He has a girlfriend, why does he still want me?

[Acronychal]

Okay, well, this is a pretty long story...
I have a very good friend, let's call him Bob. A few months back, Bob started liking me, and I started liking him. I just liked my boyfriend more. I introduced Bob to his current girlfriend (let's call her Sue). Now I am single, and Bob still likes me. I still sort of like him too, but I can always ignore that kind of thing. Now, Sue is a very good friend of mine and I feel so guilty for what I've done.
A couple months after Bob started dating Sue (I was single by then), Bob kissed me. I didn't think it would happen again. I was wrong.
Bob wants very badly to get in my pants, and he's very determined. I will NOT let him, whether I like him or not. But he's made out with me a few times now, and I just want it to stop. I like him, I can't help it, but I ignore that emotion for my friends. He feels nothing but lust for me, and loves his girlfriend. When they're together, they look like nobody exists but htem. His girlfriend's not always around, and when he needs to get stuff out of his system, I seem to be plan 'B'. I don't want to be his whore anymore. I don't want to feel like I'm stealing from my friend everytime he's around. I keep letting this happen! I keep letting him convince me that I'm not doing anything wrong when I know I am!
But, I know that I can't tell anyone. EVERYONE will hate me. EVERYONE. It will ruin Bob and Sue's relationship, they'll both hate me and all my friends will hate me when they know what I let happen. If everyone hates me, I will not be able to survive. I will probably end up dying. But I just can't go on feeling like I'm stealing from her. I just can't let him keep doing this. It's wrong, but he makes it sound like it's just fine... I wish he'd just stop...

[Gumleaf]

well this is not an easy situation, especially if you both like eachother. but i think you need to tell him that he has to make a decision between sue or you. if he loves sue as you say, he should make the right decision and stay with her. you need to make it clear to him that he can't have both you and sue. until you tell him, he won't stop. you can't let him keep talking you into stuff. everytime he comes on to you, you need to remind him of the damage he is doing to his relationship. just go with your conscience, and you will be fine. hope things work out for you.

[MrPinnick17]

Well if Sue and you are really that good of friends I'd start by telling her. You have to look out for your friends, sounds like Bob is a skeeze. Even if you turned him down and deplete all contact with him what's to stop him from looking for another girl he can lust for? It sounds like Sue might get hurt, and a friendship could be ruined.

It sounds like even though you like Bob he just wants to get into your pants. And you've done the right thing by turning him down. But I think you should just stop talking to him and let Sue know what's been going on, without an emphasis on the situation between you and him. You don't want her to think the only reason why your telling her this is because your jealous. Because your not, your just being a caring friend.

Your over exaggerating when you say everyone will hate you, but if your that worried just don't talk to Bob. Don't hang out with him, don't give your feelings a chance to grow, and Don't give him a chance to trick you into thinking everything is alright.

I hope I'm not being to harsh, I've just seen it all go down, and heck I won't lie I have even been the Bob in situations also.

[Acronychal]

Thanks guys, you're super heroes, I swear! =)
Bob tried to make a move on me tonight and I finally got the courage to push him away and talk to him.
I told him everything that I'd been wanting to tell him since the first time it happened. And you know what? He agreed completely. Apparently he was going to talk to me about it too. And he promised me it will never happen again. Not with me, or anyone else. I hope he's not lying, but it's out of my hands now. He kinda looked... woken up. So I think Bob will start thinking with his head, the one with the brain in it. He also didn't seem to realize how much he was hurting Sue, and I think I informed him of it.
Bob and I are remaining friends, but I can easily ignore how I feel about him. He will ignore the lust for me, and I'm never going to let anything happen again, no matter how much he tries to convince me. I've never so much as gotten jealous of Sue, so I know I'll be okay with it.
I think this is all going to work out. Thanks guys, seriously. As I said before, you're super heroes. =)

[Gumleaf]

glad things have worked out for you. hopefully he'll realise how good he has it with sue and won't put that in the balance again. good job with bringing it up with him though. that took a bit of courage i'm sure.

[DarkWingedAngel]

it is good that things worked out
hope it stays like that

[Ambrosia]

Please don't bump -super- old threads! :locked: