opps daddy, not your bed.

[krystalm]

abcd

[SirRawrsalot]

Okay, after reading that....

No one deserves to be raped (which is what i got from that...). I'm not exactly sure what happened, but basically I got.. someone you know or are related to got raped.... you knew, but didn't help, then you got raped and you think you deserve it? No. Not one person, no matter who they are should be raped. It isn't easy to interfere with that kind of thing. It isn't your fault though. My little sister was raped by my father and I didn't help (eventually I did, but I should've done it sooner.). I was 9 and I just ignored it because I was afraid. He'd hit me many times before and would do it again. It is never easy to help, but just because you didn't doesn't mean it's your fault. You weren't being selfish, just frightened, but who wouldn't be?

[krystalm]

abcd

[SirRawrsalot]

It's an extremely frustrating situation. You don't always think the same as you normally do when something like that happens. It may not seem like it, but it's a good thing your father is gone. I'm sure you miss him and that's normal, but he raped and molested both of you. Your mother did a good thing. Have you ever apologized to your sister? Explain that it's a difficult situation and you didn't mean it.






sorry, when i talk/write about it i tend to relive it and write differently. it's weird.

I believe in doing whatever works best for you! :D No apologizes needed,

[The Batman]

It's not your fault or your sister's fault you were both young and scared. There really wasn't much you could do, and thank god that your mom stepped in when she did because it could have gotten worse. You might have had Stockholm syndrome which could have caused you to feel some loyalty towards your dad. The best thing you can do now is try and help your sister because this could end up bad for her. Effects of child sexual abuse include depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, propensity to re-victimization in adulthood, and physical injury to the child, among other problems. Sexual abuse by a family member is a form of incest, and can result in more serious and long-term psychological trauma, especially in the case of parental incest.

[byee]

How horrible for you and your sister. I'm glad it's over, and it's very strong of you to share this experience with us. I hope we can help.

I've heard that people, kids mostly, feel guilty for allowing the abuse to happen. I suppose that's a normal reaction, we're sorta wired for self protection (and the protection of our loved ones). But as you've discovered, when the Protector (the Adult/parent/father) fails in that very basic of roles, then it cannot be expected (of yourself!) for you to act differently.

You were a child, a young 'un. To expect yourself to somehow stop the violence and abuse of yourself and/or your sister is admirable, but really unrealistic. He's the adult, the powerful one, you guys were kids. Not a fair fight, not fair to expect the ones with less power and physical strength to stop the Adult. In situations like those, it's really self protection. This is understandable, and frankly it was unavoidable. We programmed to be self protective, afterall. It's a survival instinct.

I hope you're able to talk with this now that it is finally over with a therapist. It would be extremely valuable (and frankly quite wonderful) to process all this bad stuff and understand it in a different way, and finally be rid of it!

[krystalm]

abcd

[krystalm]

abcd

[kerry]

Okay, after reading that....

No one deserves to be raped (which is what i got from that...). I'm not exactly sure what happened, but basically I got.. someone you know or are related to got raped.... you knew, but didn't help, then you got raped and you think you deserve it? No. Not one person, no matter who they are should be raped. It isn't easy to interfere with that kind of thing. It isn't your fault though. My little sister was raped by my father and I didn't help (eventually I did, but I should've done it sooner.). I was 9 and I just ignored it because I was afraid. He'd hit me many times before and would do it again. It is never easy to help, but just because you didn't doesn't mean it's your fault. You weren't being selfish, just frightened, but who wouldn't be?

dont worry it is not your fault and you shouldn't think that it is.....
Exactly no one deserves to be raped !

[byee]

But maybe it's now time to start talking about it, with a therapist at first, and then with her. May be if you both talked about it, of you both let it out and started to deal with it directly, you'd both feel better and those symptoms might start to go away.

You have to wrestle with the issue of not doing anything (although i think that is unrealistic), but maybe you can help her (and yourself) by addressing tthis directly, now.

[VCSCjosie]

wow. i started to cry.
i actually cried when i read that. i ams soo sorry.
i know exactly what it is like to be in that position.
i'm so sorry. if you ever want to talk send me some messages.
=]
-josie

[krystalm]

abcd

[DaretoFallup]

geez i'm sorry, no one deserves that, i'm so glad hes gone, for your sake. What you should do is either sit down with your sister, or write a letter give it to her then talk about it. but u have to apoligize, sorry dont take it the wrong way.

[Hyper]

Even if you can't talk about it listen.

People who abuse others like that aren't even human they are monsters..

When I've always been at my most lowest points, crying, my mother tells me that bad things happen to good people.. Man that sure pisses me off but after awhile I've started to get it.

And you shouldn't feel guilty.. If your sister needs you now be there for her. Do what you think is best to get over this sometimes talking to someone you trust helps sometimes talking doesn't help

But you can always talk to us :)

[sabotaged111]

Wow thats not nice at all :(

[iceyfresh]

i agree with the first reply no one shuld be raped

[iGame]

REQUEST [LOCK] and that icyfrech be warned to stop bumping :]

[Atonement]

iGame, if you wish for a thread to be locked, please use the report post button and do not post then. Because if you post, you are jsut as bad as the bumper keeping it open.

And, this thread is not old at all. Its less than a month. ESPECIALLY being in the psych ward makes it not old.

[krystalm]

abcd

[japanman]

Well i dont think its karma you were young when it happened it would have been hard to stop your dad. You might have been able to help but its over now he's gone like you said he's in jail. He wont be able to do this again.

sry if the thread is too old.

[Malcolm Tucker]

sry if the thread is too old.

It's less than a month, it's not old.

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