omg im confused

[redfox]

im confused i have told alot of ppl and alot of them sy homosexuality is a choice so can some one give me the science behind being gay like wat causes it and can you choice to be straight

[george]

Well personally, I think you CAN'T pick what your sexuality is. Your simply born that way. Some people say that you can choose but to me, you just can't.

[MattHutzell]

I agree with my grandson

[MrPinnick17]

I read in Time magazine that you could actually be born gay. It has something to do with the way the brain develops. A homosexual man's brain is similar to a hetrosexual females brain. Read all about it here, it was really interesting.

http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1815538,00.html

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Maybe not now but later you'll come in terms with who you really are. Either way it's not gonna prohibit how far you go in life or the things you will be able to accomplish. It could be hormones, it could be whatever, growing up is a confusing time for all of us. You can talk to me about if if you choose to.

[george]

Huh, thats a very interesting article. But like I said before, your born gay and this news article just proves it :)

[byee]

No one knows exactly what causes homosexuality. Some think you're born that way, others not. Who knows? I donlt know if there's a definitive way to really determine this, it's just a lot of speculation and hand wringing.

What's certain is that you are who you are, and that really can't be known for sure for a while, there's enough confusion during adolsecence about just everything else! The other thing that seems pretty certain is that no one makes a 'choice' to be either gay or straight. However it happens, it just seems to happen, and it's largely beyond anyone's control. This idea that it's a 'choice' is probably rooted in ignorance, as well as this terribly misguided belief that if only people wanted otherwise they could be whatever they wanted.

The safest thing to do, esp during early adolescence, is to just wait it out and tolerate the ambiguity and don't jump to any conclusions. Things get clearer as you get older.

[kerry]

You do not choose what your sexuality ....... plus you are 13 and probably not sure your sexuality is by now .... You probably wouldn't find out your sexuality til you are older

[redfox]

thanx all some helped alot ,kerry i have found my sexuality already not to be mean but 80) i have lots of crushes on guy and duh every one nows