something quick though, I lost a lot of friends in the course of a week when I thought that because I was hanging out with cooler people I didn't need them anymore. And now I think about the times we used to have and how I really wish I could just text one of them up and so the things that we used to do.