am i still a virgin

[DarkWingedAngel]

my bf recentley asked me to have sex with him and i tookup the offer it was at a party and he just put his dick inside of me but there was no humping goin on would that mean im still a virgin

[Texmex21]

i dont think your a virgin anymore if some guys dick was in u

[Sugaree]

I think that it would mean that you are still a virgin. I'm not entirely sure.

[robbiehay1]

I would still class that as being a virgin, as there was no real sex going on

[Antares]

If you ever do anything with anyone that has the word sex in it you are not a virgin anymore. In my opinion if you have anal, vaginal, or oral sex then you are not a virgin anymore. When he put his penis inside your vagina eventhough he never thrusted that was vaginal sex or sexual intercourse. Even if hes not moving it you are still open to getting an STD. So make sure you use protection all the time. For any sex.

[DarkWingedAngel]

but we were not naked eather he just had his zipper on his pants down and so did i :(

like i mean we were basicley just making out because even though his dick was in me he was not moving at all

[robbiehay1]

that doesnt matter there is still a chance of catching an STD

and please dont double post

[DarkWingedAngel]

srry bout the double post but he had put a condom on but then agen he was not moving at all except for us makeing out

[kerry]

I would still class that as being a virgin, as there was no real sex going on

i agree !

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i don't no what i should tell my mom eather because she does not no about this what should i tell her

[SirRawrsalot]

I'm more on neptune's side. It really doesn't matter what he's doing, penis inside vagina = sex (basically). I don't agree with what neptune said about oral, but different thread I suppose. Ya, whether his pants were all the way of unzipped or naked or not or enjoying it or not it's still sex, but if you two want to pretend it never happened than it isn't like there's a sign on your forehead saying you did it. It really isn't a big deal for me, but I don't know what normal people's parents would say.

[kerry]

nothing as nothing happened if you do sumat tell ur mum then

[DarkWingedAngel]

but the thing is he let out sperm and stuff in me and i have not gotten my peroid for 2 months do u think i could be pregnant o and im 14 to

[Antares]

Well everyone has different views on what contitutes remaing a virgin. Anyways for me I think that any kind of sex is losing your virginity. I mean I always go back to this. If I can get a disease then I am not a virgin. With oral sex you can proabably get an std so if I do that I lose my virginity in my eyes. Same with anal and the others. As for you I think you knew what was going on. You wanted it it seemed like and you were prepared because he was wearing a condom. Therefore I think you lost your virginity. Tell your mom? I don't know its all up to you. Then again its up to you if you think you lost your virginity because like I said everyone has different opinions on it.

Posts merged

EDIT: Well you say you guys were wearing a condom and if it didnt break or spill then you should be golden. Although it seems kinda weird that he cummed without at least one thrust.

[DarkWingedAngel]

but i wan't to find out if im pregnant because if im not the hell no im not telling my mom but if i am pregnant then i will be grounded for ever do u think im pregnant

[kerry]

but the thing is he let out sperm and stuff in me and i have not gotten my peroid for 2 months do u think i could be pregnant o and im 14 to

maybe you should talk to ur mum

start off with " hey mum can we have a lil chat ..... ! well when i was at a party me and my bf did something and he put sperm in me and i dont know whether im pregnant?"

[DarkWingedAngel]

but if i tell her i will get grounded forever and if i am pregnant then what am i goin to tell the dad

[kerry]

um well you are going to be mature about this talk to ur bf and mum and try to sort things out

[DarkWingedAngel]

no i need to no if im pregnant first

[Antares]

You said he wore a condom. As long as it didn't break or spill then you should be fine.

[sabotaged111]

You said he was using protection so i doubt you're pregnant, and id say you are no more a virgin as you were penetrated

[DarkWingedAngel]

ya but it broke

[Antares]

ya but it broke

Well then go to the store and get a pregnancy test. Although it might not be effective if you did it like yesterday. When did this happen?

[DarkWingedAngel]

i have missed like 2 or 3 peroids i did it like 2 and a half months ago or something

[Antares]

i have missed like 2 or 3 peroids i did it like 2 and a half months ago or something

Well I would suggest going to your local store and purchasing a pregnancy test. Then taking the test and await the result.

[DarkWingedAngel]

but my mom will find out if i get one

[Antares]

but my mom will find out if i get one

She won't find out if you buy a pregnancy test and throw it away in a dumpster or something. She will find out if you start getting bigger because you are pregnant. If you think you are pregnant just go buy the test and take it then dispense it in a place where it can't be found. If you are pregnant then you have to tell her. If you are not then you don't have to ever mention it to her.

[Yasmine]

what do you mean by, he put his penis "inside" of you? are you talking about the vaginal opening? if he stuck his penis there. i think that's as close to sex as you can get. the question "am i still a virgin" is more of what you truly feel. the question is, do you feel like you experienced sex? if you answer yes, then you aren't a virgin.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ya he stuck his dick in my vagina but he was not moving at all and there was realy no pleasure except for us making out

[Oblivion]

I agree with John.

Go get a pregnancy test. If you can't do it alone ask a friend to come with you.

I think most pregnancy tests are just 'pee on' tests, so if you just throw it away where you got it once your done, your mom shouldnt find out.

If you turn out to be pregnant i would advise telling your parents and bf, especially before they find out on their own (when you start showing your pregnancy)

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok but back to if im a virgin or not like did i realy have sex because i did not move and neather did he

[Underground_Network]

Well, lets put it this way. "Did you really have sex?" Well, lets see. If you turn out to be pregnant, I would say this would be the first case of someone becoming pregnant without having sex [with the exception of artificial insemination]. Thus you had sex [since there is that possibility that you could be pregnant] and thus you are not a virgin, since you engaged in what would be considered "vaginal sex".

[DarkWingedAngel]

but we did not move like i mean did not move at all now tell me how can that be sex

[Underground_Network]

^^ What does moving have to do with sex? Now in most cases, there would be some movement, but still, if there was penetration [if he stuck his penis in your vagina], it was "sex". Regardless of whether he moved back and forth or in any other direction, it doesn't matter.

[DarkWingedAngel]

so im not a virgin my mom is gonna kill me

[BeautifulSilence]

To be honest, it's whatever you want to class it as. No matter what, no one is ever going to agree on exactly what makes or breaks you virgin status...

Personally, I would have said you aren't a virgin, due to the fact that you have been penetrated. But you might want to ask him if he's going to count that one because there was typically no thrusting which is a huge part of sex. Just come to an argeement with him and then decide from there (if you both decide it WAS sex, you're no virgin, if you both believe that there WASN'T enough movement to classify it as sex, you're still a virgin).

[DarkWingedAngel]

but as i have said earlier i might be pregnant so would that clasify as me having sex

[BeautifulSilence]

Well if you're pregnant everybody will assume you're not a virgin. So you have no choice.

[Zephyr]

For the virginity: everybody has a different definition, so it's hard to tell. Figure out what your definition of being a virgin is, don't let us decide for you.

For the pregnancy test: GET ONE! You can take the test when your mom is away or asleep. When you're finished with it, dispose of it in a dumpster somewhere. I've taken a couple in my day and they're easy to get, take and dispose of with no hassle.

[DarkWingedAngel]

but my mom no people that i don't even no what they look like and they might tell my mom

[Zephyr]

Go to a Wal Mart and use the self-checkout if there is one nearby.

Just get a test, don't worry about your mom.
If you get grounded, so what.
At least you'll know if you're pregnant or not,
And she'll get over it.

[BeautifulSilence]

I don't wanna sound rude but...

It sounds like you're just making excuses for yourself not to take the test, now.

Yes, it may be the scariest 2 minutes (or however long ya s'posed to wait) of your life but sooner or later you're gonna have to face up to the fact that you're gonna have a baby (or not).

If you're that worried about your mum finding out, then go and buy one in a shop that a fair distance from your house, and like Steph said, do it when she's asleep or something.

[Yasmine]

it is possible for a male to ejaculate into a vaginal openining without sticking it inside, and technically that isn't sex. if a woman had semen inside her vaginal opening she's not a virgin in that sense, but she is a virgin to intercourse. i don't think you should be so caught up with the virgin or not a virgin title anymore. if you tell your mom you had that kind of contact with a boy, she's likely not going to be happy. most moms don't want to hear that their daughters are having boys in the house or anything like that. intercourse is a alot bigger than hugging or kissing. i think right now you should just lose your concern over your status, and focus on whether you are pregnant or not. you can't change the past, so you should just forget that it happened, and learn from the mistake.

[NextToNormal]

you are going to have to get over the fact that your mom will find out. eventually, shes going to come to the conclusion that you have had sex...whether its now or later.

you were mature enough to lay down with your boyfriend and have sex, if you want to believe it or not so youre going to have to be mature enough to tell your mom what happened. your mom knows that you are a teenager and are going to lose your virginity someday. wouldnt you rather have her find out now by you talking to her or when something happens (knock on wood that nothing bad happens) and she takes you to the ER and finds out there??

i know that you still want to be a virgin right now because you are 14, but if you are pregnant, than youre not a virgin. if not, and you want to still be a "virgin" because there was no thrusting, thats your choice.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

(Sorry to be blunt, just want to be quick about it)

1. You aren't a virgin; the MEDICAL definition of losing your virginity is a penis entering the vagina (therefore it doesn't matter that you "didn't move or anything"). The fact is it WENT IN, so by the most factual definiton it was sex and you lost your virginity (saying you didn't move is more of an excuse to kid yourself; sorry if you didn't want it to happen that way but what can ya do right?).

2. You NEED to take a pregnancy test. No excuses! Think about what will be worse: taking the test, being found out but you're actually ARENT pregnant. You might get in trouble for a while. On the OTHER hand, what if you ARE pregnant?! If you don't take the test it won't matter how hard you try to hide it, they WILL find out when you start to "get big" in the stomache.

Take the test, and most of all get help from your mom. Being "grounded forever" is the LEAST of your worries right now! Putting so much emphasis on that just goes to show that you definitely weren't ready for sex when you did it. Right now you need to support of your family and especially your boyfriend (since it's his responsibility as well).

[DarkWingedAngel]

so what ur saying is i should just tell my mom and face the music

[ThatCanadianGuy]

YOU SHOULD!!!!!

Definitely. This is the sorta thing that NEEDS to be talked about; she'll probably feel better if you told her than if she found out you'd been hiding this (or a possible pregnancy) from her right? THEN she'd have the right to get angry!

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok ........ but 1 question how should i tell her

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Ah... I can only tell ya that... you gotta tell her :whoops:

Do any girls on here have experience with this sorta thing (maybe not this exactly, but you know). All I can say is that however you tell her... you better break it to her gently and make sure she's in a good mood!

[Yasmine]

there isn't really a right or wrong way to tell her. she's going to be mad either way. tell her the soonest you get the chance, and get it over with. the longer you wait the more likely you are to never tell her at all. all you have to do is approach her and say "i had sex and i could be pregnant." then, that's when you wait for the response.

and, one more thing. you said earlier that you hadn't had your period in a few months. that could just mean you aren't regular yet. if having periods is relatively new to you, then you might not be producing eggs just yet. if that's your case, it's very likely you aren't pregnant.

[DarkWingedAngel]

i don't no anyone except one of my friends and she never told her mom or dad

[Yasmine]

i think you should just tell your mom and get it over with. i've never been in your shoes, but you need to stop beating around the bush, and tell her as soon as possible.

[DarkWingedAngel]

i have been having my peroid for awile now and it has regulated but im goin to tell my mom sometime

[Antares]

Hun, if you think you may be pregnant, you are not a virgin.

EDIT: Wait so are you getting your period or are you not. Have you started but it stopped recently? Or have you been getting it every month like usual?

[Yasmine]

if you've missed periods. it sounds likely that you're pregnant, but take the test before jumping to conclusions.

[krystalm]

ah.. it was intercourse. you are in fact no longer a virgin.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well we did not move a bit ok but ya i last had my peroid 2 or 3 months ago

[DaretoFallup]

well either way you're going to have to get a pregnancy test, unless, (if you're pregnant you want to find out the hard way) just walk in buy one walk out. I know it sounds simple but it really shouldn't be that bad

[DarkWingedAngel]

well there is no wal-mart or varity stores that have them all there is is the i.d.a store and my mom's friend works there

[Yasmine]

well, if it's too much trouble to get a hold of a pregnancy test alone. the only thing i can say is that you have to tell your mom. since you're to young to drive to a store further away from your house. you really don't have many other choices in the matter. if you don't find out whether you're pregnant or not, and it turns out you really are pregnant. you are responsible for a baby, and you are much to young for that. you need to get tested somehow, someway. if you aren't really pregnant, consider it a free pass, and learn from the mistake. if the test shows positive, you need to figure out your plans. you need to decide if you want to raise this baby as your own child, get it aborted, or give it away for adoption. it's really important that you get tested right away. this is a serious matter.

[The Pretender]

Virginity isn't really a set thing, it's whatever you think it is. Some people don't even believe that they or anyone else has a virginity.

[kerry]

You said he wore a condom. As long as it didn't break or spill then you should be fine.

i agree you should be fine ! :P

[DarkWingedAngel]

i told my mom and we just went out to get a test ................... guess what! im not pregnant yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[Yasmine]

oh, that's great. now you have that off your back. how did your mom respond? did you get in big trouble?

[Zephyr]

That's aweosme hun = ]
How did your mother take it?

[DarkWingedAngel]

she said awww my little girl is growin up and then i told her that i might be pregnant and she it is ok this happends and then she was like if ur pregnant then ur grounded but if ur not then les pretend this never happend and then she took me to get the test but before i had said who r u and what have u done to my mother but it was freaky i thought she was goin to scream

[LeRoy_Fan]

you were mature enough to lay down with your boyfriend and have sex, if you want to believe it or not so youre going to have to be mature enough to tell your mom what happened.

Best thing said in this thread so far.


/threadjack
she said awww my little girl is growin up


Are you freakin' serious. Honestly.

Ok, I'm going to be a little blunt here. I know that if I had a 14 year old daughter who had had sex with a guy (and I don't care that ya'll didn't move. He moved it in, he moved it out. That's enough movement to be considered sex.), I don't think the first thing I'd be thinking is "Aww, she's growing up." I'd probably be thinking about what I had done wrong that had led to having something like that happening. Has this world gotten to the point where pre-marital sex has just become a part of "growing up"? I guess the best way I can put it at a teen-to-teen level is saying that, if you hadn't of done that, you would have avoided a huge amount of stress in your own life.

//threadjack

[alex_93]

Best thing said in this thread so far.


/threadjack



Are you freakin' serious. Honestly.

Ok, I'm going to be a little blunt here. I know that if I had a 14 year old daughter who had had sex with a guy (and I don't care that ya'll didn't move. He moved it in, he moved it out. That's enough movement to be considered sex.), I don't think the first thing I'd be thinking is "Aww, she's growing up." I'd probably be thinking about what I had done wrong that had led to having something like that happening. Has this world gotten to the point where pre-marital sex has just become a part of "growing up"? I guess the best way I can put it at a teen-to-teen level is saying that, if you hadn't of done that, you would have avoided a huge amount of stress in your own life.

//threadjack

People deal with situations in their own way.
Under-age sex is just one of those things that happens now.
Or at least it is more heard of now.
I do not agree with unprotected sex at all and I think what she did was rather stupid.
If she feels she is ready for sex then I don't think there is much anyone can do however I do not agree she should have gotten away with unprotected sex so easily.
And to put it this way, what's done is done.
Learn from it, move on.

[kerry]

i told my mom and we just went out to get a test ................... guess what! im not pregnant yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

thats what we told u , you'd be fine
how did it go with your mum

[Underground_Network]

^^ She already said how it went with her mom, and I agree with LeRoy_Fan in that it is a strange way for a mother to react, but its not unheard of... Sometimes they actually say things like that to disguise what they're really feeling...

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I'm think we all should just be glad she took it so well! And honestly Leroy, pre-marital sex while it should be POSTPONED at least untill a person is emotionally and mentally ready for sex (like once they reach adulthood), it rarely happens! That's why her mom was so understanding; because she knows what it's like to be a teenager! No matter what time period, for hundreds of years teens have been having sex regardless of social stigma or the possible negative repercussions. I mean look at all the families from the 1950's that got married at 17 and had like 5 kids! That sorta thing was COMMON back then!

The bottom line is, parents SHOULD no that no matter how hard they try to prevent it (or steer their children in the right direction) they WILL want to have sex and if they REALLY want to; they WILL find a way to have sex and keep it a secret from you!

Okay, it's not like I actually agree with what happened here (sorry but I think you guy's were too young, just considering how little you knew about what was going on and what to do). If it were my child wouldn't have taken it so well. But then again I'd try to prevent this sorta thing from ever happening in the first place. The only way parents can do that is by educating their children about sex (the school system is terrible nowadays). We need to set an example for younger people as well as promote an atmosphere that allows for them to come to US with questions they may have, without worries about "getting in trouble for thinking about sexual things". VT forums is a great resource for this, but parents really need to step it up.

[LeRoy_Fan]

I'm think we all should just be glad she took it so well! And honestly Leroy, pre-marital sex while it should be POSTPONED at least untill a person is emotionally and mentally ready for sex (like once they reach adulthood), it rarely happens! That's why her mom was so understanding; because she knows what it's like to be a teenager! No matter what time period, for hundreds of years teens have been having sex regardless of social stigma or the possible negative repercussions. I mean look at all the families from the 1950's that got married at 17 and had like 5 kids! That sorta thing was COMMON back then!


Yeah..

I guess the thing that annoys me about this situation is that, apparently, her body isn't even developed to the point of maintaining a period, so I don't think that they should be having sex at this point. Bodies take a while to mature for a reason. :P

I'm glad she isn't pregnant, but I still stand by staying that it wasn't the smartest thing to do, and definately not at her age.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i definatly learned from that and my bf said that he is realy srry for all the trouble it has caused and that we will stick to kissing for the time beining but thanx for all the help guys

[gotquestions44]

ok first off u r still a virgin. i had anal sex 1 time and i consider myself an almost virgin. unless he cums after thrusting in ur vagina ur a virgin. and 2 u dont tell ur mom. how awkward would that be. eww:eek:

[DarkWingedAngel]

ya i no it was so awkward....................... yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees i finaly got my peroid today it was just a week late

[alexander]

i dont think your a virgen if he put his dick in yo but im not entirely shure

[liveandlearn]

but we were not naked eather he just had his zipper on his pants down and so did i :(

like i mean we were basicley just making out because even though his dick was in me he was not moving at all

You lost your virginity because his penis was inside of u! It doesnt matter if ur close were off our not. Or if there was humping that was vaginal intercourse and u should always use a condom!!:yes:

[hope14]

get a pergnancy test and aslong as its negative...
i'd stay quiet

[Zephyr]

Locked.

This thread has served it's purpose and it keeps getting bumped.