4IrishJustice
June 20th, 2008, 12:31 AM
Almost exactly a year ago I made a mistake. Nothing too important or relevant other than to explain that, currently, I have been without a girlfriend and have had no female acquaintances since last summer ended. But last year that was different. Most of my friends were girls, and so I was able to learn quite a bit about the opposite sex. Perhaps the most important (and useful;) )were the types of men that girls were attracted to. Girls, you can preach about how you like guys for who they "really are" and for no other reason until you're red in the face; that doesn't change the fact that you have at least had a crush based solely on superficial reasons.
Here's my real problem. I think very highly of myself. I hold the philosophies of objectivism very high, and Pride in ones self as a necessity for a healthy life. However, I will humbly say that I do not feel like I have any real, or impressive, talents. It seems like all the women that I knew, both before and after I was a part of their daily lives, swooned over men who were attractive, muscular, or athletic; who were very talented in music or poetry. And the women of whom I speak are not superficial. They are decent, respectable girls.
I always felt, especially since I changed schools, that because I'm a short, thin, musically DEclined, out-of-shape, philosophy geek who never learned how to dance, I'm worthless in the eyes of women. It seems like all they think of when they look at me is "I see him reading more than talking so he must not have a life or want a girlfriend," or "he's so small he could never hold me when I needed to be held."
I'm not looking for tips to attract girls, or meaningless sentiments about how if I be myself everything will work out fine in the end. I more than anything just want to get the word out that when it comes to men, quiet does not mean shy and literate does not mean hermit.
I suppose I should throw a question in this post for people to respond to, so here it is. Why is it that women, especially teenage girls, would throw away the caring boy who puts them on a pedestal, for the cultural male hero of our generation?
Here's my real problem. I think very highly of myself. I hold the philosophies of objectivism very high, and Pride in ones self as a necessity for a healthy life. However, I will humbly say that I do not feel like I have any real, or impressive, talents. It seems like all the women that I knew, both before and after I was a part of their daily lives, swooned over men who were attractive, muscular, or athletic; who were very talented in music or poetry. And the women of whom I speak are not superficial. They are decent, respectable girls.
I always felt, especially since I changed schools, that because I'm a short, thin, musically DEclined, out-of-shape, philosophy geek who never learned how to dance, I'm worthless in the eyes of women. It seems like all they think of when they look at me is "I see him reading more than talking so he must not have a life or want a girlfriend," or "he's so small he could never hold me when I needed to be held."
I'm not looking for tips to attract girls, or meaningless sentiments about how if I be myself everything will work out fine in the end. I more than anything just want to get the word out that when it comes to men, quiet does not mean shy and literate does not mean hermit.
I suppose I should throw a question in this post for people to respond to, so here it is. Why is it that women, especially teenage girls, would throw away the caring boy who puts them on a pedestal, for the cultural male hero of our generation?