I hate them....GRRR [language can be rough]

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Iunno if I should post this here, or in friends and family.
But here's my situation anyhow.

Today, I was on my computer (like all the time) and my younger sister went into my room, and started yelling, "Get downstairs and put away groceries". I was like, "dont fucking yell asshole". then went downstairs, and saw my mom. I was like, "ma, I already did a lot of things for you, can I just chill?" mom was like, "you are going to do the groceries right now." So i started unloading groceries, and as I was doing them, mom started calling me a son of a bitch like three times, and i was like, if im a son of a bitch, maybe i shouldnt do ur fucking groceries for you.
I went back upstairs, and my little sister was being a smart ass again, so i hit her, but not hard, and she started kicking me... and then started crying hysterically, and got me in trouble... she was like, chaya, u lie all the time...blah blah blah. then she kicked me again,
to make the entire situation seem short, mom hit me with two hangers, we gave each other some words, and now im sitting cursing the day I was born,

[Rutherford The Brave]

Iunno if I should post this here, or in friends and family.
But here's my situation anyhow.

Today, I was on my computer (like all the time) and my younger sister went into my room, and started yelling, "Get downstairs and put away groceries". I was like, "dont fucking yell asshole". then went downstairs, and saw my mom. I was like, "ma, I already did a lot of things for you, can I just chill?" mom was like, "you are going to do the groceries right now." So i started unloading groceries, and as I was doing them, mom started calling me a son of a bitch like three times, and i was like, if im a son of a bitch, maybe i shouldnt do ur fucking groceries for you.
I went back upstairs, and my little sister was being a smart ass again, so i hit her, but not hard, and she started kicking me... and then started crying hysterically, and got me in trouble... she was like, chaya, u lie all the time...blah blah blah. then she kicked me again,
to make the entire situation seem short, mom hit me with two hangers, we gave each other some words, and now im sitting cursing the day I was born,


I know from personal expierence of this stuff, still you have to watch your language. It's very disrespectful to talk like that in front of your mother. Yeah sure she made you do alot, but if you don't use bad language and your appraoch is softer than she might give you a break.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

I know from personal expierence of this stuff, still you have to watch your language. It's very disrespectful to talk like that in front of your mother. Yeah sure she made you do alot, but if you don't use bad language and your appraoch is softer than she might give you a break.
Thanks.
But even if I were to be more softer or whatever, she would still be icky towards me.

[Sugaree]

I've had some words with my folks. It's not fun and I know the situation you're in. I totally understand chay :hug:

The best thing you can do right now is go and apologize to your little sister and your mother.

[Zephyr]

It happens,
I'd just apologize to keep the peace,
It'll pass over soon.

[Requin]

Unfortuantly i think you're gonna have to accept defeat this time and walk away with your head hanging to keep the peace. Apologize to your mum and if you can bring yourself to do it, your little sister too. Sorry but i can't see what else you can do.
Best of luck whatever you do and i hope it gets a bit better now.:-)

[byee]

You know, there's a lot wrong with just about everybody's behavior in that instance. Maybe that's why it's hard to see your part in it.

Every family has it's own way of relating to eachother, there's a 'culture' to the way people interact and treat eachother. Yours seems kinda rough and to the point. It seems acceptable to be demanding, disrespectful, to use curses, to hit eachother, etc. As long as you engage in the same behaviors it's really hard to blame everyone else for doing the same, you know?

It's hard to change the culture of your family, but it can be done. But in order to do that, you have to be willing to change your participation in that culture. You have to make different choices when confronted with the culture you find objectionable. So, you can either address your concerns calmly with your family and see if you all can agree to treat eachother differently, or in the absence of consensus, you can just unilaterally make that choice, and behave differently yourself. Nothing gets people to examine themselves more than being with someone who responds differently to them than they're expecting.

[kerry]

it Happens,
I'd Just Apologize To Keep The Peace,
It'll Pass Over Soon.

I Agree I Would Do Too:p

[Rutherford The Brave]

I would naturally apologize. Still as you know I do not live with my parents my mom being dead and my father losing custody of me. I would try to be nice, but anything that concerns abuse just sends me into a panic attack. Look you just have to be nice to you mother, although she is mean she does alot of work, plus she loves you. I wish i had a mom who loved me.

[Lonewolf4211]

If your mother call you a son of a b***h, that means she is insulting herself. Please, if others are being utter assholes, screw them. You are who you are. They can't change a damn thing. Your sister is an ass, don't physically confront her, cause sisters are assholes. They get you in trouble faster than you think.

[Rutherford The Brave]

If your mother call you a son of a b***h, that means she is insulting herself. Please, if others are being utter assholes, screw them. You are who you are. They can't change a damn thing. Your sister is an ass, don't physically confront her, cause sisters are assholes. They get you in trouble faster than you think.

Tone down the language please. Even though you are right.