How do I cope?

[doktored]

So at the moment i'm very sad right now. My girlfriend moved to Australia last year and we thought our relationship would be over, luckily she was rich so we actually got to see each other quite often. The fact that we were only seeing each other a week every two months strengthened our relationship and made us want to see each other more and more. Unfortunately, after nearly 5 years she broke up with me today. She said that the relationship couldn't last but she still wanted to be 'friends'. What I want to know then is that there is any way to cope with this because i've been upset all day and I feel like I won't be able to cope being single.

[Gumleaf]

i know it must be painful and hurt a lot for you. breaking up is never easy and trying to cope with it is difficult. the only tips i could suggest is that you try and do things to take your mind off things. maybe do stuff with your friends. if you are the type of person who likes to talk about things? find a friend and spill your guts to them. that often helps a bit, just by talking about it. the worse thing you can do is sit around and mope and feel sorry for yourself. from personal experience, thats the last thing you want to do and will only make you feel even more down in the dumps.

[byee]

People survive loss.

I'm sorry for yours, five years is a long time. The feelings you have, though, were based on the time you were together. Sure, you continued online for five years, and saw each other intermittently, but those fve years are a long time to be apart. What you 'loved' about her, although really strong, was based on the daily interaction of the relationship you had back then.

If you can remember that the relationship was good and important and special and learn from it, you can apply it next time. The task now is to let go of what you had, but also remember that what you had, you can have again. But that's a little later, you need to just feel bad for a while, and remember to take extra good care of yourself!

[doktored]

Thanks FourSeasons and IAMSAM you helped alot. I must of explained my story badly as we were together for nearly five years and she was in australia for only one year. None the less you helped a lot. Thankyou, i've added rep to you both.