heartbroke/new girlfriend!?

[hardcore-smile]

so heres the thing, my boyfriend who i have been dating for 9 months, (lets call him phil) well phil was hanging with two girls "sarah" and "sally" and then he got "turned on" by them, and did some shanawa in his pants. and i heard about this and got pretty upset, so it kinda slipped out when i said "its over" so now me and him have been broken up for 6 days, and he has no more feelings for me anymore, like not even the tinest bit, and i still love phil, like i cry myself to sleep every night, and i can't sleep anymore, because once i turn my light out i think about him and start crying, and i can't fall asleep, but i've told him all my feelings and that i wish i could take our break up back and stuff, but phil doesn't feel the same way. And phil has been acting like a jerk latley, like i told him everything and all he said was "thats nice" i mean he never used to be like that, he used to be this sweet kid, and nice, and lovable. But now, i don't even no what has happend/gotten into him. But now he has a new girlfriend, and apparently he has "fallen in love" with her, but they have only been dating for 1 day, LMFAO 13 year olds make me laugh, but anyways, i still love him so much, and i was wondering if you could tell me a way to get him back, to realize that i'm the one for him. Like tell me what to say to him or what to do :)
thank you SOOOOO much, i reallllllyyy apprieciate it. : )

[Rutherford The Brave]

It really falls upon you. Sounds like he really doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Sorry but you just have to remember, there are plenty of guys out there. I can say that he wasn't going to be your only boyfirend. Theres always going to be someone out there for you, still that guy doesnt deserve a wonderful girl like you if he let's two girls stick their hands down his pants; while he is going out with you. Plus don't let him win, tell him that he is the ass for cheating on you, and that he should learn that the word "No" has great power to it. Hope that helped.

[hardcore-smile]

he didn't cheat on me, by shawana i mean he cummed his pants because the 2 girls where stripping in front of him.

[byee]

Shawana, huh? If you spend some time in these parts I think you'll notice that so many guys find that pretty irrestible. Especially if it's caused by girls stripping naked in front of them.

I don't think there's much you can do here to 'get him back', and I'm not really sure you should try. Clearly, what he did wasn't Ok with you (I don't blame you, btw), which is why you ended it. Now, you're having second thoughts, not so much b/c 'Shawana' is suddenly acceptable to you, but b/c you're having trouble letting go. That's a lousy reason to want somebody back, you know: So you don't have to confront your own bad feelings of loss and deal with them. People have been known to get involved..........and stay involved.............with people who aren't really very good for them simply b/c they can't let go.

Everyone survives loss, so will you. Get some support from trusted friends, eat some ice cream, take extra good care of yourself, and it will pass. And, when it does, you'll be ready to find someone who has better control over their shawana.

[sabotaged111]

I think you owe it to yourself to get over him, i bet youre a great person and will soon get a new boyfriend, life isnt easy, especially when it comes to boyfriends/girlfriends. I guess the best you can do is wait it out or set your mind on somethin else, and good luck!

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I agree with everyone so far; and I'm gonna give it to you straight: he doesn't deserve you loving him. You need to move on and forget about this guy; if he was your first "serious" boyfriend I know it's hard, but you have a lifetime left to find tons of guys that I can guarantee are better than he is. Look at it this way; he was unfaithful to you, no matter how you spin it if he actually was comitted to you he would have left the room or defused the situation before people got naked! And after you told him "it's over" I can guarantee you he was glad; he didn't want anything special from you in the first place, and this made it easier for him to just forget you and persue those other two girls. If you think those 9 months meant something they obviously don't mean a thing to him; he forgot all about you INSTANTLY.

He doesn't deserve you; more importantly YOU don't deserve shallow, two-faced people like him. He's not worth your time; the next guy on from him will prove to be twice the man he could ever be. Be lucky you got out of this relationship before it stretched to years in length, then you'd really be stuck in this teenage phase where attraction is "true love"; he's proven it true himself by saying this about a girl he's known for 1 DAY. That just goes to show you how fickle he is, and how quickly he can just pick up a new person to use and throw away; you'll see him do it again I promise you.

[stewart]

REMEMBER, YOU'RE NOT ALONE. Do remember that most people have been there. Very few of us get out of adolesence without a number of stabs to the heart - and for some of us - those "stabs" were a frequent part of our young adult years. So, you're not alone. It's part of being a feeling, interacting human being to every once in a while get your heart broken. Doesn't make it hurt any less, mind you - but it gives you a bit of a philosophical view - in case that helps.

[Vampir3Saliva]

One day and they're in love? That's not love, that's infatuation. But nethertheless, they sound into each other and he's moved on with someone else, so it's time for you to do the same.
I know the feeling of not being able to get over someone. I liked a guy back when I was 16, and I had the hardest time getting over him. Until I got a boyfriend. You will find another guy as well. Just try to shut him out of your mind everytime he creeps back in, avoid him and don't talk to him anymore because he's just being an arrogant jerk anyways, and tell him you can find better and forget about him.
You can and you will find much better in this world full of different guys. You'll find a nice guy and look back and laugh. Trust me, it'll happen. And Phil cheated on you apparently, so what's the point in dating someone or mourning someone you couldn't trust to begin with? He doesn't sound like a great guy. He's not worth crying over.
Get out, go to the mall or the cinema, get a job, go shopping. You'll meet new people.

[hardcore-smile]

sooo, it's funny that i wrote this 7 months ago,
and me and him still arn't over eachother.
i thought i'd let all you guys know what happened.
he apologized, and i stupidly didn't take any of your advice and we dated again for 6 days, and then he dumped me.
I did get a new boyfriend, and i still have him right now,
but he just told me that he still loves me, and since 7 months ago, i have liked him alot too.
i told him, and now were secretly flirting with eachother.
He told me last night he was thinking about asking some other girl out, but he thought he should tell me first so i wouldn't find out the hard way, i said i was ok with it, because i am dating someone else, i cryed, and realized he can't do that to me again, i told him. "You can't date this girl, because i love you, i know you think i can't excpet you to wait around. but i can, because i did now it's just your turn to return the favor" and he decided to stay single.

i cant get over this guy no matter how hard i try, and trust me, i got out and went to the mall. met new people and everything, ate some ice cream, told my friends, asked for help. but i still can't