friends with benefits (both guys)

[MrHappy]

recently, me and my friend were nude at the
river, and he ended up jerking and sucking me
off. im not a homosexual, but id like to do it again.
is it possible to have a guy friend to do things
like that with? i am straight, and have never
found a man attractive. im even trying to
date a girl soon.

also, hes 13. can i get introuble because im
older? could i get arrested?

[Zephyr]

I'm not the expert on these kinds of things, but if neither of you feel weird about it then I don't see the problem.

If he feels dirty about it afterwards and wants to press charges,
Or if his parents find out and want to press charges, perhaps.
If you're under 18 though, I doubt you'd get in much trouble.

I'd talk to your friend about it.

[Oblivion]

I agree with Steph
Talk to your friend
Ask him if hes comfortable with it
If your over 18, stop immediately because his parents could sue for rape.
I would say occasional experimentation is alright if you want to stay heterosexual, but if it occurs more often and you begin to enjoy it more, you should begin a healthy sexual relationship with him and make sure you are both free of STDs so on and so forth

Of course he most likely isn't ready at 13.
So don't push him into it.

Edit: You said can you have a guy friend to that with. Truthfully, if you are heterosexual, and you do it multiple times and it becomes regular, then i would say no. You can have a boyfriend to do that with, but then you aren't heterosexual. Look at this (http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=26117).

[MrHappy]

thanks guys. that really helps me out :)

i dont want to be in a relationship with him, but
i dont want to lose him as a friend.

[Oblivion]

Yeah no problem
But really, if it happens once or twice, or even a few more, its fine.
Just experimentation. Just don't let it get regular

[Serenity]

Moved to Teen Sexuality

[byee]

Well, your being 16 changes this. (he's 13).

People need to make their own choices about these things, but one of the variables is the age difference. Three years is pretty significant at this age, you guys really aren't maturational equals. How you experience the activity, and eachother, and the feelings, and how ultimately it will affect the relationship will be different for both of you, and he is far more vulnerable than you, this is all new to him, and he doesn't have the same emotional abilities to handle all this as you do. What you're doing probably means something much different to the both of you. That's where it could be problematic.

So, I hate to disagree with my friends here, but I'd say that continuing this with him is not a good idea and you should stop. There is a high risk that he will get very hurt here, and as a friend, you should protect him from that. Sometimes, that means saying no (to yourself and to him), even if both of you seem to want to do this now. You should continue to enjoy eachother's friendship, but keep it non sexual.

If you enjoyed this, than you can pursue it with someone of your own age.

[kerry]

Well, your being 16 changes this. (he's 13).

People need to make their own choices about these things, but one of the variables is the age difference. Three years is pretty significant at this age, you guys really aren't maturational equals. How you experience the activity, and eachother, and the feelings, and how ultimately it will affect the relationship will be different for both of you, and he is far more vulnerable than you, this is all new to him, and he doesn't have the same emotional abilities to handle all this as you do. What you're doing probably means something much different to the both of you. That's where it could be problematic.

So, I hate to disagree with my friends here, but I'd say that continuing this with him is not a good idea and you should stop. There is a high risk that he will get very hurt here, and as a friend, you should protect him from that. Sometimes, that means saying no (to yourself and to him), even if both of you seem to want to do this now. You should continue to enjoy eachother's friendship, but keep it non sexual.

If you enjoyed this, than you can pursue it with someone of your own age.

I agree. Age comes in to this you are 16 and he is 13 a bit of gap
you should not do it as he may get hurt

[Oblivion]

Sorry, i ddin't know you were 16. Although it is technically 'legal' under 18, it could cause serious problems. I thought you were 14 15 at most. Sorry :(

I change mine to agree with Sam

[Alphacold]

Although I believe that these people have fine opinion, and it may very well hurt the friend of yours, but the best thing to do is to talk. I think you should talk to him, and ask him if it was a big deal, ask him what it was to him. Keep things open, and you will probably have a very open friendship, that is all. If you talk to him, I think that if you are both happy, then leave it be. Don't be afraid to try things with him, even if he is younger. It probably makes him excited and happy just as much as you. I'm really not sure what your preferences are, but my opinion is that you should keep doing it, just make sure you talk about it! Don't make it into a regular thing then, especially if you say your not gay.

[marktheman]

I'm 13 and I do things with my 15yo friend. We've been friends for 5 years and we're pretty close. So far the most we've done is masturbate each other, but I want to go a step further and I think he does too. That's as far as I would ever go. Neither one of us is gay. It's just a way to have fun.

[crash007]

You definately have to talk to him because you may think he likes it too but you need to make sure because remember, you are three years older than him and he may not be brave enough to tell you that he doesnt like it. But no this doesnt make you gay. If both of you are comfortable doing it then do it. But also keep in mind that if you are going to date a girl and fool around with him at the same time it could cause complications. Best of luck. Hope this helped!

[MrTeen14]

well, i have two questions, why were you nude at the river?

and what does "sucking me off" mean, ive heard it a few times and i don't know what it means

[Kuervo]

well i agree with most of you. to me its ok 4 u to do it. if you two guys r ok with it, then do it. it may cause some bad things with ur relationship. but its mostly up to the both of you. and i doubt ull get arrested. if u were over 18, yeah u would, but since ur under 18 chances r that u probably wont

[mr.sexy_bomb]

yeah i agree with jojoe

[MrTeen14]

can someone tell me what sucking me off it so i can help with this thread

[Zephyr]

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