my mom scares me

[Yasmine]

my mom is just so untrustworthy to me, that i can't even tell her anything without punishment. she has no patience with me. the fact that i'm a male to female transgender doesn't help the cause at all. i don't know what my mom's problem is. if i try to tell her that she hurts my feeling when she does something i don't like, she just says "oh, well, what about this and that, and everything you do to me? it's not just about how you feel!" she doesn't even want to hear about the things i want. she just dodges them, and makes an excuse. as a matter of fact, i can't even have my privacy respected by her. i was looking through her jewelry box, and i found that she ripped a page out of my diary.

[DaretoFallup]

ouch, I'm sorry.
Try to write a letter or something and just give it to her, and walk away. She'll probably ask you about it. But you can't even make your point across. You need to have some communication. I just don't know what to say, basicly you need to find a way to communicate with your mom, so she can understand you.

[MrPinnick17]

Talk to her up front, be mature, don't whine or anything (Not saying you do). Tell your mom you want to have an adult to adult conversation. It sounds like you respect your mom, and if she doesn't respect you then something is wrong. I highly doubt she is like this because your a transgender, regardless she will love you.

If that doesn't work I'd suggest a middle man, such as a counselor to monitor things and make sure everybody gets out what they want to get out.how

[byee]

First, it sounds like you both have some boundary issues going there. Her ripping a page out of your diary, and you going thru her jewelry box. Somehow I doubt either had permisison to do these things.

You have enough going on being transgender, you don't need more hassles and disappointments with a parent. Two choices: Either you and she work this stuff out, probably with the help of a therapist, or you recognize your mom's issues and studiously, purposely, and intentionally show the very good judgement to avoid getting in her web. That measn using your knowledge and awareness of who she is and what she can give you (emotionally) and not over reach with your expectations. It sounds like those expectations are based more (understandably) on your needs, rather than her abilities. That's where a lot of problems arise, when we let our own needs influence our judgement and expectations of the others ability to give us what we need.

[kerry]

First, it sounds like you both have some boundary issues going there. Her ripping a page out of your diary, and you going thru her jewelry box. Somehow I doubt either had permisison to do these things.

You have enough going on being transgender, you don't need more hassles and disappointments with a parent. Two choices: Either you and she work this stuff out, probably with the help of a therapist, or you recognize your mom's issues and studiously, purposely, and intentionally show the very good judgement to avoid getting in her web. That measn using your knowledge and awareness of who she is and what she can give you (emotionally) and not over reach with your expectations. It sounds like those expectations are based more (understandably) on your needs, rather than her abilities. That's where a lot of problems arise, when we let our own needs influence our judgement and expectations of the others ability to give us what we need.


I fullly agree

[DarkWingedAngel]

First, it sounds like you both have some boundary issues going there. Her ripping a page out of your diary, and you going thru her jewelry box. Somehow I doubt either had permisison to do these things.

You have enough going on being transgender, you don't need more hassles and disappointments with a parent. Two choices: Either you and she work this stuff out, probably with the help of a therapist, or you recognize your mom's issues and studiously, purposely, and intentionally show the very good judgement to avoid getting in her web. That measn using your knowledge and awareness of who she is and what she can give you (emotionally) and not over reach with your expectations. It sounds like those expectations are based more (understandably) on your needs, rather than her abilities. That's where a lot of problems arise, when we let our own needs influence our judgement and expectations of the others ability to give us what we need.
totaly agree with that