Religious views ..?!

[xox.Sweety.Pie.xox]

So I have this purity ring which means i stay pure till marriage and no sex and i have a boyfriend and he wants to have sex hes 18 and i want to have sex with him too but my mom wont let me because of my stupid purity ring ...Should I have sex with him anyways or take my moms side and say im not ready for this yet i cant break my religous rules?:confused:

[BeautifulSilence]

Well, if when you got this purity ring you took a sacred vow of abstenence then you should honour it and the same goes for if YOU consider yourself to be religious.

However, if you feel that your boyfriend is more valuable then your religion (so you're not that religious) then you won't feel guilty about sleeping with him.

Just remember, at the end of the day, the only person who can make this decision is you and you should consider whether or not your future husband will care about your purity.

[xox.Sweety.Pie.xox]

Ok thanks :) im still thinking about it but im scared if my mom finds out she will ground me for like a year and take away my privelleges of talking to my friends or bf

[Oblivion]

Well, if when you got this purity ring you took a sacred vow of abstenence then you should honour it and the same goes for if YOU consider yourself to be religious.

However, if you feel that your boyfriend is more valuable then your religion (so you're not that religious) then you won't feel guilty about sleeping with him.

Just remember, at the end of the day, the only person who can make this decision is you and you should consider whether or not your future husband will care about your purity.

I agree

Except one thing
It seems you are still 'controlled' (as in same house) by your mom, so that usually means your under 18. If your boyfriend is 18, your mom could legally sue him and get him in jail if you two had sex and she found out.

Oh wait. I dont know the rules of Canada, but they may be the same.

[xox.Sweety.Pie.xox]

yah im 16 so my mom could sue him or my dad could tell his parents and make him pay...

[BeautifulSilence]

Ah, well then if I had to tell you to choose one, I'd say don't do it. But it is still our choice (even if it legally isn't).

[byee]

Oh, I agree with ThatSoCalledSlut, very good, very good.

I'd point out that it's not the ring itself, it's what the ring means. The ring is a symbol, a reminder of the committment you made. You'd need to reevaluate the committment, not just take the ring off. You have to decide if the committment needs to be reevaluated in light of your current relationship. Often, people make committments with good intentions of keeping them, but when things change, they reevaluate the committment. It's hard to foresee the future, how your feelings and committments might change when you initially make them. Your current situation may or may not be one of those times, but in any event the issue is about committment, not jewelry (or sex, or religion, ftm).

The other q I have is your age. He's 18, and you're ---->?.

[xox.Sweety.Pie.xox]

hes 18 and im 16 but even if i dont have sex with him is it the same as sex if you masterbate? like could it also go against my religious rules or is it ok?

[BeautifulSilence]

is it the same as sex if you masterbate? like could it also go against my religious rules or is it ok?

Now, I wouldn't actually know, and purity can be judged differently for different people.

For example, in the film Teeth the main character is part of an organistion which practices abstenence, symbolised in a promise ring -a lot like your purity ring- and they preach that masturbating isn't pure. However, masturbating is very natural and A LOT of people would agree that you were still pure.

[xox.Sweety.Pie.xox]

ok thanks ive decided i might just stick to masterbation than the whole package :)

[byee]

I think you have to decide this.

But, it's not so much about 'religion', or 'values' or sex, even. It's mostly about committment, and what that means to you (see what i wrote in my last post to you). Plenty of people are 'sexual' and still religious, the 2 aren't mutually exclusive.

I think you're trying to determine what's OK based on a rigid understanding of religion, as well as an incomplete understanding of the conditions of your 'vow'. You might want to reevaluate this, rather than find ways around it.