Kind of a sticky situation...

[LeRoy_Fan]

So, I just found out a few days ago that my best friend is helping to buy/sell weed.

The worse thing is, is that he was checking up on a deal while we were hanging out and hadn't told me.

I'm like WAY anti-drug, and I know if my parents ever found out he was doing this, they'd probably ban me from hanging out with him again.

I want him to stop doing this.

I am not sure what to do here.

Suggestions?

[Zephyr]

Just talk to him about it.
Tell him that you're concerned about it,
And how much potential trouble he may get into.
You can't make him quit, obviously,
But you can still be his friend and look out for his wellfare.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yeah you just have to confront him, if you care about him he wont be mad at you for expressing your concerns.

[kerry]

You should talk to him.
Don't forget you can't make him quit

[byee]

You're right about this being a sticky situation! And, I agree with what's been said so far. But, it's not about what your folks would do, it's about your own values and judgements and the relative importance you place on them in this situation. And how you apply them in real life.

I think people take different roads in life, and as much as we may not like it, we have to acknowledge that sometimes as a result, it means the end of the relationship. You have to decide for yourself how important this issue is for you, is it something that is tolerable for you? At the very least, the idea that he's with you and doing deals simultaneously should be a no-no, he should at least respect your wishes for the time he's agreed to be with you. Otherwise, there's an absence of basic respect (for you), and in the absence of that, you really have nothing of substance with the person themselves, it's just about the good time activity.

Spend some time determining the relative importance of this particular value you have (anti-drug), and how important it is for him to share that view, and discuss it with him then. But, I'd advise avoiding making it an ultimatum, by the time you speak with him, you should have already made this decision, and then you'd be sharing yor thought process with him.

Your struggling with this shows real thoughtfulness, btw. Good onya!

[DaretoFallup]

yeah i agree with the previous posts, unfortunately because you're anti-drug You'll have to tell him that he shouldn't be doing that kind of stuff... If i were you I'd basicly go up to him and say, "ok you really shouldn't be doing that, it could get you in to so much trouble. as a friend i would like you to quit doing that, because its not cool, and I can't continue to hang around you." If he doesnt stop soon, i know this may sound bad but hes your friend, you should probably call an authority.

[MrPinnick17]

I have friends who sell/buy weed, and it is very disrespectful towards you for him to be making deals while you guys are having your bro time. Not cool at all, I'd let him know, It probably won't be a big deal to make sure that you have nothing to do with what he does and that your around it, but people change. You most likely won't keep the same friends forever, but the best part about it is that when you loose someone, there is sometimes another who comes into your life and fills their void. It's just the beauty of having billions of people on earth.