I Am So Upset

[kerry]

Well my boyfriend Mark is not very well.
When he is unwell i feel upset for him because the only thing i can do is love him until he gets better.
I am not sure why he is unwell !
Everytime he is ill i feel ill and alone...
I don't know why i get upset alone and sad because i am not normally like this in anyway...
I love him soooo though:P

[byee]

Kerry, Kerry, Kerry. When you care about someone, you feel for them. So, when they're hurting, you do too. To a point.

His feelings are his, not yours. Keep them seperate, your sense of well being should NOT be determined by his, you should be able to 'feel bad' for him, yet still feel pretty good, yourself. Really work on this.

I'll assume that this is going on for you b/c this 'love' stuff is all so new for you, and therefore it's hard to know exactly what to do or how to feel or what to do with all those feelings. But, the pattens you establish now are the ones you'll keep, so it's a good idea to start practicing keeping things straight. You can 'love' someone, acknowledge how 'bad' they might be feeling about something, without taking on those feelings yourself. Make that effort here, keep them seperate.

[kerry]

Kerry, Kerry, Kerry. When you care about someone, you feel for them. So, when they're hurting, you do too. To a point.

His feelings are his, not yours. Keep them seperate, your sense of well being should NOT be determined by his, you should be able to 'feel bad' for him, yet still feel pretty good, yourself. Really work on this.

I'll assume that this is going on for you b/c this 'love' stuff is all so new for you, and therefore it's hard to know exactly what to do or how to feel or what to do with all those feelings. But, the pattens you establish now are the ones you'll keep, so it's a good idea to start practicing keeping things straight. You can 'love' someone, acknowledge how 'bad' they might be feeling about something, without taking on those feelings yourself. Make that effort here, keep them seperate.

Thank you Sam for your help :yes:

[Gumleaf]

my gf rang me up nearly an hour ago at 4.30am telling me she was sick. she was crying and upset about it and now i feel bad becasuse she is suffering. this is a normal emotion if someone you care about isn'y well.

[kerry]

Today i found out by his parents he is in hospital =( =( =( :cry:

[Rutherford The Brave]

I know what its like to feel upset when my significant other is sick. I mean Noor had morning sickness throughout her second trimester. During that three months, I slept at best 3 nights, if I wasnt doing homework or bills, I was either holding her hair back while she threw up or holding her just hoping to get her to stop crying. If you care about someone you will worry about them, its something all of us (those in a relationship) have to deal with, its how you say a right of passage? It sucks when your significant other is sick, still if your willing to visit him and care for him, not only will that make him happy it will show your love for him and will probably make him feel better.

[The Batman]

Right now he needs you more than anything, show him that you are there for him and that you will help him during this sickness. Just be with him, visit him in the hospital, bring him some real food to eat, and let him know that you love him. It truly is hard to see someone you love hurt so much but with love you can help take some of the pain away.

[Gumleaf]

Today i found out by his parents he is in hospital =( =( =( :cry:


is there a way that you could visit him in the hospital or even just call him on the phone in the hospital? if you could it would probably make both of you feel better.

[byee]

What's he in the hospital for? What's wrong with him?

It sounds scary when you hear a loved one is in hospital, but it's not necessarily THAT bad. And, you can visit, bring some magazines and chocolate. Maybe phone.

[kerry]

What's he in the hospital for? What's wrong with him?

It sounds scary when you hear a loved one is in hospital, but it's not necessarily THAT bad. And, you can visit, bring some magazines and chocolate. Maybe phone.

don't know what he is in hospital for and duno whats wrong =(

i dont know which hospital he is in =( =( =(

[byee]

well, find out, silly! Call his folks, get the info!

[kerry]

well, find out, silly! Call his folks, get the info!

:yes: OKAY gd idea i txt his phone then his parent txt back :yes: