Mum

[Φρανκομβριτ]

I'm going to be working with my dad this summer. He has had a tendancy to severely under-pay me in the past. He has told me he is going to be paying me 10,00$ an hour, but he's only going to be giving me 80,00$ of it a week, and keeping the 320,00$ left for savings so I don't blow it all. I thought this was reasonable, but I told my mum this this morning, and she blew up at me. Now she's pissed off at me because I didn't tell him no. I don't know what to do. Am I in the wrong? is this all my fault?

[kerry]

You may be in the wrong but still you have a choice to do what you want
It is your decision not your mum's decision ... You have the right to have a choice ... If you wanna do something i say do it ... Your mum is therefor looking after,cleaning,sheltering you not making your decisions
DON'T FORGET IT IS YOUR DECISON NOT HERS

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well.... my parents are pretty much taking control of my money as well. It kinda sucks, but I know they're doing it for my own good. They take $200 from EVERY paycheck and put it away for university. Whenever I feel like this is unfair I just try to keep my priorities straight; the money isn't GONE, it's just being saved up for when I'll really need it. It really does take a load off my mind, considering how expensive university is these days.

[byee]

Let me guess here, my cyrillic friend, that your folks are divorced?

If that's so, then what's going on is a proxy fight. You're being put in the middle of some control/money issue that THEY have. So, no, it' not your 'fault', it's your mom's inability to see that her issues are not your issues.

If you are Ok with a deal you made with your dad, then you need do nothing. Your mom needs to get some distance here, there's obviously some unresolved issue with your dad. As a heads up to him, you might want to give him the FYI, so he's prepared for it when your mother whacks him with it.

[Whisper]

No you are not in the wrong 80$ a week is more than enough for your smokes and spending dude you can tell her I said that
just make sure you do get it in the end if it looks like things are you aren't going to tell me or my mum okay and we'll get it sorted out
I'll talk to my mum okay
I've got 150.00 for you here as well from the apartment

You really need to save for school dude, student loans will take the brunt, but you're gonna need some cash
and if I was you I'd make sure your monthly support cheques from him are going directly into savings okay

[Zephyr]

I think that as long as your dad keeps up his end of the deal, and you agree to it, then it's a smart move.

Your dad has your best interest in heart.

My dad did the same thing, put all of the money that I earned working for him in a savings account, and I ended up with $3,000 which will cover my first year of community college.