a relationship without sex

[Yasmine]

is it possible to have a relationship with a guy that doesn't involve sex? i'm not interested in sex. i don't want sex even after i get srs. i just want hugs and kisses. sex will violate me. i want a guy who respects that.

[Sugaree]

I'm not sure if you can really get a guy that's only interested in hugs and kisses. That's almost impossible to find.

[Gumleaf]

girls puberty - relationships


i think it would be difficult to be in a long term relationship without the need for sexual contact. there are nice guys out there who would respect you and respect your opinion on sex, but if the relationship was long term, then i think it would become difficult for them not to want to get involved sexually. but thats just this guy's opinion, i could be wrong?

[Sage]

I'm not sure if you can really get a guy that's only interested in hugs and kisses. That's almost impossible to find.

Hi. Sorry I'm taken. :x

Ehh... All I can say is, just keep looking. As rare as it is there are still a lot of very nice guys out there who do care for romance and not seduction, you just have to be patient. If you're a good person, nice guys will spot you three miles away in a crowd of thousands.

[raiders rule]

you know its very rare but its not impossible, keep looking, you will find him!

[LeRoy_Fan]

As said before, rare, but not impossible to find.

Just use alot of discrestion in choosing a guy to stick with.

[Oblivion]

girls puberty - relationships


i think it would be difficult to be in a long term relationship without the need for sexual contact. there are nice guys out there who would respect you and respect your opinion on sex, but if the relationship was long term, then i think it would become difficult for them not to want to get involved sexually. but thats just this guy's opinion, i could be wrong?

I agree with Stephen
Its fairly hard to find, unless its a quick relationship. Also it depends on the age. If your 18, a lot of guys are 'finally ready' and want to go out and have sex. But if your 13 or 14, i doubt that many guys would be in it for the sex.

[Underground_Network]

There are people out there that are willing to do anything for someone they love. If you find someone you truly love and that truly loves you back, and you tell them you don't want sex, they shouldn't want to break things off. Having a long term relationship last without any sex could be tough, but its not impossible, and if your love grows, you seriously never know. Right now you may think of sex as a violation, but in the future you may not think that way. There are many guys out there [myself included] that would never pressure a girl into sex, and many of those same guys are willing to hold off on sex for a long time, especially if they're with the girl of their dreams/the girl they really love.

[Rutherford The Brave]

is it possible to have a relationship with a guy that doesn't involve sex? i'm not interested in sex. i don't want sex even after i get srs. i just want hugs and kisses. sex will violate me. i want a guy who respects that.

Your afraid of getting a sec change operation? Due to having sex? yes it is possible to have a relationship without sex. SRS stands for Sex Reassignment Surgery thats for future refrences.

[Underground_Network]

I thought srs was just a shortened form of the word "serious". Wow, I didn't realize that, but still, what we said does still stand, it's all true.

[Nihilus]

Yes Its possible. Alot of relationships are sexual but if you tell him that you don't want to have sex, If he really respects you he will not force anything on you.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I thought srs was just a shortened form of the word "serious". Wow, I didn't realize that, but still, what we said does still stand, it's all true.

At the beginning I thought it was that too, still I don't understand text talk grammar it makes me angry :(

[mr.sexy_bomb]

yeah i like relationships that r just hugs and kisses and not just sex. i like romance in a realation actually LOVE someone that will stay with you no matter that may be is because i am more of a romantic guy

[Yasmine]

Your afraid of getting a sec change operation? Due to having sex? yes it is possible to have a relationship without sex. SRS stands for Sex Reassignment Surgery thats for future refrences.

i want the operation only for my own happiness, but it's also for my best interest. if i was with a guy pre op, and he found out about my genitals, he would probably leave me. sex is just something i'm plainly not interested in. it doesn't turn me on to think about genital contact.

[Maverick]

Maybe you're better off being single always and just having friends *shrug*

Anything is possible but your preferences put you at a major disadvantage to finding someone.

[kerry]

like Maverick said maybe you should stay single
but like me & alex
alex told me nowt bout sex or anything in that sort of thing
but keep looking for that one special boy

[Rutherford The Brave]

Are you afraid of the fact that you might need labiaplasty or fo another reason. Because either way I suggest you do not go through with surgery.

[DarkWingedAngel]

u can get into a relationship without sex but it is realy hard if u wan't a long term relationship but it is not impossable

[byee]

I'm glad Gregory recognized what SRS means, your being TG really changes the focus of this question.

I think you should find someone to talk all this out with, there's a lot on your mind. I think when you are more comfortable with who you are (regardless of the physical componentry), much of your other concerns might change, too. The issue to me is getting more comfortable with who you are as a person, i think there's too much emphasis on your gender here. It's not about gender (or sex), i think it's about you.

Why don't you find a good therapist to talk with? I think the support and the understanding will allow you to explore many of these issues you have with yourself and better help you understand what it is that you're looking for.

[Antares]

I disagree. I think you will be able to find a guy that will respect your wishes. I mean MOST guys are totally sex driven but there still are a few that aren't. However I think that it would be easier to find these guys later in life. Like after college. Then they are more mature and the hormones aren't raging anymore.

Good luck.

[Yasmine]

Are you afraid of the fact that you might need labiaplasty or fo another reason. Because either way I suggest you do not go through with surgery.

why do you suggest that i don't do it? labiaplasty is a different kind of surgery. this is how srs is done. http://content.answers.com/main/content/img/galeSurgery/gesu_03_img0192.jpg

[Dragon Fire]

Ok this is coming from a guy here.. A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX IS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP.. it is good because then the guy wont feel like he can get it when he wants it.. ive had 1 gf and i didnt have sex with her and i was with her just earlier this year for like 4 months.. and im 17.. she didnt want sex and neither did I.. there are some guys who don't want sex.. u just have to find them.

If ur in a serious relationship then both ppl should be able to wait until the other is 100% ready for it and not try to pressure the other into it..

[Sapphire]

Don't worry too much about this. Any guy worth being with in the long term is going to respect you and your wishes. If you never find yourself able to have sex while being emotionally alright with it then any guy worth building a future with would respect that. You shouldn't feel the need to restrict yourself to just having friends and never a boyfriend either. It is not a choice you have to make.

Trust me, I have been told similar things about restricting myself to just friends and none of it is true. Find someone who loves and respects you. That is the way to a truly special relationship.

May I ask why do you see it as a violation?

[Zan0ra]

There are a lot of people out there who take sex as requirement in a relationship. There are also a few who will stay with someone because they love them very much and honestly dont care what gentiles they have. *pansexual I think?* There are over 6 billion people in this world. There is definatly going to be someone who will love you, not for what you have, but for what you are.! There are some real jerks out there who once they figure out your a m2f transgender. They will leave.

I really hate those people.... Like I have said before. There are loads of fish in the see and one of them will love you no matter what you look like or have. Keep searching. Don't give up hope. Good luck.

[Requin]

Zan's got it right!
You don't need to worry about things like that now. Worry about something else, like boob size or exam results :-)
You shouldn't feel pressurised into having sex in a relationship if you don't want to and vice versa, and that's all i'm gonna say on the matter.

[Rutherford The Brave]

The reason why she doesn't want to have sex, and you guys seem to be ignoring it. Is because she has male genetials, I advised her not to have the surgery but she can if she wants. That's why she asked if she could have a relationship without sex.

[The Batman]

Sex is a healthy part of any strong relationship. It can do two things make it stronger or destroy it. It all depends on you. Now the question is can there be a relationship without sex but I think the answer is yes, but only if it's not that strong of a relationship. When you truly love someone you will want to give them everything, I just think sex is unappealing to you right now. When you find Mr. Right trust me you will want to have sex.

[Sapphire]

The reason why she doesn't want to have sex, and you guys seem to be ignoring it. Is because she has male genetials, I advised her not to have the surgery but she can if she wants. That's why she asked if she could have a relationship without sex.

Or we were acknowledging that the question she wants answered has nothing to do with whether or not she should have the operation and that it is about whether sex is an essential part of a relationship.

[Yasmine]

even when i do have a vulva. i don't want sex pressured on me. there is more ways to get turned on. having sex has risks, that i don't want to face.

[Mr. Smithers]

There are any other ways. Sex isn't the answer just remember that. Don't feel upset or ashamed that you don't want to have sexual relations with that person. If they can't accept that then they aren't a person that you would be interested in.

I'm sure you will find a replacement and I know you will. Because there are many other ways.

Having sex does have risks and I agree, and you are making the right choice for yourself not to engage in sex right now.

[Zan0ra]

Can someone just clarify this for me. When you get srs does the whole womb get put in aswell.?

[Yasmine]

Can someone just clarify this for me. When you get srs does the whole womb get put in aswell.?

that's not possible.

[Zan0ra]

i'm not sure but apparently they are trying to do that. Almost nothing is impossible.

[Requin]

A good point but a magnaminous one :-)
I can't beleive that's true, can you find us some scientist guy writing about it in an essay or something?
I'd like to know. Thanks:-)

[Zan0ra]

Of course I haven't read everything but this is the best I could find...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_pregnancy

[Requin]

That makes it clearer. Thanks Ryan :-)

[Zan0ra]

Np. Thanks for calling me ryan.

[byee]

Let me jump in here.

Yasmine, people in committed, loving relationships have sex for 2 reasons: The first is that it feels good, and the second is that it's a way of sharing emotional closeness.

There are other ways of gratifying both needs, and in the context of that loving relationship, couples usually work that out so that both partners get what they need, and feel OK about it.

You're a special person, Yasmine, you'll just have to be extra careful who you decide to open yourself up with and share yourself with. If you choose well, there won't be a problem.

[Yasmine]

Of course I haven't read everything but this is the best I could find...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_pregnancy

the ability to conceive a baby isn't what makes you a woman. there's lots of women in the world, who can't conceive, and they are women like all others. i'm not worried about that. i'm not fertile now, so it's not going to be a loss for me.

[Vampir3Saliva]

There are very few possibilities out there, but there are some guys out there who will respect your wishes. You could find a guy who is also a Virgin, and those usually want to wait as well. You'll find yourself a nice guy, so don't worry about it.
I've had troubles myself, but I've met some who respect my wishes. It's not impossible to find.

[Attax]

Here is the way I will put it. You will never find a guy not interested in sex. No not sometimes never, never (unless he is asexual which is rare, but then you wouldn't be dating him now would you?). WHy? Because everyone is interested in sex. Now what matters is wether he acts upon it or not. Like me and my girlfriend, we are both sexually attracted to each other but we wouldn't dare actually have sex before we get married.
You won't find a guy not interested in sex, unless he hasn't hit puberty, it is just natural hormones. You just have to find a guy who won't act upon it, a guy who is attracted but wants to wait. Because if you really found a guy not interested in having sex with you then what do you think things would be like if you got married?

[Zan0ra]

Your wrong. There are people who just aint into it. There are also *like you said* people who are into it but will wait.

I would know because i'm one of those people.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Here is the way I will put it. You will never find a guy not interested in sex. No not sometimes never, never (unless he is asexual which is rare, but then you wouldn't be dating him now would you?). WHy? Because everyone is interested in sex. Now what matters is wether he acts upon it or not. Like me and my girlfriend, we are both sexually attracted to each other but we wouldn't dare actually have sex before we get married.
You won't find a guy not interested in sex, unless he hasn't hit puberty, it is just natural hormones. You just have to find a guy who won't act upon it, a guy who is attracted but wants to wait. Because if you really found a guy not interested in having sex with you then what do you think things would be like if you got married?

Your definatly wrong. Some guy are not interested in sex, because some of them like me know that Sex is a relationship killer. Sure they have the tthought about having it, but they know that they can't have sex until both parties are ready otherwise it would be rape. You also have to remember that sex is a part of a relationship, but you can only truly be interested if you've had it before; because if you haven't your only fantasizing.

[venom832]

Yea there are guys out there you just have to take your time and dont rush it. Like im the same way i like a girl who is like that because i want to build a connection based on our feelings for each other. I want to be able to possibly love her. I dont want our realationship to build just on a sex. Thats why i havent had it yet. Sometimes if a guys really into you they will change there ways for you and wait. It all depends on the person and how serious you are wanting to become with them

[Doctor Fate]

Sex is not a dire need for me when I am in a relationship... I mean, sure, the desire is there, it is for everybody, but I feel I can just as easily have a great relationship with someone by distracting ourselves doing other fun (non-sexual) things together when we've got free time. :)

[Evermore]

It depends on the guy. Honestly, when I start a relationship the furthest thing from my mind is sex. But I could see how everyone else is saying if the relationship lasts a long while I could see how it might come up. Although like said before If he really really loved you he could get by without sex. But it is very very rare.

[IAMWILL]

Please don't post in threads over 2 weeks old, they died for a reason.
thanks, :locked: