I am really starting to freak...

[rockrxon]

Okay, so I just can't take it anymore.
I know exactly why i am "gay" or "bi".
I mean, I have done countless hours of research & I rly dnt know how to get rid of it.
& plz dnt tell me I cant because I KNOW I can.
It isn't something your born with.
It's something that happens.
& it's been scientifically proven.
http://www.narth.com/docs/hom101.html

I had a rly rly rough childhood & I lived w/ my mom & sister till I was 10 years old.
Lately, I have started to feel more hetro [because I have been hanging out with guys. for the last 12 years I hug out with all girls], but I am still physically attracted to guys! & I hate it! Sometimes, I can barely stand to look in the mirror because I hate what I am. I mean, I dnt care if other people are gay [more power to ya] but I mean, I hate that I am. It is just somthign I can't accept myself as. & Idk what to do anymore. I have emotional attraction towards girls. Just not a very strong phystcal attraction! How do I change this! I NEED to change tis. I can't live as a homosexual. I am serious. I am not being stupid, or messign sround, or being over dramamtic. I CANNOT do it. HOW can I change myself?!

[orange123]

how old are you

[NextToNormal]

you can't change yourself. you may not like the fact that you are gay but you're going to have to accept it. look, your sexuality does not define who you are...it only defines who you like. i understand that you are having a rough time with this, trust me, i do. but you are going to have to stop trying to change yourself. i know that its going to be hard to do, but you're gonna have to stop. the sooner you stop trying to change what you can't, the happier you will be and this will all be easier for you to accept. trying to live your life as something you're not is only going to make you miserable. so, do you really want to be miserable for the rest of your life or are you going to step up and accept yourself?? if you dont/cant accept yourself, how can you expect others to do it too?

[BlackenedSilver]

you can't change yourself. you may not like the fact that you are gay but you're going to have to accept it. look, your sexuality does not define who you are...it only defines who you like.

I agree with this. But I also have read that study and what they are saying that becoming gay in later life has something to do with how you grew up, no one has been able to see a common factor with every single gay.
So basically unless you can find what happened in your childhood and then go back in time and change it, there is nothing you can do about it. (Btw I dont actually believe that theory that is just what I got from reading the study) So the best thing to do is just accept who you are, because I think being gay is a great thing, because you are not like everyone else and I love that!!
Hope this helps xxx

[byee]

(he's 13).

OK, no lectures, no unwanted advice or thoughts about your age or your certainty about your conclusions.

What you would need to do is get yourself into therapy and talk all this out with a good therapist. They could help you understand all this and help you figure it out and change what can be changed based on a more thorough understanding of it.

[manicou_juice]

I believe that it's how you grew up...when i was younger I used to like girls, but now l like guys.... guess it's because when my sister was born I as a little jealous of her getting all the attention, and my brother used tease me alot when i was younger, and then after i went to an all boys school, and my parents were really protective and never went to parties or wet out, so i was only exposed to boys...

[rockrxon]

(he's 13).

OK, no lectures, no unwanted advice or thoughts about your age or your certainty about your conclusions.

What you would need to do is get yourself into therapy and talk all this out with a good therapist. They could help you understand all this and help you figure it out and change what can be changed based on a more thorough understanding of it.


Thank you.
Bahaha.
I dnt see how though.
because my parent's dont know.
So how would I get help?

[Oblivion]

You could try your school counselor
as long as it isn't illegal they are pretty much sworn to secrecy.
They could get fired or sued if they said something they shouldnt have

[Mr. Smithers]

I really don't know why you won't accept youself for who you are. I think that is what makes everyone unique. You should be happy for who you are. Wether you are gay or straight or whatever you are attracted to. If you keep having all of these thoughts into your head, then you are just going to be angry and confused all of your life. And you would not want to live your life. What I would do, I would just picture myself as being happy with the thought of being gay. Right now, you are picturing yourself that being gay is some sort of punishment that you are working your way out of.

Therapy would also be good. But thats if you really want to do it. Also, if you are even willing to share that information. Maybe you aren't ready to come out yet. But thats a whole different ball game. For now, you just need to accept yourself for what you are. And you will be happier when you accomplish that.

[chris__batman]

You cant change. All of these mission groups promising to Straighten out the Gays, dont actually work, they target the gay kids that ''want to change'' and basically depress the kids into believing that there's something wrong with them. These companies are pure EVIL! You can try talk it out with a therapist, but again, what you have to know, is that there is NO changing who you are. Its impossible. A Gay guy can date girls, sure he can, but he wont be happy with them. Think about it like this, would you be HAPPIER with a boy or a girl? Could you devistate your wife by one day telling her your GAY, and only then you could come to terms with it? What would that do to her? To you? Try accept it as who you are man, because being gay doesn't effect your life, it just changes who you go to bed with each night (when you grow up of course :P)

[rockrxon]

I didnt want any replies like that.
If you arent going to help me try & do what I am asking then plz do not reply yo the topic. Thanks

& honestly, I can see myself with girls for the rest of my life. & I am happy dating them. But I dnt wanna be attracted to guys. at all, so I am going to see a councilor.

[hobo]

i'm not sure if you can change your sexuality (if you really are gay). being bi would be fine, if you don't want to just don't do anything with guys. although there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. just try not to think of guys sexually, and when you do STOP. think of the hottest girl you've ever seen/known. and then think of her naked or in some sexual situation. if you look at porn, never ever ever never look at gay porn or even straight porn. only look at lesbian or female solos. try not to see anything like naked guys or even half naked guys. distance yourself from anything sexual and male. decide which girl you like and hang out with her or ask her out. not sure if this will work, but try if you want to. and there's absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. i'm actually bi myself lol. also, where do you live? cause whether you live in like the bible belt or california makes a big difference.

[raiders rule]

Listen, accept who you are, no one in their right mine should judge you. I mean whats so bad about being gay, i myself am not gay, but still i see no problem, like someone said above, it doesnt define you as a person

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i am sorry for the way you feel but you cant change the way you are is just something you need to accept your self for who you are i am sorry if you dont like what you are but you are what you are good luck

[poolkmnhy]

hay i say why do u have to labels on it u might be gay or straght but insted o fighting it embrass it

[Medical Kid]

dont hate your self for that man, we are only truly beautiful when we are ourselves, theres nothing wrong with being bi or gay.

[CuriousCharlie]

I see where your coming from and some may take this as bad advice but...
If you absolutely cannot accept that you may be gay/bisexual, then as for now; and I cannot believe I am saying this, sometimes you need to wait. You cannot change who you are, that's a given. I'm sorry but it is not possible.

The best thing to do is to continue on the rough path bravely and talk it out with your parents/friend. Small steps.

Here's the part that I wouldn't normally recommend.
If you absolutely Cannot go on with accepting this, you will always have this problem and maybe you just can't right now. If you won't tell your parents or a friend, then wait until your old enough to talk to a psychiatrist discreetly.
If you go back to playing the role as being straight, you will be stuck in the eternal loop that is self-regret and frustration. In your situation, if you play the actuality that you are gay/bisexual you will trudge through a rough path or frustration and possible depression ONCE only to find yourself pure and renewed at the end.
If you stay in the middle, you will likely tear yourself apart from frustration unless your mind is calm and patient.
Once you have talked it out with someone willing to help, it can help you to make the right decision.
Anybody who feels that this post is unwanted/unneeded please delete and/or PM me. I don't want to offend any person or any of the rules.
This was all my opinionated advice.

[Trademarked]

it doesnt matter who you go to, almost 100% of them will tell you to accept it. you have absolutely no reason to not want to be gay.

[CuriousCharlie]

Well,
You shouldn't have a reason to not want to be gay.
Many people, however unfortunate, do.
Either way Trade's right, you can't escape yourself.

[justonequestion]

I dont think its something that happens, for me, an attraction to guys has always been there. the choice is how you choose to deal with it, by accepting it, pretending it just never happened, or forcing yourself to be someone your not. Or going completely insane. i s'pose that could happen too

[justonequestion]

I didnt want any replies like that.
If you arent going to help me try & do what I am asking then plz do not reply yo the topic. Thanks

& honestly, I can see myself with girls for the rest of my life. & I am happy dating them. But I dnt wanna be attracted to guys. at all, so I am going to see a councilor.

Your just like me. You came here expecting to hear what you wanted to hear, that you're normal or you can get over this in a heartbeat. But the fact is, a counselor may be someone good just to talk to, but don't be expecting any miracles.

[Axellance]

justonequestion, in the future please do not double post use the edit feature if you feel you have something to add, thank you.

op, you cant fix something thats not broken being bi is not something you can change. I believe the research you are reading is incorrect as i have seen countless articles that show scientific links between homosexuality and genes. I know that is not what you want to hear but I'm sorry that is the truth.