man this just sucks

[storms4real]

I know part of the definition of being gay is accepting it to yourself. I... personally just can't. I am just praying to god that I am bisexual instead of gay... but i think God can't help me on this one. I am growing up in a community and school where gays are not called gays. they are fags. they are made fun of. If your a 'fag', your trash, nothing. and sadly..... i am a fag in my community. EVERYONE in school pratically knows it somehow. I try to act as STRAIGHT as possable. ... ... here comes the long part

I would like your help and re-assurance to see if I'm gay.
Growing up, I always hung around girls. The few boys that I hung around with just happened to turn out gay. but I didn't know what 'gay' was or cared back then. ever science the third grade,I had a HUGE crush on a ... man just a drop dead gorgeous girl. She later found out in Fifth grade and kept away from be because I was a fag. (Yes, she knew what it was back then). I moved to a new school for unrelated reasons, only to get ANOTHER HUGE crush on … well what can I say. Cute. Gorgeous. Blah blah blah. ( oh yeah, I moved to this new school in 6th grade). Through out my 7th and 8th grade year, I had hundreds of small crushes on other cute girls. Not bad. Now I am going to be a freshman, and still have this crush on this girl. (Not gay?) Well that crush turned into a ‘mini crush’. Now my huge crush is on a … man a freaken guy. He is cute……..to…I…and it scares me to think…. “I THINK HES CUTE????” WHAT????? I have many ‘mini’crushes on other guys my age.(all football jocks, all that crap) When ever I masturbate ( and yes I fell into that trap), I can only think of those guys. They are my only super charge spark turnon. When ever I try to think about naked girls, or sluts or w/e, I get turned off……. iT FREAKEN SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Ahhhhh what do I do… am I gay or just going through a phase? I REALLY WANT TO BE STRAIGHT. I have some vision of me coming home to see two children of my own, a boy and girl, and the most beautiful woman of my dreams. I am crushed to know that this will never happen because I …am gay. What do you think…..


My life practically depends on this… (thanks SO MUCH for reading the whole thing! Sorry that it was soooo long!)

[Rutherford The Brave]

Its a possibility that you are Gay, or you could be just curious. Ok listen the term "fag/faggot" should not be offense. You see because the original use for it was a bundle of sticks or a pound of meat. If you really feel like you are gay, then it may be hard but you have to accept it. Still what does being Gay have to do with anything? Nothing I tell you nothing! You can do just as much if not more than a straight Guy can!

[byee]

Listen, I think there are some very worthwhile threads explaining homosexuality around here, one written by Serenity as a sticky, and a few by me (try searching my posts). It might be worth your time to find them and read them they might answer some of your q's and provide reassurance.

But, just from what you're saying here, at 13, I'd doubt you're gay. I'm not hearing the stuff that guys who recognize who they are from you. You sound like a frightened, confused kid who doesn't have a lot of info, not a lot of self confidence, and no one to get straight answers from, and a whole lot of testosterone. That creates a lot of very frightening feelings that are hard to understand, but it does not mean you are gay.
Being attracted to attractive guys doesn't make you gay, being aroused by them doesn't either. And certainly being called gay doesn't indicate others X ray ability to recognize something as personal and complicated as your sexuality, esp. before you can!

My advice here is to try to wait it out and don't jump to any conclusions. It's not as hard tolerating the ambiguity as it would be to make a wrong assumption based on faulty judgement.

If there's more we can talk about after you've done some reading here, let me know.

[Cristiann123]

First of all ITS PROBABLY HORMONES!!! (probably) so its just a phase. your not gay, but the desicions yours to make if you want to be. and heres a thing to say the next time someone calls you a fag,

person- "hey you faggot" (laughs)

you- "well the word fag has to be experienced, so how do you know the
meaning of fag unless you have experienced it yourself!!!"

person- "well iv heard it from someone else!!!"

you- "well then THAT person knows what a fag is by experiencing it"


see its reverse psychology!!!:D

[Mr. Smithers]

You obviously need to accept yourself before you accept the fact that you think you are gay.

Whether you are gay or not, you should thank the lord for making you live another day. You really shouldn't care what other people think because they really aren't helping you in life. You should really think about that next time. You can't hope or wish yourself to be bi-sexual because you can't. You either are, or you aren't. You are just going to half to deal with it. Sooner or later you will accept yourself and the sooner you do, the better.

[Requin]

Your only 13. Hormones are running riot in your body and you'll get some sexual feelings for the same sex, jacking over them etc. I've done it, so have lots people on this site i reckon so your not strange or different.
It's your life, you decide what to do, not other people. If someone jumps of a cliff you don't follow him...well maybe you do if your mad but...it doesn't matter what people call you. The phrase "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is total bull in my opinion as they do hurt, more sometimes than someone throwing a stone at you as that pain only last a short time. Words can hurt for longer but you've got to fight them, ignore them, no one knows what your really like in your mind.
In short, people who call you a fag haven't got a clue what there talking about and most people who say that to you are probably having the same feelings you are.
AND remember your only 13!. Give it some time, wait, be patient, wait until puberty is over or nearly over then you should know your own mind by then. :-)

[Medical Kid]

yeah hormones take awhile to settle, a teen who thinks that they are straight as hell, could be down right gay next week. and so what if your gay? you are only truly beautiful if you are your self, if you are gay, good for you, we are all entitled to our own opinions and you may have a different sexual opinion, your not a 'fag' you are perfect for just being you man.

[nohstitain12]

hey i went through this phase for a while at your age you will get over it. mine was so bad that i had a guy jacking me off at least once a month (one of my friends ) i jacked him off too. he gave me a blowjob too (i didnt give him one). you will get over it and studies show that guys jack off faster thinking of guys than girls so dont worry the worst thing is that you could be bi.

[Zan0ra]

You're 13. hormones run riot in your body at that age. It happens to all of us. You say you like this guy because he's. "cute" What ever happened to personality? or are you taking that into account to.? Its possible that you could be gay, but I dont want to put any pressure on you.

Maybe your might want to try something new. A different way of life. You are young. Look into your heart and you will find the answer. the final decision is yours to make. And so what if you are gay. Whats so wrong about it? You say you have had all these crushes on girls before, then whats the difference about having then with guys now.? The idiots who try and force it on you. *yeah they do it to me aswell* are just plain stupid. Ignore them. Or tell someone about them.

Give it some time, then come back to it. If you truly feel that you are gay then I will support you on that. Hope I have helped.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

and may be if you are gay you can still have kids of your own a family just a man instead of a woman and beeing gay doesnt define who you are it defines who you like and you need to accept your self

[rsc4life]

I don't think your gay, I mean, this is just me, but I think part of being gay is whether you mind it or not? You sound like you DO mind it, and that you have been straight. I think it may be curiosity. But hey, that's just my opinion.

[Zazu]

Ignore post. Didn't look at the original post date, only the one above me.

[bradley16]

Personally....I don't like when people say you couldn't possibly know at that age. I knew I was gay by the time I was 13. Anywayyyyy....from what it sounds like this just started and you're just curious. Saying or thinking a guy is cute or attractive doesn't make you gay...most guys refuse to admit it but they thinks some guys are good looking too. Being gay and wanting to be gay are two completely different things. I believe people are born gay. No they're not born craving dick but they're predisposed to liking other guys. If you're gay or bi or whatever it doesn't matter how much you wish you weren't...you can't change who you are. Im not saying I've never wished I was straight...I mean people ask me all the time "why'd you choose to be gay?" I always tell them I didn't choose to be this way. If it were my choice why would a pick a lifestyle that in america is most often made fun of, discriminated against, and bashed. About the people in your town....idk where you're from but where I live I guess its because its the city but people don't really hate or make fun of gay people that much. I mean you're always gunna hear the word fag wherever you go but you'd have trouble finding a lot of peopl that would seriously make fun of a gay kid that much. For straight people.... 1. It gets old, same jokes allll the time 2.you sound stupid, ignorant, and not secure with your own sexuality. And 3. Pretty much the only girls you're going to impress by doing that are those freakishly christian overly republican girls. If you do find that you're gay...don't let what other people will think stop you from being who you are. If you ask me....I think you're just a curious horny teenager. A lot of guys are. So don't sweat it. Being gay is so much more than just physical attraction. You not being turned on by girls...that could just go along with your curiousity in boys. Maybe(if you are straight) you just need to try messing around with a boy to get it out of your system. But I think if you start growing attracted to boys more emotionally...then there's a really big chance you're gay or bi. But hey...there's nothing wrong with that.

Hope this helps :)

[Zephyr]

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