Just realized....

[Rutherford The Brave]

I just realized that I can't do this. It's not that I don't want to be there for the birth of my daugther, but how am I supposed to tell her Im 30 when she turns 15? How am I supposed to tell her that she was an accident. Most of all I don't have 400,000$ which is the average cost of raising a child. Also, I don't ever want to see my daughter come home crying because of rascists, (Noor being 100% Morraccan, me being 100% Native American.) I just don't think I can do it, I can't be the every man while working two jobs and trying to listen to my dad. Life is just way to hard; on top of this I have 1 working arm and one last nerve.

[Ryandel]

Don't worry, you'll make a great father no matter what. If you ever need support, there's always people around you more than willing to. The way you helped us on here, is even more than enough of assuring you that you'll be a great dad. Although that racism is still in this world is sad, people start learning more and more about human equality. I'm sorry if I'm not much of help. Personally I think you're gonna be a loving father with a beautiful daughter and wife.

[byee]

You're having a "Moment". It will pass.

As Ryandel rightly observes, you'll be a great dad. Your awareness of all these things ironically indicates that, you will rise to the occasion and be the best dad you know how to be, you will make the right choices and the necessary sacrifices to insure that.

In the mean time, maybe focus on how much fun it will be to have a daughter! how neat it will be when she becomes 'daddy's girl', those giggles, the eyelash kisses!

You'll be fine, don't worry.

[theOperaGhost]

It will be a tough time, but don't skip out on it. You will make it through the years. Sadly, racism is present, but tough people can make it through that. There will be many tough times ahead, but there will be more good times ahead with having a daughter.

You will be a great father!

[Hyper]

Listen your a great guy.. Most 15 year olds would've gotten rid of the ''accident''

Your child isn't an accident if you truely want to raise her and if you will truely love her. I can imagine that its hard but you've got to give it your best think of your 2 girls :)

Things will get better if you look hard for a way to make things better

[DaretoFallup]

i'm sure you'll make a great dad

[Acronychal]

I agree with everyone else on this one.
I have a friend in the exact same perdicament. You know you're going to love your daughter, so that doesn't make her an accident. It makes her fate. You don't need all that money all at once. You have time, and you're working to get it.
The very fact that you're sticking by Noor already makes you a great father. You're sacrificing a lot, but gaining even more. Things ARE going to be difficult, but they're NOT going to be impossible. As soon as you hold that baby girl in your arms, you'll just know that it's all going to be alright.

[total_blank420]

I would suggest talking to notsure101 he had the same thing happen to him.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I would suggest talking to notsure101 he had the same thing happen to him.

Thanks but no Thanks I can handle this situation myself, well atleast I have too..

[total_blank420]

you don't have to, you just want to

[Rutherford The Brave]

you don't have to, you just want to

Notsure is a nice guy but I'm quite sure he isnt going to know step by step what to do. I dont want to I have to, I'm not leaving Noor behind to fend for herself. So I HAVE TO I have no other choice I can't have someone here to hold my hand through everything.

[SirRawrsalot]

You never have to do anything. You make choices. Staying with Noor is the right thing to do in your mind. And also you probably wouldn't want to leave her on her own, so in a sense I guess you want to help. Anyways, I think that it will definitely be hard, but you made the right choice. A lot of people would be too afraid of a situation like yours. Already I respect you more than a lot of people (including me... Edit: I would have given you some rep for the statement above, but I must've already given you some. sorry). And also, no one knows what to do step by step. Just do what you think is right.

[total_blank420]

First of all, Notsure is only 14 and has a daughter. Second, you are suggesting going through this with no firsthand knowledge of what to do in this situation. That is not the attitude to have in this situation. Talk to him and PM me if you want to continue this conversation.

[The Batman]

First of all, Notsure is only 14 and has a daughter. Second, you are suggesting going through this with no firsthand knowledge of what to do in this situation. That is not the attitude to have in this situation. Talk to him and PM me if you want to continue this conversation.
He's already said no so leave it at that. Whatever nosture is going through will be different from what he is going through.

This is something everyone goes through when an unexpected pregnancy happens. The best thing you can do is be there. Noor's parents are helping and I'm sure that it'll all turn out for the better. You might feel like you can't do it now but on that day when you see the face of your child for the first time I can guarantee you that it will all be worth it.

[total_blank420]

He's already said no so leave it at that. Whatever nosture is going through will be different from what he is going through.

This is something everyone goes through when an unexpected pregnancy happens. The best thing you can do is be there. Noor's parents are helping and I'm sure that it'll all turn out for the better. You might feel like you can't do it now but on that day when you see the face of your child for the first time I can guarantee you that it will all be worth it.


thats what i have been saying the whole time!!

[Rutherford The Brave]

First of all, Notsure is only 14 and has a daughter. Second, you are suggesting going through this with no firsthand knowledge of what to do in this situation. That is not the attitude to have in this situation. Talk to him and PM me if you want to continue this conversation.

I know what to do. I dont need no petty words (no offense Notsure) You tell though total, do you know what its like to stand up to a 6.4 300 pound man and tell him you got his daughter pregnant? No words can help me, only I can help myself. I am working myself to death, I don't need someone to tell me to do this and that. I need to work based on what I have, and what I can do. I am working my ass off, I dont need some "words or lessons" I need a friggin miracle and 400,000$.

[total_blank420]

there is someone who specalizes in miracles and you might already know him. as for standing up to someone, i did have to answer to my girlfriends dad when they found out that she had sex. (he benches 450)

[The Batman]

Your just thinking about it to much, you just need to find something else to take up some time.

[total_blank420]

I agree with Light. Stop thinking about it so much. you are making it more complicated than it really is.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I agree with Light. Stop thinking about it so much. you are making it more complicated than it really is.

You sir are very rude... Its already complicated.

[total_blank420]

i'm rude?? you threw the offer for help right back in my face in the rudest way possible!!

[Maverick]

Calm down children. :)

[Ryandel]

There's always 2 paths in life. Now whether if that's the right path or the wrong path, the yielding results in the end will always be the same. That result is the fact that you have gained wisdom and a higher level of determination by walking through those paths. In your case you have walked through a path that has made you a better person than you already are. You have furthered in progression of your perseverance, determination, wisdom, truth and love. As I posted before, you'll be a great dad. Also a role model to those who are young with expectancies. Congratulations on your soon to be daughter.

-Alex

[total_blank420]

well put ryan.

[Ryandel]

Please don't just agree with other's peoples post, without making any constructive posts. It really bothers me.

-Alex

[Maverick]

Please don't just agree with other's peoples post, without making any constructive posts. It really bothers me.

-AlexIts not your place to tell people what they can and can't post.

[Ryandel]

Apologies for that. Was just stating that in an opinions perspective. I'll end it with this.

[alex_93]

Back to the topic at hand-you are standing by your daughter therefore are already showing high levels of commitment so I think you'll make a great dad and of course its guna be hard bad fatherhood always is it will just be that bit harder in your case. Are there people around you willing to support you?

[Lord C]

That's exactly what I was going to say ^

I think you're already a great Dad for standing by what you're doing. Obviously I know nothing about fatherhood as I'm not a father. But everyone can do something if they want to.