sex

[kerry]

Well i really want sex with my boyfriend ..... We love each other and really want to have sex together ...... If we use condoms will we be alright
I'm 13 and he is 15 and we love each other and want sex together
i am a virgin and he is not
what do you think ?

[DarkWingedAngel]

well he is 15 and ur 13 it could lead to some problems how long have u been together with him

[kerry]

well he is 15 and ur 13 it could lead to some problems how long have u been together with him

I have been with him for 1 or 2 weeks :D

[Underground_Network]

^^ Not a good idea. This relationship seems to be turning into a more sexual one than it should be. Kerry, he's your first boyfriend right? Who came up with the idea of having sex? Was it him, was it you, or was it truthfully mutual [both]? I think you should wait, at least be with him for awhile longer. From what I can tell I don't think you're ready. I know what it's like to want sex, BAD. I have an extremely high sex drive and I've been in plenty of situations where I could've lost my virginity, but I've held off from having sex with any of those people because I don't truly love them, and I'm waiting until I find that "one", that "special someone" before I lose my virginity. And I don't believe in love at first sight. You have to wait, you have to be with someone for at least a couple of months. 1-2 weeks is nowhere near enough time. Sex is the ultimate form of passion, the ultimate form of love. You have sex with someone if you love them dearly. You have sex with them to show them that they are the one, the only [and to make babies]. 1-2 weeks is not enough time for you two to know if you truly love each other, or even if you're truly ready. Hold off. Be patient. Love requires patience, you should know that. Don't rush and go ahead and have sex. Trust me, you'll regret it. If he leaves you, it will be more painful than it has to be. Teenage relationships 90% of the time fail. Eventually you'll move on from him, and trust me, most guys have no problem dumping one girl [after having sex with her] and moving on to a new one, while most [teenage] girls have more trouble moving on after having sex with a guy [and having him dump them]. Don't put yourself through this, not yet anyways.

I don't think you're ready. Maybe you are, but I just don't think you are. The ultimate decision is up to you. Decide what you think is best for YOU, not for him. Just remember that. It's you that matters, make sure he's not taking advantage of you. Make sure the relationship is not just for sex. Make sure it means more than that; for YOUR sake.

[DarkWingedAngel]

^^ Not a good idea. This relationship seems to be turning into a more sexual one than it should be. Kerry, he's your first boyfriend right? Who came up with the idea of having sex? Was it him, was it you, or was it truthfully mutual [both]? I think you should wait, at least be with him for awhile longer. From what I can tell I don't think you're ready. I know what it's like to want sex, BAD. I have an extremely high sex drive and I've been in plenty of situations where I could've lost my virginity, but I've held off from having sex with any of those people because I don't truly love them, and I'm waiting until I find that "one", that "special someone" before I lose my virginity. And I don't believe in love at first sight. You have to wait, you have to be with someone for at least a couple of months. 1-2 weeks is nowhere near enough time. Sex is the ultimate form of passion, the ultimate form of love. You have sex with someone if you love them dearly. You have sex with them to show them that they are the one, the only [and to make babies]. 1-2 weeks is not enough time for you two to know if you truly love each other, or even if you're truly ready. Hold off. Be patient. Love requires patience, you should know that. Don't rush and go ahead and have sex. Trust me, you'll regret it. If he leaves you, it will be more painful than it has to be. Teenage relationships 90% of the time fail. Eventually you'll move on from him, and trust me, most guys have no problem dumping one girl [after having sex with her] and moving on to a new one, while most [teenage] girls have more trouble moving on after having sex with a guy [and having him dump them]. Don't put yourself through this, not yet anyways.

I don't think you're ready. Maybe you are, but I just don't think you are. The ultimate decision is up to you. Decide what you think is best for YOU, not for him. Just remember that. It's you that matters, make sure he's not taking advantage of you. Make sure the relationship is not just for sex. Make sure it means more than that; for YOUR sake.
u make a great point the one i was trying to make

[byee]

I think you're too young, Kerry. I think you're not ready for this, I think you should wait. i think the chances of this being OK for you, of you enjoying it, aren't very good.

I know I sound like a party pooper here, but I also know you a bit. I mean no offence, it's not a reflection of what I think of you or your maturity, etc. It's a studied, objective opinion based on my general judgement + my general knowledge about you.

Don't do it, 13 is too young.

Edit: You're saying you've been with him for one or two weeks?! C'mon, Kerry, it takes a bit more time to get to know someone well enough before you're ready for something as intimate as having sex with them, yes?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

One or two weeks!?!?!

That's not enough time even for most (mature) adults to consider sex with someone! People with an actual meaningful relationship could wait from 1 to several month (heck, they might even wait 'till marriage) before they have sex. You said he's 15 and not a virgin. How old were his other girlfriends? They very well could have been your age, and he could have used them just for sex! Which is exactly what he could be doing to YOU unless you were the first to mention it. If sex was in any way HIS idea and he started getting you thinking about it, then I don't think you should associate yourself with him or other guys like them. Think about how EARLY it is. No one would pressure you into having sex after only a damn WEEK unless that was all they wanted you for.

Think about this, be careful, and stay safe. You definitely aren't ready, and HE shouldn't be the first guy for you. You're only 13! Being honest with yourself this relationship probably won't amount to ANYTHING in the long run (sorry, but that's what it's like for MOST teenage relationships). I could even understand you're wanting to have sex, IF you had been together for several months and he really loved you. Love doesn't stem into "let's have sex" in 14 DAYS.

[cjdude]

my advice?
the same as all else...
DON'T.
i've had a few chances to have sex and i'm only 14.
i've passed them up on purpose because i dont want relationships based on simply sex.
thats not even a relationship...
Also, i wouldnt even consider sex with someone if we hadnt been dating about a month.
you have to know at least a little more about the person than you can learn in two weeks...

sorry to sound mature and all :)
i'm really not...

[Sugaree]

I have been with him for 1 or 2 weeks :D

Woah! Slow down there kerry! You've only been in this relationship for less then a month. You need to wait until the time is right. It could lead to major problems.

I would recommend that you stay together for another 2 or 3 months or when you feel ready. You are a virgin and he isn't. The thing that matters in this situation is that when the time is right for YOU that you can have sex.

If both of you were virgins then you both would know when the time would be right. But this is dependant upon you.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

13 is too young, it may seem like a great idea now but you'll regret it later when you're older. i had my first kiss @ 13 :S

[ThatCanadianGuy]

13 is too young, it may seem like a great idea now but you'll regret it later when you're older. i had my first kiss @ 13 :S

She speaketh the truth! :D

Your "first kiss" should be a great milestone at 13! Now just LEAVE IT at that! :whoops:

[Confuzzeled_Lots]

^^ Not a good idea. This relationship seems to be turning into a more sexual one than it should be. Kerry, he's your first boyfriend right? Who came up with the idea of having sex? Was it him, was it you, or was it truthfully mutual [both]? I think you should wait, at least be with him for awhile longer. From what I can tell I don't think you're ready. I know what it's like to want sex, BAD. I have an extremely high sex drive and I've been in plenty of situations where I could've lost my virginity, but I've held off from having sex with any of those people because I don't truly love them, and I'm waiting until I find that "one", that "special someone" before I lose my virginity. And I don't believe in love at first sight. You have to wait, you have to be with someone for at least a couple of months. 1-2 weeks is nowhere near enough time. Sex is the ultimate form of passion, the ultimate form of love. You have sex with someone if you love them dearly. You have sex with them to show them that they are the one, the only [and to make babies]. 1-2 weeks is not enough time for you two to know if you truly love each other, or even if you're truly ready. Hold off. Be patient. Love requires patience, you should know that. Don't rush and go ahead and have sex. Trust me, you'll regret it. If he leaves you, it will be more painful than it has to be. Teenage relationships 90% of the time fail. Eventually you'll move on from him, and trust me, most guys have no problem dumping one girl [after having sex with her] and moving on to a new one, while most [teenage] girls have more trouble moving on after having sex with a guy [and having him dump them]. Don't put yourself through this, not yet anyways.

I don't think you're ready. Maybe you are, but I just don't think you are. The ultimate decision is up to you. Decide what you think is best for YOU, not for him. Just remember that. It's you that matters, make sure he's not taking advantage of you. Make sure the relationship is not just for sex. Make sure it means more than that; for YOUR sake.


I completely agree!!!! I know that you think your in love, but you should seriously wait it out! You've only been together for 1-2 weeks! But I or anyone else for that matter can't stop you...so do what YOU think is right...It's YOUR life.

[hope14]

DONT DO IT
u'll regret it
are you ready for the reposibilty of a child if ur birth control fails
and do you really want to deal with a std at 13.....
stds can go undetected.. ur bfmay have one without knowing if he is already sexually active
and if ur going to do anything.. do it for yourself. not for him
u have ur whole life ahead of u....
just hold of
its a few years.....
ur 13.... uve waited this long... wats a couple of years more???

[Zephyr]

Don't.
Later on down the road you'll regret it.
You may think you're in love now,
But it's just teenage romance.
Trust me hun, I made that mistake.
If you want sex out of love,
I would wait.

[sabotaged111]

Don't.
Later on down the road you'll regret it.
You may think you're in love now,
But it's just teenage romance.
Trust me hun, I made that mistake.
If you want sex out of love,
I would wait.

I agree, DONT its not good for you mentally and perhaps even phsyically (at this age) and especially with a guy youve went with for 1-2 weeks! dont ruin your life!

[DarkWingedAngel]

if i were u i would take there advice but that is just me

[kerry]

i have decide to leave it for a few months

[Gumleaf]

i have decide to leave it for a few months

smart move. in 2 weeks you really have no idea how you feel about them. you need a lot of time to figure out your real feelings for eachother.

[Aηdy]

At 13 there is no way that you are ready for sex, especially if you feel the need to ask others.

Not only is it ileagal for you to do it but are you far too young to be dealing with those kind of responsibilities ond consiquences.

[kerry]

At 13 there is no way that you are ready for sex, especially if you feel the need to ask others.

Not only is it ileagal for you to do it but are you far too young to be dealing with those kind of responsibilities ond consiquences.

Lol you can't spell

Okay do you really believe teens listen to wheteher sex is illegal or not ? :eek:

[LeRoy_Fan]

Okay do you really believe teens listen to wheteher sex is illegal or not ? :eek:

As I'm sure there are plenty exceptions to the rule, I think the point of saying something like "sex for teens is illegal" is more of just to get it into their heads so that whenever they get to the point of having sex, that thought might just pop back up into their head and they just might not do something that they will regret later on.

[pubertygirl]

i have to agree. 13 is really young, and i know it sucks to not be able to do things because of your age. This guy is 15, right? 2 years can make all the difference. Is this guy a virgin? I really hope you decide against this or at least wait. Plus, you should get to know him. What if you have sex and then you break up. It will hurt you, and you know how school is: the next day everyone will know that you had sex, thats your personal business!!!

[iceyfresh]

you mostlikley will be fine but in some cases a condom can break but its not all that likely as long as your boyfriend know how to put on a condom and where it corectly

[GymNasty.x]

No Do Not.
I Did, Not Long Ago
And It Was A Big Mistake,
Im Not Going In2 Details
But Please
Dont Do It
Youll Regret It. Take It From Sum1 Who Knows.

[Patchy]

Please do not bump old threads

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