Help.

[BlackenedSilver]

Im finding it really hard to stop self harm but partially I dont even know why I do it. I have suicidal thoughts most of the time and nearly threw myself into a river once. I just feel usless all the time. My friend has stopped hanging out with me because of me doing this, he thinks im just doing it for attention and that my reason for doing it isnt god enough. He did thexact same thing when He found out his gf was doing it as well. :mad:
I hate doing this but I cant fight my feelings, Im too weak to do that, I have read up on so many websites about how to stop and been on so many forums and that and heard all the advice but still havnt been able to stop. :(

I also wanted to know what it means when a cut goes red and weeps pus. because mine have started doing that and Its freaking me out!

sorry about my rant.xxx

[iJack]

To stop it from doing that, dont cut. It may be infected. I would go to a doctor, and let someone(an adult) know what happened, and what is happening. I know you may not want to, but they will help you get through it. If you need to talk to someone, just to chat, or need to talk about something, Im me, pm me, or email me. I will be more than glad to talk, and if possible, help you through this.

[ShatteredWings]

hey, if you know you don't wanna do it, that's the first step to stoping :) it's gonna be okay

this guy, he's not worth being ur friend if he'll just dsedt you like that. a good friend wouldn't leave you

you can talk to us on here. most of us know what your going thorugh

about the puss, it could be infected like how jack said, but that's not nessarly the case. make sure you clean it often so it doesn't get bad [and hopefuly doesn't scar to badly]

[Nihilus]

Talk to a adult. When I have depressed thoughts I go speak to my dad.

[SirRawrsalot]

(Beat Sam for once.)

You need to do a multitude of things. The first thing you should do is start cleaning the cuts you have before you die of an infection. It doesn't matter if it burns. Get some warm watter and some kind of anti-bacterial soap or something and clean the cut daily. Bandaid is optional.

Second thing, you need to learn how to release your stress and depression in different ways. Some people play paintball some people write poetry (me), you can do anything. If you can't do it on your own then a therapist can help. You'd have to tell your parents, but I think that's the best and most effective thing to do.

You don't have to (and shouldn't)fight feelings. You just have to control them and how they are shown.

So, summarized version of above:
clean cuts DAILY (maybe twice a day, morning and night)
Tell your parents and talk about a therapist
Learn to control how your emotions are shown.

[BlackenedSilver]

Thanks for your help. My parents know but they think Ive stopped. I dont want to tell either of them that I still do it because my mum gets really stressed very very easily and my dad has enough on lately since he is having troubles at his job. Your probally right about my friend But if he keeps dong it Im going to have a word with him.
Thanks a lot! xxxxx

[SirRawrsalot]

If I were your parents, I'd set everytthing aside for this issue. You need to tell them. Sooner would be better than later. That's the best way to get help, and probablyone of the only ways

[byee]

Ohhhh....you are receiving suberb advice here, I just so much like it when others care for eachother so well! *sigh*.

First, if your cuts are weeping pus, then they need medical attention. Pus=infection. A lot of people won't talk about 'feelings' with their folks, but they'll talk when it's something physical. Go tell them.

Second, use the opportunity to talk with them about how badly you feel. If you don't want to go into detail, that's fine. But give them enough to realize whatever is going on for you is *serious*. Most parents rise to the occasion when they get that message. Give them the info so they can get both the physical and emotional help you need to not cut anymore.