"I love you like a sister -Luv 'name' "

[Lil' Kiss]

*Grumble* So I chickened out. I had it all set up and I chickened out. I bought a plant I was going to give her then tell her and I chickened out... *sighs*
Incase you all forget that post of never read it, I'm dearly in love with a very very good friend of mine and I am just so damn scared I still haven't told her... I want it to be just right you know?

It's the end of the school year. We are going to different schools but we are going to meet up every other week if not every weekend. My family and Hers have also agreed that she will be coming to mexico with us for two weeks next year...

I really want to do it before then.. because if she loves me too then that would make the trip just that much more special. I also don't want her to feel awkward around me in the event that she turns me down.

I still enjoy sewing things for her and she tally loves them.

Now in my year book she signed it "I *heart* you like a sister. - Luv *name*" This confused me... Everyone else wrote 'Love *name* I've never gotten a I *heart*you like a sister...

Does she know? Does she know how much I love her and she's clearing things up? But if thats the case how come she always says "i luv you" when were fooling around? I flipped the boat today and once i was safely beached onto the shore she laughed and said she loved me in a playful way. if she was trying to clear up that she doesn't love me that way she'd be more careful about saying things like 'i love you' even if it was playful right?

I just don't know how I should react to this note? She phoned me last night to leave me a message and ended it with "See you lover." yeah we joke about sex (with guys) like nuts, and I know she will call her other friend lover every now and then but thats the first time she ever said it to me >>; I call her love sometimes...

Ugh soooo confused. Are all women this hard to read? poor guys >>; Does anyone have an option? Also any ideas on how to tell her "hey I'm bi and um I kinda have a crush on you" or "Um you know how *name* said she was bi? Yeah i am too... And well if I could date anyone.. it would be you"in a way that might be forgiving? I've read somewhere a good place to tell someone is in public but If I did that i'd want to be at a restaurant so i could treat her to something but i don't think mom and dad would just let me up and lave for dinner. We are going to the stampede in calgary in a few weeks. I could tell her there? >>; Lotsa distractions. in the case of an emergency exit there is always "oh hey lets get on this ride *selecting ride with no line up*" ?

I mean she lets me hug her, she lets me hold her by the waist, she lets me hold her hand when there is a scary part in the movies, she lets me 'link' arms with her, she loves it when i give her back messages (spl?), I always am giving her presents that out my love right out there though i never comment on it.

We had a school dance last friday and i got to dance with her (club like no slow dancing or anything but you get my drift) and i just got to get loose, that was a lot of fun. She shops with me me and tells me what jeans look sexy on my butt...yet whenever a situation pops up that could have a gay side to it she says "in a non lesbian way". Do you think she says that because she's worried about how I may react?

I'm so conffused and worried at the same time...

[Requin]

Hmmm, ur sure your not misreading all of these signs. Maybe your not i'm just thinking that girls saying what jeans look sexy on eachother and stuff is kinda normal as girls do this.
But saying this i personally think there's something else there between you. She probably just wrote that message in your yearbook, cause your friends?? I could be wrong.
I guess you could ask her at this thing your going to together, but remember that if she doesn't feel the same way about u as you do her, just leave it as it could ruin your friendship.
Well that's what i think anyway, it's probably alot of bull :-)...but i try.

[byee]

Listen, girls aren't that hard to read, I don't think that's the issue here. I think you need the message to be said in your way, though, you're unwilling to do a proper translation of hers!

She clearly likes you. Sometimes, when people really like someone, they find it a bit scary, so they tone it down with 'hearts', and 'luv', and such. Because it feels different for her, she expresses it differently. But I think the message is clear.

You're needing some reassurance from her, which might be a little to 'real' for her to give directly, so it might be better to just 'know' without having her to say it. Likewise, i'm not sure why it's so important for you to tell her, I bet she knows it, too. Non verbal communication is as powerful as using words.

Just enjoy the relationship, enjoy her knowing and your knowing, maybe take the pressure off of saying it and talking about it.

And that part about your being bi I'd keep to myself for the time being.

[alex_93]

hey like all the touching and jeans stuff is kinda normal for 2 teenage girls who love each other....even if it is just as friends.
I love 1 of my mates 2 pieces and we hug and hold hand and 'link' arms all the time but i dnt feel any 'gay' feelings towards her.
All I'm trying to say is b careful she might not feel the same way BUT if she loves u it shouldn't affect ur friendship 2 much.