Will he make up his mind???

[Oath]

Ok i went to my one friends house we were playin with her dog when her mom comes out and tells us that Chris and max are coming over(chris and max are 2 guys from my grade were all just friends.)
Well they come over and we all get really bored so we decide well play a game with her little bro. outside. Me and chris were on one side of the house and Kerry and max were on the other side. (This is at night)

Me and chris used to talk online. Online he said he liked me and i said i liked him but we never went out. There was this rumor goin around our school that everthing i said to chris online was a lie.

Anyways that night i told chris that everything i said online was true. and then kerry and max called us to come to them so when we were walkin to
kerry and max chris put his arm around me and i put my arm and him.
Kerry came to tell us that we were goin to go inside cause she hated playin with her lil bro.
So we went in the basement and i layed down on the huge bean bag pillow she has and chris layed next to me (i didnt ask him to or anything)i layed next to him for a while he smiled at me and closed his eyes and said he was tired so then i decide ill sit on the sofa and chris got up sat next to me and he put his arm around me and he push me closer to him.
Kerry asked chris if we were goin out he said no. Then kerry asked chris if he liked me and chris said i like her and ally. ally doesnt even like chris 1 bit.

I was like WHAT how come your acting like you want me but you dont even like me 100%.( i didnt say that though i was just think it)

Then my dad came to pick me up (it was like 11:00pm) chris game me a hug goodbye and i left.

In the car on the way home i was thinking why chris likes ally she hates him (i think).

At school on monday i asked him if he was just joking around that night and he said no. then i asked him if he made up his mind between me and ally and he said no. im pretty sure he never will cause kerry asked him who he likes and he said no one now.

He still flirts with me but he also flirts with ally but all bearly flirts back.

Any advice what i should say to chris or what i should do??? :( Casue i really like him but he cant choose.

[nullandvoid123]

if he cant decide between you and another person, then he doesnt deserve what you have to offer.

[ScotsGirl]

It sounds as if he is enjoying the fact that you want him. :?
You have made yourself available to him, and as long as you are there and waiting, he is always going to try and chase after something else thinking that if it doesnt work out, then he will still have you.
I suggest talking to him again, but this time just lay it out on the table. You have been honest about your feelings for him and if he isnt prepared to return the favour then you need to move on...
Dont put your life on hold because he doesnt want to make a decision. You are worth far more!
I know its tough :( , but dont let anyone make you feel anything less than special...if they do, then they arent worth your time!
I hope everything works out alright sweetie!

:D
xxx

[teencrazykid]

Yeah seriously, he needs to choose. Do what Lynne said, if he doesn't choose you or her, forget his sorry ass. If I were a girl, I wouldn't wait for him to decide between me or somebody else anyway

[Hi i am jon]

i disagree with you all for the fact she should talk to him!, do you know how uncomfortable that would be!, and that may break your friendship off!

not to be rude but i think.....if he is put on the spot and asked if he likes you and says yeah and another girl its just to not make you feel bad or anything........if he really really liked you he would not be thinking of this "ally" girl.....i say just act like nothing happens move on in life, you know all that listen to your heart crap but most importantly......listen to VT....especially me, with out me VT isnt fun

[icegemz]

rite 2 me itz like this u like him and act like u like him but the otha gal isnt intrested. Thats probly the winnin factor 4 her. Not bein intrested does sumit 2 a guy so act like hes the last thing on ure mind. if gets a clue and asks u wats the matta tell him ure sick of flirtin wen he cnt even mke his mind up. if afta this convo he still doesnt choose ditch him and find a man that likes u and only u! lol or u cud just torture him till he says a nme

[Oath]

Hey thanks everyone!

But today at school chris was being so nice to ally during the day. he was waiting at her every move! and he didnt pay attention to me. but at the end of the day he was all over me. i didnt get it.
Chris also seems to act diffrent wen hes not with his guy friends (maybe thats why he was like that at kerrys, be cause 100 boys wernt around, well max is male but is so a girl to me and kerry if you no what i meen)

Anyways i have this huge halloween every year and of course i invited chris maybe that will be a great time to pull him aside and actually talk to him

What to you think?

[teencrazykid]

Put it on the line. If he doesnt make a decision, dont let your whole life go by waiting for a loser like him

[Oath]

Put it on the line. If he doesnt make a decision, dont let your whole life go by waiting for a loser like him
If i do that he will so he doesnt no...

I talked to him online last night he was being really nice. We talked about how we hanged out a lot more last year...we mite hang out this weekend.

Today at school he didnt pay as much attention to ally...but hes still always w/ his boyz.

I kinda wanna ask him out but im not sure. He nos i really really like him but he said hes not a player so he doesnt alwasy like who likes him...i dont get it hes alwasy playin games...

Should i ask him out at my Halloween party?

[ScotsGirl]

Ok firstly...

...he said hes not a player...

He actually said that? :? ...hmm...

...i layed down on the huge bean bag pillow she has and chris layed next to me (i didnt ask him to or anything)i layed next to him for a while he smiled at me and closed his eyes..

chris was being so nice to ally during the day. he was waiting at her every move! and he didnt pay attention to me.

...at the end of the day he was all over me

And he doesnt think he's a player? :shock: ...riiiight :?
Sweetie, he is totally playing you :( .... you do see that, right?

Like i said before he seems to be enjoying the fact that you like him and also you mentioned...
"chris was being so nice to ally during the day. he was waiting at her every move! and he didnt pay attention to me. but at the end of the day he was all over me. i didnt get it."

Again, like i said

You have made yourself available to him, and as long as you are there and waiting, he is always going to try and chase after something else thinking that if it doesnt work out, then he will still have you.

And unfortuneately, thats exactly what he seems to be doing :( He tried with Ally all day but didnt get anywhere so then at the end of the day, he turned his attention to you...

Im sorry that he is being like this :( . You seem like a really great girl :D
It is your decision whether or not you choose to ask him out, i still suggest at least talking to him and just laying it all out, no bullshit. Make it clear to him what you are wanting to happen, even if you dont actually ask him, and make sure he knows you want a reply. That way he is forced to decide and it will stop him putting off making his mind up any longer. And the least you can hope for is closure on his feelings towards you, right?

Just be careful with things, dont sell yourself short!
If he doesnt want to take the opportunity to be with you, then it is his loss!

Goodluck with everything!

Lynne
xxx

[Elokyn]

I completely agree with Lynne (Scotsgirl) on this one. Good luck with everything :hug:

[Hi i am jon]

i agree with them ^, just forget bout the dude, there will be others

[Oath]

Ya but i cant forget about him...n hes not as bad as u guys make him sound.

I Live in Fear of Life: Lynne is totally right, he is playing you.
My only question to you is this: why would you want to go out with someone who is playing you? I would just totally forget the loser, he isn't worth your time.

like i said hes not as much of a player as u think he has a reallly good personality hes funny, cute ,and athletic. n wen hes not at school w/ me hes so diffrent.

Lynne: ...

thanks for your advice but i dont really no what to say to him at my party he already nos i really care about him n like him....but the fish wont bite the bait. i dont wanna be like " i love u go out with me...n i cant really force him to choose...no matter what hes just gonna say i dunno who????

~Cassie~

[Oath]

Yesterday i went to a football game. I spent most of my time with my x boyfriend n his friends. It cool how me n him are still friends after r almost 2 year relationship. Anyways i was talkin to him n his friend but then i walked away for a sec. to say hi to my friend Kerry. When i went back over to my x bf (connor) he said "ive been down that path already but i dunno" to one of him frineds. when connor left n it was just me n his friend i asked him what him n connor were talkin about??? he said that he told connor to go out w/ me or something n then i guess connor said i already been down that path but i dunno....so i dunno if connor still likes me??

Anyways back to Chris i say him on my way out after the football game. i guess he was sittin w/ his friend danny. When i saw chris i smiled n he looked shocked n then gave me a big smile back......
I think now at school im not gonna talk to him if he likes me he will come up to me n talk to me n stuff....

My halloween party is comin up n i dunno if i should spend my time w/ chris or connor???? its a hard disision.

[ScotsGirl]

thanks for your advice but i dont really no what to say to him at my party he already nos i really care about him n like him....but the fish wont bite the bait. i dont wanna be like " i love u go out with me...n i cant really force him to choose...no matter what hes just gonna say i dunno who????

No problem at all Cassie :D .

And Connor was right with what he said about going down that path before....although, surely he could have come up with a nicer and more imaginative way of saying that :roll: ...maybe...adding some words in like that "beautiful path" :D or .....oh umm...sorry...got carried away there :P hehe. (someones been watching too many chick flicks :roll: :oops: hehe :P )
Anyway, just be careful with that, it didnt work out once so unless youre prepared to put all those reasons it didnt work out behind you, theres a good chance that it will fall at the same hurdles...
You say that youre really good friends with him now? Maybe youre friendship is better than an actual relationship could ever be? But only you will know that so its your call.

I have a question though, are you considering Connor because you like him? Or because there is a chance he likes you?

I know its easy to think you like someone because you know they like you, but its often the confidence and the feelings that you get from knowing that someone admires you, as opposed to actually liking them as a person. Im not saying that this is what it is in your case, im just saying it often happens and it is very easy to fall into it, you just have to think hard about your own feelings.

And as for Chris...its difficult with these kind of things over forums because we only know as much as you tell us regards to him being a player. From what you have told us, it seems that he is playing you. Even if it is on a smaller scale. But there could be alot of reasons for him acting like that, maybe he doesnt even realise himself.
And im glad you decided what you are going to do and not talk to him at school. Let him do the chasing for a change ;)

Anyway, youre halloween party, think about who you like best, who do you want a relationship with. And who says you cant spend some time with both of them, no one said flirting is a crime ;)

Goodluck with things sweetie! :D
And i hope you have a great night! :D

:D
xxx

[Oath]

ok my friend keri was talkin to me onlinne n she told me to ask chris out...then chris came online n i said keri wants me to ask u out...i dunno...y???(hahah)
then he said he couldnt answer that question cause he doesnt no who he likes...? How gay is that!!!!!!!

I no i like chris so...................................................................much more then connor! I think it would be best if me n connor just stayed friends.

i didnt really talk to chris at school but he actually talked to me...(SCORE...!!! haha). it was fun we laughed a lot.
then i asked him if he decided who he likes...he said he probly wont decide for a LONG time...i told him im tired of waiting n he say well ull just have to wait.

i really want him to like me cause i like him so much...i think ill ask him about at my halloween party...maybe he could give me an answer if i talk to him in person...i dunno though.

What does VT think hahahah...???

[Oath]

hey today at school was fun..he talked 2 me n i didnt have 2 talk to him 1st...i think he gave up on ally. but he wont decide who he likes...n i dunno y???

Can someone give me some advice....what should i do?

[ScotsGirl]

i asked him if he decided who he likes...he said he probly wont decide for a LONG time...i told him im tired of waiting n he say well ull just have to wait.

No! no you dont 'just have to wait'! :(
You cant go out and find someone else, someone that will treat you well and make you feel as special as you are!

I think you should (at least) talk to him at your halloween party if you want to :D .
However if he doesnt decide then in my opinion, you should move on. And i also think that you should tell him exactly what your intentions are if he doesnt decide.
I still cant help but think that he likes the fact that you like him and thats part of the reason why he wont tell you his decision :? .
But as ive said before, its up to you what you say to him.

I just think you should stop putting your life on hold just because he doesnt want to make a decision :( .
:hug:

"No man is ever worth your tears, and the one who is, will never make you cry"

Goodluck sweetie!

xxx

[Oath]

honestly i have no1 else...

[Oath]

yea i dunno...im the kinda girl wen i make up my mind theres nothing stopin me from gettin what i want...so i think chris will come around but if not ill find someone else...im gonna give him another month to decide....like i said i cant really think of ne1 else

[Spifyrifical14]

give him 2 weeks to decide and if he cant decide after 2 weeks im afraid you might need to give up on him

[Oath]

I went to a dance w/ my friend Kerry. Chris was there i danced w/ him twice....haha....but he said he maybe would tell me that nite but he never did now he said hes gonna tell me this week...but i dunno....

Today we had to listen to to guy talk at school for like 2 hours. I sat next to chris he didnt care.....
Then in the hallway on the was back to homeroom this 1 kid named PJ was talkin to chris...i couldnt hear wat they said but then chris said PJ UR JUST JEALOUS CAUSE CASSIE LIKES ME AND NOT U, GO ASK HER SHE DOES....it was funny!

my frined Rocky (hes friends w/ chris 2) thinks chris cant decide between me n sarah....but my other frined abbi thinks chris likes ally.....so i have no clue wat chris is thinkin

[Oath]

now i dunno what hes thinkin...n i dont think he will tell me...maybe i should just ask him out...

but if he says no should i still really like him or what???

[ScotsGirl]

but he said he maybe would tell me that nite but he never did

now he said hes gonna tell me this week...but i dunno....

That is him playing you sweetie! He is saying things that he has no intention of actually doing but they will guarantee that you will wait around to find out if he does them...

now i dunno what hes thinkin...n i dont think he will tell me...maybe i should just ask him out...

but if he says no should i still really like him or what???

I think unless you want to carry on following this guy around, waiting for an answer for a very long time, then you need to act.
If its closure you are looking for, give him one more chance, ask him out, tell him you want him to decide and if he doesnt then thats it! You dont want him. Yes i know that is waay more difficult than it sounds but thats the impression you need to give him. Itll take time but thats what friends and tubs of Ben and Jerrys ice cream are made for ;)
However, if you think you can move on without giving him one last chance (and i wouldnt blame you one bit as he seems to have had chance after chance) then just move on. Make sure he knows that he had his chances and that youve had enough of his games. Like i said before, i didnt say it would be easy but you could focus your energy on school work, hobbies and friends.

He has shown you that he has no intentions of following through with the actions he says he will. And i hardly blame him. From the sounds of things he is in a very good position at the moment. He has a great girl wrapped around his finger while he chases after a couple of other girls seeing if he has a chance with them, if not, well he still has the one wrapped around his finger to fall back on...
Do you see that?
If he really liked you then he would have made his move already. I know that probably isnt what you want to hear but i think you just need to realise that. Just because there isnt anyone you like right this minute doesnt mean you should settle for someone who treats you like youre second best. You dont deserve that and youll just end up hurt in the long-run.
The fact he is trying to get with some other girl before he commits himself to you suggests that he will probably do the same when he is in the relationship. If he really liked you, then he would see you as the best therefore wouldnt try to look for anyone else.
Im not saying there could never be anything between the two of you, who knows what the future holds! But right now, he obviously doesnt see you as number one, which is what you are!
Im sorry if ive got this wrong but like ive said before, we only know as much as you tell us in your posts. This is purely just my opinion so its entirely up to you what you choose to do.

I really do hope you manage to move on from this soon :( and i hope that you realise you are worth far more than how this guy is treating you...
Goodluck!

xxx

Edit: wow, im sorry for another long-ass post :shock: ive had far too much cafffeine tonight and this is its only release hahaha! :D *starts jumping around the room and climbing the walls* :P

[Oath]

Yea im thinking of writing him a note or something....maybe sayin...."listen...i like u...so will u go out w/ me but....i need a good answer...not maybe or i dunno...or i dont care...i want yes or no....! n just explain a few things...

its so fucking gay last year he like wanted to make-out w/ me n now he wont even tell me who he likes...

[Oath]

OK forget about fucking Chris...(sorry im just A LITTEL mad) my stupid frineds Kerry(the girl from my 1st post) told chris she liked him n chris asked her out today n now they are goin out!

Should i be mad at like my BEST friend for doin that....im not really mad rite now im just sad...:(......really really sad....here comes ben n jerrys lol

[Oath]

actually i dunno if he will play her cause he seems to really like her...

[RowanVer.3.0]

I know how you feel. Feels like your heart sinks to the bottom of your stomach leaving you with cold sad feeling, eh?... Same situation here, only, my best friend didn't know I liked her because I didn't want to tell anyone until I was ready to ask her out myself.

Anyways, it hurts when someone doesn't return the favor. Forget about him, if he really loved you he wouldn't let you be hurt like that.

Hope you find the one!

~Rowan

[Oath]

okay there this guy named Dan im a really good friends w/ his cousin sami n i told her i liked him n she told him...so maybe i could go out w/ danny....but theres 1 problem..y 1 friend sarah like him along w/ a nother guy so i dont wanna hurt sarah's feelings if i ask him out if he likes me.....

so VT what should i do???

[Oath]

i was thinking about it n i figured 1 person would say ask sarah if it was ok if i asked danny out....but sarah doesnt no i no she likes danny n she doesnt no i like him..????

so what sould i do now...

[Oath]

n chris really hates me n i dunno y i was think that it was because i thought he still liked me n i told him i didnt like him ne more n he didnt really care!

so thats it w/ chris....

[Oath]

and there is this guy named tony....n he likes me n i really really really dont like him i like danny....n i wanna tell him that i dont like him but in a nice way....so what should i say????

[Oath]

ok thanks....my name is Cas or Cassie.....that helps with tony but wat about danny???

[Oath]

Danny ask Me out today!!! I said yes. But now since were are going out he kinda acts old around me now....n chris fliirts w/ me even though he is goin out w/ kerry

[Oath]

lol ive told him to back off/fuck off more then once......y does danny seem nervous sometimes around me n how do u get him to loosen up?

[Oath]

i broke up w/ danny....he is like not my type.....kerry mite brake up w/ chris.......n now he still nows i like him...n i sit by him n a lot of class n we talk n stuff

[Oath]

well now i really dont likes hes a mean heartbreaker...n dont forget hes an all around asshole!

[Oath]

lol....i hate him....u just cant say to a girl what he said 2 me.....!!! AHHHH!!!!