Well YOUR not, because IM not!

[Medical Kid]

ok get this!, Me and my best friend Brian are just walking past this little system of stores near the town we live in, we were about to go buy some lunch together (NOT like that, were just friends) so then we pass through an alleyway to get to a food stand, then these kids are smoking pot, and you,ll never guess what I saw.....my friend Mikey was there smoking, he looked like a complete mess, then he asked me and Brian if we wanted any, we both said no, then I asked him why he was hooked on it, because the past few weeks hes been all twitchy and mad about everything, he int himself anymore, the boy I was friends with since 3rd grade is gone, then the 3 boys smoking with him said if I told anyone they would beat me and brian up, and mikey didnt even say anything! then me and brian just kinda left, what should I do? I need to get through to him:(

[byee]

You should do nothing. Unless they're in imminent danger, you have to respect their wishes. Other than sharing your concerns with Mikey, there's not much else you can do.

As you get older, you'll see that some of the people you were friendly with make different choices than you. Part of growing up is accepting that, that people change, and you have to just be OK with that, that they change. You don't have to agree with the change, but unfortunately, you have to accept and tolerate it.

[kerry]

i would leave your mate its choice to ruin his life.....
you shouldn't do anything....
just leave him and respect his choice....
when he is older he may not do pot or whatever....
you do what you think is right which is rejecting the drugs...
NEVER DO DRUGS

[Φρανκομβριτ]

if he's happy doing that, then theres nothing you can do. I'm sorry, you've got to move on

[Whisper]

You should tell your parents
Hes your friend
don't put up with that shit
If your friends in trouble with drugs and some assholes then you need to do something about it
I had a similar case with a really good friend off mine
he was pissed at me for awhile but hes safe, hes good, and were talking now again
True friends watch each others back and do whats right not whats easy

[Medical Kid]

thats just it....I cant believe he would be bought in like that, I mean his older brother did drugs....he died from overdose of them when Mikey and I were 5,he cried for days and vowed he would never even touch drugs, but now were both 13 and he could care less now, and I ought to clobber the kid who gave him the drugs in the first place.....

[Φρανκομβριτ]

thats just it....I cant believe he would be bought in like that, I mean his older brother did drugs....he died from overdose of them when Mikey and I were 5,he cried for days and vowed he would never even touch drugs, but now were both 13 and he could care less now, and I ought to clobber the kid who gave him the drugs in the first place.....

That is very sad, and I feel bad for you. I don't think I would have touched drugs if my brother OD'd when I was young.

If all he is doing is pot, then frankly he isn't doing too bad. I say let him do it. It's stupid, it hurts to see him do it, but he enjoys it, and there really arent any adverse affects.

If he gets into harder shit, you need to confront him.

[Whisper]

thats just it....I cant believe he would be bought in like that, I mean his older brother did drugs....he died from overdose of them when Mikey and I were 5,he cried for days and vowed he would never even touch drugs, but now were both 13 and he could care less now, and I ought to clobber the kid who gave him the drugs in the first place.....

Then you need to confront him and remind him
if he tries to give you some bullshit excuses
call him on it

and no its not okay
I don't care what everyone else here says
Tell your parents, tell his parents, tell a teacher, w/e
but tell somebody and get him help
hes fallin in with a shitty crowd and has made some stupid decisions
Everyone fucks up sooner or later its part of life
thats why your there to watch his back
like later on he'll be there to watch your's


and as senior staff
i will remind everyone
that supporting illegal drugs on VT
is against site rules

[Φρανκομβριτ]

and as senior staff
i will remind everyone
that supporting illegal drugs on VT
is against site rules

That won't be necissary. We all know this is a VERY strict rule which MUST be followed.

[byee]

Well, you have a very powerful argument with him, you can remind him his brother is now dead b/c of drugs. Remind him of that.

It's hard to counsel someone on what's right here. Obviously, drugs are a bad thing to do, and it would be great if we could control all our friends decisions.

That said, you have 2 choices. You can talk/discuss/argue/plead with him about the dangerousness of his choice, and given his family history, the utter stupidity of it, too. I mean, he saw the results up close and very personally, and eventhough he was 5 when his brother OD'd, that's something that stays with you.

The other choice is to tell his (or your) parents. The fact that there's been a death in that family attributable to drugs changes things, it means Mikey might be more vulnerable to the same catastrophe. Drugs don't mean the same things in this family, it's not about 'choice' or 'respect', it's about death. You might have a bigger obligation to prevent his using drugs as a result.

Since you seem upset by all this (and rightfully so), maybe you should talk with your folks about it and see what they say. They can help give an adult perspective on it, and advise what the best course of action is.

[serial-thrilla]

talking to him is about all you can do. If he doesent want to stop then he wont. Weed can't kill you so i dont think that the "your brother died from drugs" is a very good approach to get him to stop and he will probably lash out at you.

[Medical Kid]

well I dont care, those kids hes hanging out with are terrible people, i realize i can not control him and make him not hang out with them, but i can make him wish he'd never met them of course......

[byee]

This is not about revenge or anything, it's about concern. Concern for his safety, esp. given his family history of drug overdose death. Sounds like you should be talking about this with your folks.

[Medical Kid]

oh not like that, its just the people hes hanging out with, he has no idea who they are, hes deeply afraid of those dirty little secrets they have, if i tell him, theres a chance he will give up hanging out with them, and as far as i know, they are the only people who have drugs in my neighborhood

[serial-thrilla]

well I dont care, those kids hes hanging out with are terrible people, i realize i can not control him and make him not hang out with them, but i can make him wish he'd never met them of course......
what exactly do these people do, that make them terrible people?

[Medical Kid]

I'm not sure I want to disclose that information thank you.

[total_blank420]

You should talk to him and try to get him off of it. That stuff can ruin his life and the lives of others around him. If you are really as good of friends with him as you say you are, you would find a way to intervene, not sit on the sidelines and watch him ruin his life like some other members are suggesting.