Help me ;_;

[Never_Forget]

Okay, so there's this girl.. But theres this boy... I'll cut to the chase.

Adam (the boy)... He's really sweet, kind, funny, caring and he always has time for you, even when he doesn't. He helped me get over my cutting and he's the best friend I ever had.. Emotionally I'm in love.

Faye (gal)... She's sweet, funny and kind. She's also really cute.. I have a crush on her..

The thing is, Adam is like the best friend I never had, he's like a brother. He never has anything bad to say, and it's sweet. But to be honest, neither does Faye...

I don't know who I like more and it hurts inside. Every time Adam brushes against me I go cold. Every time Faye looks me in the eye I turn away. The ever-present urge to hug Adam taunts me, telling me I have no chance. The ever-present urge to admit my love for Faye taunts me, whispering in my ear every imperfection. I strive for perfection, to be better than I am, but every step I take I take another 2 back. I have to know who I care about most... Any suggestions? Thanx for all who post.
xx ~Sam - Over&Out

[The Batman]

It seems as if you care about Adam most, but you need to find out if he's gay or bi because you don't want to end up freaking him out. I think the best plan of action would have to be for you to try and figure out which one of them you have a better chance with and don't try and rush anything. Try and talk to Faye and become a bit closer to her that way you can build a better bond and if it feels right you could possibly go with her. With Adam maybe you should try and get a better understanding of his sexuality so if there is a chance you can go for it.

[Never_Forget]

I told him once before.. He took it well.. But he thinks I don't have feelings for him anymore..

xx ~Sam - Over&Out

[The Batman]

If he's cool with it then let him know that you still have feelings for him, it might be awkward but it still lets him know that there is a chance if he likes you too.

[Never_Forget]

He won't. Trust me when I say this.
Nobody would =]
xx ~Sam - Over&Out

[The Batman]

With an attitude like that you won't. If you want someone to like you then you have to like yourself, you need confidence if you ever want to date someone.

[Never_Forget]

I don't want to date him! (or her) I could give you about 100 reasons but I'd rather not, so here's a few:
1. Nobody would stop bugging them, they'd be laughed at. I couldn't just stand by and watch that.
2. There's more pain in a relationship than in most parts of life. I just need to know who I care about more so I can finally admit it to myself.
xx ~Sam - Over&Out

[byee]

Ahh, your name is Sam? That would explain alot. We DO set expectations rather high, some might say unrealistically so, esp. for ourselves. It must be something about the name. It's too 'cute' and informal, we strive to appear more serious than the name might suggest we are.

Anyway, I'm not sure why you need to judge them and rank them. How woud that make it at all diferent for you? What difference would it make? Why can'y you just adore both of them and enjoy them for what they bring you?

You are lucky to have such good people in your life who give to you and are such special people. Maybe it would be better to just enjoy this (and theM0 without judging and ranking them.

[Never_Forget]

IAMSAM, you're called Sam? Well that means you're awesome then, cause your in the "Sam Club". Anyway, I'm not ranking them.. at least that's not how I think of it. I don't know who I like more and I feel like I'm betraying them both by liking the other a smidget more. Inside it hurts, because I'm so confused. I need to know who I like more. I needs help.
Sooo.. Whatever tickles your buttons...
xx ~Sam - Over&Out, you button tickler you!

EDITISATIONINGNESS: I don't know, but I think I might like Adam more... Observations welcome.

[byee]

Yes, I AM SAM, get it? Sam, i am. Yes, it's a very exclusive (and special) club.

It's really nice that you don't want to 'betray' either, but I don't think you're using that word accurately here. You sound like a wonderful friend (hey, loyalty goes with the name), and regardless of the feelings you might have (which are private, afterall), I'd bet that all they recognize is that you're a great friend and a great person. What you have going on inside is not visible to them, and sounds like it just gets in the way for you, not them.

Maybe you can try being with them and whatever feelings you have you can just enjoy without thinking too much about what they mean, or what they'd think if they knew.

Our experience of ourselves and our feelings and such are usually different than what others experience of us. Which is a pretty good thing.

Sams rule!

[Ryandel]

JellyBagels rule actually.
Anyways, I suggest that you think it over. Like these for example:
1)What attracted them to me the most
2) any special things they've done to/for you
3) If you do ever date them, would you be happy with them or have any regrets
4) Who are you more comfortable with, talking about personal stuff
5) Would you love them no matter what

[liam]

I told him once before.. He took it well.. But he thinks I don't have feelings for him anymore..

xx ~Sam - Over&Out

Well you do... if he took it well before, then tell him again. if he likes you as a friend then hell let you down gently.

[kerry]

Well you do... if he took it well before, then tell him again. if he likes you as a friend then hell let you down gently.

exactly i agree with liam ! :)

[Never_Forget]

Well you do... if he took it well before, then tell him again. if he likes you as a friend then hell let you down gently.

I can't... I just can't... It's horrible, having to talk to him after telling him. If I laugh at something he says I feel like he's thinking something like "OMG just leave me alone I don't love you" even though it's how I'd normally react.. It's an awful feeling.

[byee]

Sam, I've lost the issue here. I'm still unsure why it's so important to tell him how you feel? what do you hope to accomplish? How will it change things for you?

There are 2 ways people communicate. One is with words. The other is with their actions. Although words are easier to use and understand, it's a mistake to think that the actions we use are not comprehended by them, too. Somehow, I think your friend must know how you feel about him, eventhough you haven't told him with your words lately.

[kerry]

JellyBagels rule actually.
Anyways, I suggest that you think it over. Like these for example:
1)What attracted them to me the most
2) any special things they've done to/for you
3) If you do ever date them, would you be happy with them or have any regrets
4) Who are you more comfortable with, talking about personal stuff
5) Would you love them no matter what

I agree with Alex .
what really makes you attracted to them is the main question ! ????
:confused:

[Never_Forget]

Sam, I've lost the issue here. I'm still unsure why it's so important to tell him how you feel? what do you hope to accomplish? How will it change things for you?

There are 2 ways people communicate. One is with words. The other is with their actions. Although words are easier to use and understand, it's a mistake to think that the actions we use are not comprehended by them, too. Somehow, I think your friend must know how you feel about him, eventhough you haven't told him with your words lately.

I'm not going to tell him, silleh! Do you know how embarrased it would make me? I just... Well... I don't know..

...I think your friend must know how you feel about him...

Maybe, but I don't think so. Last time he guessed before I told him, and he's been trying to guess who I love without sucess, so I don't think he does? Anyway... I'm just so confused...
xx ~Sam .Over..&..Out.