When parents argue, does it scar you?

[Techno Monster]

If it does, on the inside, I must be pretty screwed up, my parents are yelling at each other right now.... over stupid stuff, my dad is calling my mom stupid, and insulting her. I am trying really hard to restrain myself from rocking him him in the face right now. Mom dosen't deserve to be yelled at, I am pissed off at my brother, because he is at a friends house now, and I am alone... That is how I feel... alone...

[The Batman]

I hate it I use to get scared that my dad would hit my mom but I'm glad that they are finally seperated.

[byee]

Is this the way they argue? Is it typical for them to become verbally abusive with eachother? Some adults really get nasty when they argue, if it's typical for them, then it's just 'their way'. If it's new, then it could mean things are worse for them.

It's understandable that you'd find this upsetting and lonely. Maybe when They're calm, you could tell them how upsetting it is for you when they yell. Maybe if they were aware of your feelings and reactions, they'd control themselves better.

Yuck.

[Techno Monster]

He used to beat me, and throw stuff he dosent any more... When i talk to him, he always says, i wasn't yelling at you..

[The Batman]

That's what my dad use to do he got real violent and he used to break things. My mom left him and he changed. You need to just find away to let him see how he gets.

[byee]

Uh, oh. So, he has a temper? I'm glad he's not hitting you anymore, but it still sounds like he loses control verbally, at least with your mom. Yeah, that would be upsetting, b/c it reminds you of his loss of control with you. But at least it's not physical.

I'm glad you're safely in your room hanging out here. Do you have some music on?

[Techno Monster]

I am talking to my friend, and my dog is in here too :)

[byee]

Good! So you're not alone, that is good.

[theOperaGhost]

My parents don't argue, they just never talk to each other (it's a little awkward actually, to live together and never talk...). That's terrible though. I can't stand men who think they can treat their wives or children like shit, it pisses me the fuck off. I hope things can get better. It also must be bad being kind of alone. If things get too out of hand, you could call the police. That's kind of a last resort, but if you have to, don't hesitate.

[Zephyr]

Never has.
I'm the strange kid that always got in the middle of it,
Told them that they both needed to shut their mouths and be civil,
Then go back to sleep.
When it was an arguement involving flying objects,
Then I would just do the same thing,
Then I would just hop the fence and stay the night at my friend Katie's.

My parents argued A LOT,
So it never bothered me as much as it would other kids.

[SirRawrsalot]

When there was a big fight in my house (not sine i was 9) someone got a black eye, and my dad was the one punching. Whoever annoyed him the most. So, ya, it did kind of scar me.

[Zephyr]

My dad never got physical,
I guess that makes a huge difference.

[SirRawrsalot]

Ya, itt does. Although screaming isn't always better than violence. Sometimes they can both be pretty devastating.

[Nihilus]

yes I can scare me. Thoughts of divorce go around in my head....

[ShatteredWings]

Then I would just hop the fence and stay the night at my friend Katie's.

My parents argued A LOT,
So it never bothered me as much as it would other kids.
ha i would..but i can't sneak out cause i am supoed to be home at five thirty =/

it scares the crap outta me

last time my mom threw a plate

and he called her a jerk


parents...

your okay now right?

[Zephyr]

I'm more than okay.
I only ever went away because I knew that if it was stupid enough to involve throwing things, that I wouldn't get a good night's sleep, or one of them would leave and drag me along if I hadn't left.
They've been divorced 6 or 7 years now,
So I haven't had to put up with it for a looooong time.

[SirRawrsalot]

Ya, my parents divorced like almost 8 years ago and I'm much happier. Everyone is always worried. lol Sometimes it's for the best.

[ShatteredWings]

I'm more than okay.
I only ever went away because I knew that if it was stupid enough to involve throwing things, that I wouldn't get a good night's sleep, or one of them would leave and drag me along if I hadn't left.
They've been divorced 6 or 7 years now,
So I haven't had to put up with it for a looooong time.

i meant caitlin...sorry

[Techno Monster]

^ Yeah I'm fine he asked me to put the dog out, and I pretty much ended up telling him to fuck off, and if he insulted mom again I would knock him out.

That made him shut his mouth.

[My_Toes_Are_Cold]

My dad shouting used to scare me, but he has a really booming yell.

Not so much anymore.

[Yasmine]

my mom got in a huge fight with my dad a couple months ago, and then she took some of it out on me.

[raiders rule]

no, not really, but my parents are divorced, but still ive seen my dad and step-mom argue, but no, its not pleasant but it doesnt scar me.

[Sage]

I'm not gonna say it 'scars' me but I do feel a bit of a shiver whenever I have to hear them yell at eachother. ._.

[AutumnDae]

I hate it when my parents fight. It seems as though my dad picks fights with my mom. I just kind of slip away and watch t.v when it happens.

I have never interrupted an argument of theirs, I'd probably just be yelled at. I'm kind of a wimp when it comes to being yelled at, I usually cry. I can't argue with my parents without crying, so I hardly try anymore.

It doesn't scar me, but it makes me wonder if they are going to get divorced. I don't think they would.

I remember one fight I was probably 8 or 9. I don't even know what it was about. It was bad though. My mom ended up locking my dad out of the house. He flipped her off and then came in through the basement. Then my mom left. She didn't tell anyone where she was going, or when she was going to be back. My sister and I were sitting in her room shocked that a.) this huge fight was going on and b.) my mom had just...left. We talked about where she went, if we thought she was going to come back, why they just didn't get divorced. Then my mom came back later. We finally got it out of her where she went. She went to go and get a cup of coffee, the newspaper, and sat down at the lake to read it.

But to answer your question, it bothers me alot. I hate it I hate it I hate it.

[DaretoFallup]

this thread's a little old, but, when my mom and step dad were together it would be constant yelling, screaming, and sometime it's physical, i couldnt stand watching it so i called the cops on my step dad about 5 times. We coulda pressed charges 4 times, but my mom said no, my step dad would abuse my brother and emtionally/mentally abuse my mom and i, and yes im scared and cant forget it, i can no longer trust any male pretty much. I'm scared to death, and now I can't go outside alone without my dog and my phone or i'll think hes coming to kill me, its really freaky, i hate it!

[Mr. Smithers]

My parents do it almost everyday. Its over the silliest things though. They got mad because My Mom didn't TIVO a show for my Dad, then they argued for like 5 minutes then it was over. It is like that if not every night every other night. So I get used to hearing it.

[Zan0ra]

My parents almost always get physical. One time *I was 7* I was in the living room standing in front of the door telling them to stop. My dad turned around and tried to hit me. I ducked *so he missed me* AND HE NOCKED THE DOOR DOWN!

[Yasmine]

my mom takes alot of her anger out on me. when i was 5, she grabbed me by the shirt and pushed me off a chair.

[Dragon Fire]

It doesn't scare me at all, because if they tell me to get out i have places to go so i don't worry about it to much also, im bigger than everyone in my family and if i have to i will defend myself against them with force and they know it.

[Ryandel]

I used to get frustrated, but not anymore. I lost emotion towards it overt time. Most likely since it was mom who picked fights.

[gkrt]

It doesn't effect me. I just ignore them, rolling my eyes.

[Malcolm Tucker]

Yes it does. I've had no father for 10 years of my life, and he means everything to me. So I would try my darndest to stop them from fighting. Sometimes you cannot do enough

[joe66pak]

My mom's ex boyfriend got drunk all the time and they fought all the time. So much, in fact, that i am unfazed when my parents fight, or my mom fights with her bf. It has become little more than a nuisance, and that's okay with me.

[xbox360guy]

My parents argue quite a bit but rarly once a month and its never violent... they never scream though its always over the same thing my mom gets mad at my dad cause he doesn't help clean and then they argue but thats normal...

[Callwaiting]

I'm sick of my stepdad being an asshole to my mum. He never feeds my little brother or helps out at all, then does what he wants and yells at us.

I'm going to remember one time forever. I was in my room and I hear someone crying so I walk into the hall and my mums on the floor with a bleeding mouth and my stepdad was like "go to your room, she deserved it".

I later found out she was trying to stop him punching my 7 year old brother.

But of course its ok now,NOT, she forgave him and we're forbidden to talk about it.

So yeah, I really get scared when they argue and he throws stuff.

[Dude1994]

I hate it I use to get scared that my dad would hit my mom but I'm glad that they are finally seperated.

Same here is was for the better. He wouldn’t talk to me or my sister, and sit in the basement, and just watch tv, wouldn't eat with us anything. My mom announced the divorce, he became so nice, kind, one of the nicest people you could meet. Full with energy, just a super fun and nice guy. He still can get like he used to know, acting weird, but very rarely. People don't realize some times divorces are for the better. Not saying a couple of fights leads to divorce. I mean how long has it been happening? Do they talk at all?

[Dude1994]

*oh I'm sorry for the double post

Same here is was for the better. He wouldn’t talk to me or my sister, and sit in the basement, and just watch tv, wouldn't eat with us anything. My mom announced the divorce, he became so nice, kind, one of the nicest people you could meet. Full with energy, just a super fun and nice guy. He still can get like he used to know, acting weird, but very rarely. People don't realize some times divorces are for the better. Not saying a couple of fights leads to divorce. I mean how long has it been happening? Do they talk at all?

I'm sick of my stepdad being an asshole to my mum. He never feeds my little brother or helps out at all, then does what he wants and yells at us.

I'm going to remember one time forever. I was in my room and I hear someone crying so I walk into the hall and my mums on the floor with a bleeding mouth and my stepdad was like "go to your room, she deserved it".

I later found out she was trying to stop him punching my 7 year old brother.

But of course its ok now,NOT, she forgave him and we're forbidden to talk about it.

So yeah, I really get scared when they argue and he throws stuff.

OMG! I have a bad temper, but a 7 year old. I'm so sorry.

[Maverick]

It did for awhile. When they did it really hurt me and it sucked coming home from school and hearing it every day.

But things have gotten better years later and I'm well over it now.

[OMGitsDAVE]

The only time this has actually scared me was when i was first aware when they were arguing. This was when i was like 7, and they were arguing over the littlest thing, but as you do, you get a little wary.

[Requin]

It doesn't scare me it just pisses me off!
It's always over petty things.

[OMGitsDAVE]

It doesn't scare me it just pisses me off!
It's always over petty things.

Exactly.
Over these little tiny things that could be sorted at the flick of a button and the likes.