Noooo! Brians arm! this is terrible! REVENGE!

[Medical Kid]

you know that one topic I made about my friend mikey being addicted to pot? well I went over to his favorite hang out spot (the old stone bridge) about maybe 15 feet high over a small stream, me and my friend Brian went there to talk to him, his little drug buddies were with him, I said "mike, me and brian really wanna talk to you for a moment, its kind of important" then his friend says "if its so important tell us all what it is" Brian says "I dont believe we were asking your opinion" then mikey said "sure I,ll go, guys can you give us a minute?" they all nod, except for the kid who spoke out earlier, he said "mm mm I want to hear this, I dont care if its private" then Brian and I calmly tell him he wouldnt care what were talking about, then he just disagrees more and gets all up in brians face saying he cant tell him what to do, then mikey and I grabbed brian by the shoulder and started walking away, then the kid jumps out in front of us and slaps me, he says "I said to let me hear it!" then brian see me flail from the slap, and tackles the kid, mikey and I were telling them to stop, but then! the kid hit brian in the rib cage and he was falling backwards! then he fell over the side of the bridge *cries* and.....he broke his arm! now I'm having deep thoughts of revenge on that kid, is that bad? :(

[ThatCanadianGuy]

No... the kid's a douchebag. Kids are terrible these days; he isn't worth your revenge. It's totally normal to feel like that though, I would too. But you can't let that influence you to stoop to their level. Hopefully, if you are a closer friend to your "pot-addicted" friend then you and Brian could use THIS example to show him the downside of hanging out with his little drug buddies. Who knows, it might be a good wake-up call to him and he might clean up his act.

[byee]

(Oh, that Canadian guy gets another one!).

No, wanting revenge isn't a bad thing, taking revenge is, though.

What happened WAS wrong, your feelings are understandable. But, you have to learn how to deal with them yourself, you can't deal with them by doing something to someone else, even if they deserve it. In a way, revenge, expressing your thoughts or feelings by doing something, is exactly what Brian did when he felt left out. If it was inappropriate for him to seek revenge on Mikey for wanting private time with you, by pushing him, then your seeking revenge on him for doing that is just as bad. Why go there?

I agree with TCG, I'd support and comfort Mikey, and maybe point out to him that these kids don't have very good judgement or control, and that it's unwise to associate too much with them.

[kerry]

(Oh, that Canadian guy gets another one!).

No, wanting revenge isn't a bad thing, taking revenge is, though.

What happened WAS wrong, your feelings are understandable. But, you have to learn how to deal with them yourself, you can't deal with them by doing something to someone else, even if they deserve it. In a way, revenge, expressing your thoughts or feelings by doing something, is exactly what Brian did when he felt left out. If it was inappropriate for him to seek revenge on Mikey for wanting private time with you, by pushing him, then your seeking revenge on him for doing that is just as bad. Why go there?

I agree with TCG, I'd support and comfort Mikey, and maybe point out to him that these kids don't have very good judgement or control, and that it's unwise to associate too much with them.

dont take revenge
comfort your friend be with him

[Medical Kid]

well I just felt so useless, I watched my best friend Brian, get pushed off a bridge, and that damn kid got away! and now Brian's got to wait 3 months for that arm to mend, and I need to distort my anger somehow! I'm sorry, but I cant just ignore it like it never happened, I NEED something to take it out on!

[byee]

Remember, this isn't about you, it's about Mikey and his arm. Be supportive of him, he's the one who was victimized. You watched, and have some feelings about that, but it's about him. Keep your eye on the ball.

What makes us better is our ability to respond correctly to situations, even when others haven't, and even when it's really hard. But you can do this, it's also an opportunity for you to practice this. Your 'feeling' the urge for revenge is something you can tolerate, it's OK to want to do something , and not go ahead and do it.