HELP NEEDED(not life threating)

[raiders rule]

:cool::confused:I swear this is the most bitter/sweet thing EVER. I mean im a 13 year old guy and basically what the problem is, my friends SISTER. I seriously go over to his house just as much if not more for her than him. I mean shes 16, we play around and mess around and my friend gets a little upset at us. He calls her a hor and tells me to keep it in my pants. I think he is overreacting, i mean shes 16, shes really not going to go far or anything with me, even if she acts like it, i mean, its just playin around, oh ya, im the same way with one of her friends and we act the same way, I mean my friends acting like shes gonna have sex with me or something, what do you guys think, thanks i would appreciate. I really think he overreacts, i mean he acts like she annoys him so much when apparently he cares a little, i mean i kinda feel a little guilty over this but she said the other day on the phone she likes me more than her own brother, we talk on the phone late at night:yeah::(

[Patchy]

This belongs in relationships and dating

puberty for boys --> relationships and dating.

[NextToNormal]

ok, youre 13...why are you messing around with a 16 year old?? i know you said you guys are just playing or whatever, but because she is 16, its a tad wrong. but not only the age thing, she's your friends sister. i can see why he's getting annoyed...you are supposed to be at his house hanging out with him, not fooling around with his sister. my friends would feel the same way if i was at their house for them but fooling around with their 20 year old brothers. ya know what i mean?
i dont think its right that he called her a whore over it, but there are certain lines that shouldnt really be crossed. i mean, theres no problem if you and your friends sister are friends as long as there is nothing more that would make you guys more than just friends.

[byee]

I can understand you're being attracted to your friends sis, and enjoying being near her and all. And the age diff here isn't an issue b/c you're not doing anything, just a little flirting, and a whole lot of fantasizing. And there's much more to fantasize about with a 16 y/o!

But, you're not taking into consideration your friend's experience, and his feelings. She's 'just' his sister, they live together, it's no big deal to him, b/c he doesn't see her as sexual. And, he invites you over to be with him, you're his friend. So, when you flirt with her, you're distracted, and he (rightfully) resents that.

Remind him that he's your friend, that you really like him, and try to keep a lid on the flirting.

[Never_Forget]

ok, youre 13...why are you messing around with a 16 year old?? i know you said you guys are just playing or whatever, but because she is 16, its a tad wrong. but not only the age thing, she's your friends sister. i can see why he's getting annoyed...you are supposed to be at his house hanging out with him, not fooling around with his sister. my friends would feel the same way if i was at their house for them but fooling around with their 20 year old brothers. ya know what i mean?
i dont think its right that he called her a whore over it, but there are certain lines that shouldnt really be crossed. i mean, theres no problem if you and your friends sister are friends as long as there is nothing more that would make you guys more than just friends.

Oh, but I disagree. If they actually love each other, who's right is it to stand in the way and say no?
Lets assume that they DO have a sexual relationship and they're charged or whatever. I say you should fuck the police. Do what you want pal, nobody can stop you. If you wanna mess around with his sister and his sister wants to mess around with you.. I'm not saying it's right or anything, but if you choose to then nobody has the right to say no, because they don't control you. Nobody does.

[raiders rule]

i dunno its really hard not to flirt with her when shes playing around with me, and oh yeah we dont have a sexual relationship, but its not like i dont pay any attention to my friend, i mean, i cant help it that she likes me more than her brother.

[Sage]

Lets assume that they DO have a sexual relationship and they're charged or whatever. I say you should fuck the police.

No pun intended. OH I'm so dirty.

i mean, i cant help it that she likes me more than her brother.

That's kind of arrogant. In all seriousness I think you should just banter instead of flirt. Bantering is pretty much the same thing, except you and the other person find it much more amusing because you know it's not serious at all.

[byee]

Self control, my friend, self control. You're over there to hang out with your (guy) friend. Remember that.

[raiders rule]

I try, i try! dont get me wrong, its not like i ignore my friend, like sometimes she will come into hs room and start playin with me then i "play" back then we start laughing, giggling then he gets mad. Ya your right i was kinda being arrogant about his sister likin me more, i should have said and handled it better

[byee]

It IS hard, all that self control! But, remember that 1) you're there for HIM, not her, 2) She should know better than to interrupt you guys, and, 3) she's playing with you, she's teasing you, which isn't a very nice thing to do.

Ignore her, say "Hi!", then go back to doing whatever it was you were doing, and if she continues, ask her to stop.

What she's doing isn't right, she's toying with you.

[dope]

i understand she prob really hot and all and i dont blame u but she is 16 and ur 13 if its her thats her but if u r persading her to do it with you its worng i mean its up to you and ur friend is not over reacting hes just tryin to keep ur friendship togehter and make sure his sis dont et hurt

[DarkWingedAngel]

when u say she plays around with u and u play back
like in what way do u play

[raiders rule]

wresting, jumpin on each other, shit like that

[DarkWingedAngel]

do u show her things (if u no what i mean)

[Sage]

do u show her things (if u no what i mean)

Uhhh. What do you mean? o_o;

[DarkWingedAngel]

if he shows her things like his boy parts

[raiders rule]

umm, ya, what do you mean?

[dudesweet101]

Dudes She Likes You!

[Vampir3Saliva]

Tell your friend to mind his own business. It's not his place to say what you do with other people, and if it bothers him that's too bad. There's not much you can do about it. It's your life, and you can control yourself.

[Zan0ra]

Well. Playing around with her is one thing. And enjoying it is another. Of course its hard not to, would you say this is just a phase. Are you in love with her? It's not really your brothers place to say anything regarding the matter.