Suicidal, please help.

[Nighter]

Okay, here is the thing, it isn't me, it is one of my friends.

I have the chatlog, but I don't know if I'm allowed to post it here, because I dont know if I have her permission.

She is really depressed, has been so for a year or so, because her parents are really mean to her.

She says she isnt going to commit suicide, but she keeps sounding more and more depressed, and keeps kinda hinting at it.

I dunno guys, im really worried, and she wont go to a therapist, and I cant ger her one. :(

Am I allowed to post a chatlog?

[Ryandel]

The best thing you can do for your friend is be a friend. She obviously confides in you enough to tell you her problems. Listening is definitely "a must". Convince her, beg and cry to her if you have to, to tell someone. If she refuses to tell a loved one you can find places she can go to and/or people she can call like 1-800-SUICIDE to help her tell her parents (Be with her for support as well as confirmation if she says she'll call). The point is she needs to talk to her parents or professionals...Whatever you do...DO NOT threaten her by saying you'll tell if she refuses...that can be a danger to you as well as her resolve... do tell her you can do it together and if she gives you a firm no..then it's no. However...sorry, to say but it's now you're responsibility to tell..if you can't do it ask your parents to...You definitely have to understand, whether or not you are sworn to secrecy you need to say something...don't worry about her getting mad at you...she might at first...but she'll forgive you, because she'll understand that you care about her (and if she can't understand that, remind her often no matter how frustrated you may become). Maybe she is even secretly hoping for your intervention (that's probably why she tells you all that stuff). The most important thing here is removing her from the danger of herself...you won't be betraying her if you speak to someone...but you will, if you don't....PLEASE,PLEASE speak up!!!!!!!!! Good Luck to you and your friend.

-Alex D

[Nighter]

Thanks.

For the begging and crying, oh God, I was, and so was she.

She won't talk to her parents, but I think I might have convinced her to talk to her brother.

Thanks, from what you've said, it sounds like I did okay (I didn't force anything, just suggested) and not screw up for a whole hour of intense conversation. :D

[byee]

well, the issue isn't so much posting it here, as much as is it is getting her to someone real time who can really help her. If you're concerned enough about her to want to get help here, then you're concerned enough about her to get help there. Discuss with her a plan to tell her parents (or your parents or some other adult), or if she will not agree to that and you feel she's in bad shape, you should tell them yourself.

Forget about posting her convo here, get her to someone real time!

[Nighter]

Ah, well, the thing is, I can't get to her in real life anymore. :\

Although I think I know someone who can, he also knows, and he may be willing to drive down to her and talk with her and her parents.

[Ryandel]

Never give up. And as long as you're helping her recover what you did was more than "okay". Great person you are in helping your friend in need. Even if she's a thousand miles away. A person with your determination can change things for the better.

-Alex D

[Nighter]

Ah, I managed to talk to her brother, and told him a bit about what's going on, and he should talk to her.

I hope he does. :\

[monde]

Really.. start to tell her how happy & lucky she actually is.
She can hear, talk, laugh, walk.. take things with her own hands.
Keep telling her how much she has and how stupid it would be to take this away from yourself with your own hands. And how unfair it would be about others, there's millions of people in the world, who would do anything to be in her situation. People who maybe never will walk, who maybe have only year or sth to live. People who may do everything to be in this good being.
Try to make her clear how much she has.
And she should respect it, avoid all those problems and sh!t situation.

Most important is that you know who you are and if parents really can't understand then, just luck to them. This all shows just her parents in bad light, not her.
Of course we all need support and being from parents, but nowadays most of us can't get it. It's just the way it is.
But still, parents gave her a life, the life what to use. So she should do it..

[Zan0ra]

Really.. start to tell her how happy & lucky she actually is.
She can hear, talk, laugh, walk.. take things with her own hands.
Keep telling her how much she has and how stupid it would be to take this away from yourself with your own hands. And how unfair it would be about others, there's millions of people in the world, who would do anything to be in her situation. People who maybe never will walk, who maybe have only year or sth to live. People who may do everything to be in this good being.
Try to make her clear how much she has.
And she should respect it, avoid all those problems and sh!t situation.

Most important is that you know who you are and if parents really can't understand then, just luck to them. This all shows just her parents in bad light, not her.
Of course we all need support and being from parents, but nowadays most of us can't get it. It's just the way it is.
But still, parents gave her a life, the life what to use. So she should do it..

Couldn't have said it better my self.

[Sapphire]

Are you intouch with anyone who lives closer to her? If you do, get them to take her out to the cinema or things like this. It will help her, even if it is only temporary.
Combine that with trying to make sure she gets to a therapist and talking to her you will be doing all that is really possible.

She's lucky to have a friend like you! :)

[Mr. Smithers]

The only thing that you can do is talk her out of it. Talk to her and tell her to get some help. Talk about all the things in life that are happy. Suicidal people only think about sad and depressing things that happened to them in the past.

Besides that there really isn't much that you can do. She is going to make her choice as to whether she wants to stay suicidal or take your words and get some help or some sort of treatment.