i dont know

[kerry]

im 13 going out with a 15 year old boy is that ok ?
:confused:

[DaretoFallup]

yeah, because think about it most married people have at least a 3 year age difference

[byee]

It's not about chronological age, Kerry. It's about maturity and life experiences and expectations. When you're forty or fifty (!), I guess 3 years isn't much of a difference, by that time 2 people have experienced a lot of 'adultness', and have hopefully integrated it into who they are in a way that makes them very similiar, at least in terms of life understanding and gen'l maturity and such.

However, at 13, the diff between you is pretty significant. He's experienced a lot of things that are still in the future for you, he's a diff person in a lot of critical ways. This makes the relationship unbalanced, and risky. You are much more likely to get disappointed or hurt. Think about it in reverse: You're different than YOU were just 2 years ago, right?

I think having a boy friend who's older is OK, b/c the expectations and needs and demands of the 2 people are vastly different than when he is a boyfriend. Consider having him as a boy friend, that's pretty special and pretty good, too.

[Gumleaf]

i think its good as long as you are both in the same place sort of thing in the relationship and the feelings you share are the same. i hope it works out for you kerry.

[kerry]

thanks everyone

[Hyper]

It depends.. But yeah pretty much ok

[kerry]

okay thanks wasnt sure if it was right
i love him sooo much !

[ShatteredWings]

However, at 13, the diff between you is pretty significant. He's experienced a lot of things that are still in the future for you, he's a diff person in a lot of critical ways. This makes the relationship unbalanced, and risky. You are much more likely to get disappointed or hurt. Think about it in reverse: You're different than YOU were just 2 years ago, right?
Sam you forgot one very important thing...BOYS OUR AGE AREN'T AS MATURE. haha, it's not only okay, it's NORMAL to be dating someone two years older than you

[byee]

girl;313586']Sam you forgot one very important thing...BOYS OUR AGE AREN'T AS MATURE. haha, it's not only okay, it's NORMAL to be dating someone two years older than you


Gwyn, you've been insulting me now for a few days, what's with this "I FORGOT *anything* IMPORTANT?! Have I failed you in some way? Are you holding a grudge b/c I answered (correctly, i might add) your q eventhough you told the boys to keep out? LOL!

Anyway, I realize boys don't mature until we're, like, 40. It's part of our charm, you know.

Still, i think a 15 y/o is very different than a 13 y/o in a lot of very important ways, which means that there's a better chance of Kerry getting hurt here. It takes guys longer to control those urges and be as sweet and lovable and attentive as you chicas need us to be. So, while you're looking for that, hoping for it, and needing it, an older guy has another agenda b/c a lot of those controls aren't fully in place yet. So, you're needing something that's harder for us to give means that you're likely to get hurt.

People the same age are more likely to be on the same wavelength, their overall maturity is closer. So, their emotional needs are more likely to be in synch with their abilities to meet them. When needs are closer to abilities, there's less risk. Get it?

[sabotaged111]

Its okay, id guess

[kitkat92]

Yh its ok... I like a boy whos 2 years younger than me =)... Aslong as you like each other then age doesnt bother me =P

[kerry]

thanks people for ur help

[DarkWingedAngel]

go for it if he is nice then age realy does not matter