Help Me Out!!!

[chicarider23]

Ok, I've always thought of myself as being a little different from other girls as far as sexuality goes. but i've never told anyone before.

but the other day this girl comes up to me and says she has something she wants to give me after school. so i wait for her at the front, and she comes up and gives me his small box with a note taped to it.

when i got home, i read the note, and it said "i know" and in the box was a pair of her "undergarments"

i know this is probably her trying to hit on me, but should i try to hook up with her?

Please help, i'm very confused.

[VCSCjosie]

well. i think you should weigh you're options.
think about the possible future of what might happen.
i htink you should go talk to her about it and see what she says.
that's my best opinion. especially if you don't really know her??.
=]

[byee]

So much for subtlety!

It might be easier to answer your question by taking the fact that she's a girl and you're curious out of it for a minute. This isn't just about opportunity, it's about a very personal encounter with another person, and what the possible consequences might be. Do you know her? Do you have any interest in her (other than curiosity?), Do you know her feelings and expectations? Think about all that, maybe try to figure out the answers before deciding.

Regardless of what it is you do in life, the outcome is usually determined by a thorough understanding of the situation, the expectations, and the consequences, rather than the mere availability of some experience.

[DaretoFallup]

i agree with iamsam basicly think about what will happen, and depending on how well you know the girl.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

I would talk to her (in a relatively private setting, like off to the side at lunch or after school, not in the middle of class). Mention the "gift", and find out for sure what the purpose of it was (i.e. does she want a relationship, is she just looking to fool around, did she simply have one more pair of undies than would fit in her drawer?). If she just wants to fool around, this could be a good way for you to figure out your sexuality without any real strings attached. If she wants a relationship though, it's trickier. It can be harder to know what your sexuality is when you haven't had the chance to check things out. It's possible that, after trying a relationship with a girl, you may decide it's not the things for you after-all. So it's important to let her know that you're still questioning. Many lesbian girls get used in this type of way, by girls who just want to figure themselves out and aren't really looking for an emotional commitment, and it sucks. So before any of that happens, she needs to know where you stand and say it's ok.

Basically, you just need to sit down and talk to her. Get to know her better, since it sounds like you're sort of just acquaintances, make sure you're both on the same page about what this gift thing means. Maybe you could talk to her about what tipped her off to your "secret", and what happened for her to know that she was attracted to girls (assuming that's the case). It'll give you something to talk about, you'll learn things about each other, and maybe listening to her talk about her own sexuality will help you figure out your own. Try not to jump into things too quickly though. If this were a boy, you wouldn't become his girlfriend before getting to know him, would you? It's the same when you're dating a girl. If you base this all on your own curiosity and simply the fact that she's an interested female, you won't be as happy later on. Find out if you like her for who she is, and go from there. There will be more chances later if you decide she's just not your type.

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