Is it creepy...

[BashfulPanda]

I have gotten a new girlfriend recently. We haven't done much (sexually) together yet, just made out etc. She is talking a lot about how she wants to do a bit more, like hj/bj. Is it weird or creepy to ask your girlfriend if she wants you to shave? I don't want her to hate pubic hair, and then find out I don't shave... or shave, and have her think I'm weird.

Any relevant help is appreciated! =]

Ben

Edit; By the way, we're both 15, and I have about 2-3 inch pubes average.

[byee]

I don't know, Ben, if I'd use the word 'creepy', but talking about H/J, B/J's with a new g/f sounds a bit premature to me, which is perhaps what you're responding to?

Usually by the time people feel ready for this stuff they've figured out the 'hair thing'. The fact that you're concerned about it (and how to mention it) indicates you're not quite there yet with her.

[BashfulPanda]

Well, not b/js. Just h/js, if that changes anything. I figured that if I post that I'm concerned with hair during a h/j, everyone would just say that it doesn't matter for that.

And I suppose you could be right about the pre-matureness of it, but I can't really control my actions when I'm with her, if you know what I mean. She has a certain effect on me when we're alone. :S

[byee]

Well, regardless of the form of sexual stimulation you're talking about, I'd still encourage you to look at the message behind your own concern here, what you're telling yourself.

If you look at this girl (and this relationship) as just a sexual release, that's one thing. If you're looking at it as more than that, then you might want to listen to your anxiety here and control yourself until you feel more secure in the relationship and the underlying anxiety goes away.

[gookmique]

well, dude, when ever you're talking to her on the phone or something just simply start talking about.. i dunno.. something sexually related and ask her if she likes her guys shaved or not, simple question. plus, if it's over the phone, you won't feel akward because it won't be a face to face ordeal. i know i couldn't look a girl in the face and ask her if she likes her guys shaved or not. needless to say, i usually ask all the girls i talk to if they like it shaved or not. well, atleast the girls that i have a sexual relationship with.

[OnlyByTheNight.]

I personally dont care bout pubs and they really dont make a diff if its a hj shes giving you. And if your still worried bout it and you dont want to ask her then just trim your pubs back a bit and your sorted. :D

[chris__batman]

the best thing to do is just to ask. Its as simple as that. Next time your talking, just have a brief introduction to the topic and ask in a light hearted way "do you like shaved on guys or.." Its as simple as that. You need to learn to be open and carefree with someone that your thinking of starting a sexual relationship with (and when i say carefree i DONT mean start having intercoarse without protection!!) but its a big responsibility to be able to speak to your partner, and if you feel as though you cant, or your too embarressed to say something, then that may mean that you are too young or immature to eneter this stage of a relationship

[AutumnDae]

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