i need help

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

hey guys,
its been a really long time since ive been on VT, last time was at least a year and a half ago, not sure if this is in the right space but i kinda remember that this might b the place for this kinda thing

im going away this summer for about 5 weeks, and im leaving on saturday. im really excited its gonna be great but tomarrow im going to talk to my uncle on the phone who lives in michigan. im talking to him because it will be the last time ill be able to, he's losing against cancer and its estimated that he's got about 2 weeks left to live and i'll b gone then. so tomarrow im calling him because he wanted to talk with me for the last time. i mean i can accept that it's his time but at the moment i just dont know how im gonna do on the phone. he's not the kinda man that would want his last words with his nephew to be with me choking up, he's one of those tough guys, usually i wouldnt be asking for help when talking to people but for this i just dont know. any help would b great

[Bobby]

Make sure he knows you care about him, make sure you tell him how much you love him. Remember all of the good times that you had with him, recall past memories. Tell him anything you've ever wanted to tell him. I wouldn't know what to say to this either - it's a really hard situation. I'm really sorry about this though, it's tought to lose someone.

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

yea
i just cant really think straight about things right now
its like, how the hell do u say bye on the fucking telephone to a convorsation like this. ugh its just this stuff is supposed to happen in person, idk

[Bobby]

How far away do you live from him?

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

i live in new york, so its like kinda impossible atm for me to see him, im sure if it was remotely possible my mom would want us to go, but im leaving in two days, packing all day tomarrow and making final preparations so yea
i wouldnt even mind making the like 20hr drive there to see him for this, its just not possible with the time right now

[Antares]

I think you should not even really think about that kind of stuff. Don't think about that stuff until the very end. Just concentrate on thinking about the good times and making it as normal of a conversation until the end where you say "I love you and I will miss you." I think you should just end it like that. I am having issues trying to get my thoughts from my brain to this computer but don't make it such a heavy conversation. Be able to enjoy the conversation until the end where you may say your 'final' goodbye. I am sorry if that doesnt make sense but that is kinda what I am thinking.

[Bobby]

It's unfortunate - just cherish hearing his voice. In the sad situation it's all you can do. I'm sorry about this.

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

thats what i was thinking Neptune, like i said he's the kind of guy that wouldnt want people crying over him. i think he'd know how deep within me its coming from if i were to end it simply by saying like "i just wanted to say i love you and am really going to miss you"

[Serenity]

Moved to DL&G

[byee]

aThis is a really hrd one for you, i am sorry.

lLsten, no one is 'tough' in the end, say what you want, get choked up if you need to. It's OK.

Tell him what you need to, express what you want , get it all out. Dont' hold back, be there, don't worry about your reaction or his.

I'm really sorry for you, this has to be very hard.

[DaretoFallup]

i'm so sorry, but just make sure he knows you love him..and im very sorry, i also recently lost a grandmother and aunt from cancer, i know its hard just make sure he knows that you love him

[kerry]

i'm so sorry, but just make sure he knows you love him..and im very sorry, i also recently lost a grandmother and aunt from cancer, i know its hard just make sure he knows that you love him

Agreed make sure you tell them you love them !