Friends you don't actually like

[BeautifulSilence]

You know the ones; they constantly get on your nerves, usually for different reasons - such as bitching about your others friends, being to eager to be your friend or just plain annoying!

WhatI want to know is: Do you think it's better to let them know that you don't like them OR to ignore them until they get the point OR just carry on letting everyone but them know how much you despise them?

Just to verify, I have a friend who likes to piss me off {even more} when I'm in a bad mood AND at the same time she seems keen on acceptance AND she always bitches about my best friends who she calls her best friends AND basically all our friends don't like her AND she probably bitches about me... I can't take it anymore, I dunno what to do, we keep making and breaking friends 'cos I'm soft and give in easy!

[ShatteredWings]

i try to ignore people like this..

i have one though..i kinda feel bad for her, she's sooooooooooooo eager to please its annoying...

wait no two. gina is only on my last nerve basicly cause even though i asked her to stop trying to talk to me [ive said too many hrutful things an i don wanna make it worce] she dosn't get the hint..usualy she's cool

[Nihilus]

Yes I made one friend at camp. He got on my nerves alot but I learned To respect his personality.

[Zephyr]

Just tell them to their face,
Because then at least they'll still respect you.
This happened to me just this year,
A girl that I thought was one of my best friends would tell other friends of mine that she hated me,
But never said a damn thing to my face,
So I confronted her about it a couple of times and she lied,
But sooner of later I confronted her on the internet and she told the truth,
So I lost my respect for her.

[theOperaGhost]

I happen to be that person...to some people. I don't think I'm annoying either, I rarely ever talk...People just don't like me for some god damn reason...idk.

[Bobby]

Yeah, happens all the time. It depends on the situation...but most of the time I end up telling them the truth.

[iceyfresh]

you should telm how you feel

[BeautifulSilence]

Just tell them to their face,
Because then at least they'll still respect you.
This happened to me just this year,
A girl that I thought was one of my best friends would tell other friends of mine that she hated me,
But never said a damn thing to my face,
So I confronted her about it a couple of times and she lied,
But sooner of later I confronted her on the internet and she told the truth,
So I lost my respect for her.

...I hate it when people do that! Especially when I KNOW they don't like me. If they confront me I will tell the truth but I think they find it easier to be hated but still have someone 'there for them'.

I s'pose I'll tell her the next time she tries to talk to me - currently ignoring and it won't help just to go up to her and say 'I just don't like you!' OR will it???

[raiders rule]

when i have those friends i just ignore them, avoid them

[Zephyr]

Just come about it in a nice manner...
Like,
"You know, I think that we just arn't that great of friends anymore."
or
"I think that we'd be better off not being friends. It's me, not you."

However you prefer to go about it.

[japanman]

Ugh yes bu you know me i just tell but for me if a friends annoying its why they are my friend. idk its hard to explain.

[Skittle Flavored]

I have one...She's so excited every time i talk to her, and i swear...Not to be shallow, but she reduces my cool meter...She argues with the teacher, she's a hippie which means no showers or shaving, she's loud...But i feel bad for her, because of these things. Thing is, she absolutely hates everyone that I hang out with....I told her off once, saying that their my friends, not her's....>.<' Thank wow she graduates next november..No more her!!! ^_______^

[MrPinnick17]

Yeah but it's all part of high school. Some of the people I hang out with I don't like but their in my group, so there isn't much I can do but just you know not say anything. After college it doesn't matter, but in High School when popularity is 9/10th of the law you just do what you gotta do.

[BlackenedSilver]

I have a kinda friend like this. He really pisses me off and always has to be the centre of attention all the time!! Some days he can be really nice to me but other days he treats me like crap!! I just try to not get in his way and just be nice, unless he treats me like crap then I do something to let him know Im not gonna take that.
There are always gonna be people that are annoying and just do things because they think they can walk all over you, but you just have really take it in your stride. But you do have to let them know subtly that your not going to take any crap.
(Sorry about my spelling and really hope this helps) xxxx

[Yasmine]

i know what you mean by this. i had one "friend" who only used me to buy her school lunches. i kept telling her my mom doesn't allow me to do that, and she kept saying "get me this and i won't ask you for anything else the rest of the week." she never did anything like that for me, and i got so pissed off at her, that i couldn't stand to look at her anymore. she never acted like a friend. she doesn't support my gender, so she isn't a real friend. she used me, and that disgusts me.

[Atonement]

If you don't like them, how are they your friends? If you don't like them, choose to not be around them and just break it off.

[BeautifulSilence]

They're friends because no matter what youdo something stops you from making it clear that they aint. For example, if you only befriended them becuase you felt sorry for 'em or if the continue to call you their friend despite the fact that you've rejected them...

[Sugaree]

One of my friends has another fan that he always hangs out with. I just HATE him. I trick him into thinking that he's my friend. He falls for it. Dumbass. The only thing he talks about is MySpace and Facebook. HE won't shut UP about it. We've had many fights in the past where he's thrown a basketball in my face and broke my nose. He hacked my friends MySpace profile since my friend was dumb enough to give him the password and username he had.

He's beaten my friend to dust and a lot of other things.

[Sapphire]

Honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront about it and they will get the message, though steer clear of the "it isn't you, it's me" cliche!

[Mr. Smithers]

I just say that if they are truly someone that I can trust, share jokes, and be around, then I think of them as a nice friend.

Yes we will be selfish a few times and betray each other but we will still be friends the next day. We will go to starbucks and talk about it and next thing you know were friends.

We could fight. Not talk to each other for a few days. Then next thing you know were friends again.

But sometimes friends that did something to not become your friend anymore, stay as someone that you don't want to talk to. You just have to let them go. There are plenty of other people your age that you can talk to.

[JunkBondTrader]

If your friend is particularly arrogant then ignoring them won't work since in their own eyes they are perfect so it would be impossible for anyone to dislike them. Instead, I reccomend a gentle but firm trip back to reality. Tell them of their faults, tell them that you're unhappy with them and explain that he/she has really been getting on your nerves. This method can't really fail as they'll either try to change or they'll convince themselves that you're stupid or an arsehole and use it as an excuse not to see you.

Problem solved! :P

[kerry]

Yes i have this problem there's dis girl called Olivia
*she bitches
*back stabs
*talks about u

theres Kerry Hogg

*she interfears
*annoys me
*follows me
*and bitches


I just ignore it and get in a bit of a temper