i didnt even do anything.

[heartagram72]

what the hell i hate my parents.
i joined a band.
both my parents know that music is my life, and without it, i would have hung myself already.
just when we were starting to play real shows and we got booked @ venues on like ticketmaster and stuff, my parents made me quit.
i asked what was wrong, and they said my grades are bad.
my grades sucked before the band.
they say my attitude is a part of it.
i actt the same.
they tell me im arrogant and think that im better than them.
no i just dont think that anyone else is better than me.
i think everyone deserves the same amount of respect, no matter how long theyve been alive or what the hell theyve done in their life.
they tell me im not spending time on other things as well as the band.
actually i spend as much time as possible doing stuff.
the band is a big priority, and i cant even make it to every pratice.
they'll let me join another band, but not this one, even though both of my parents agrreee that nobody in my band is a bad influence on me.
i just want to join the old one, because im aloud to make it to shows and be the merch guy and all, but im not aloud to play with them?
what the fuck?
please help me.

[The Batman]

Just try and bring your grades up and act a little better. Show your parents that you are willing to become a better person if they allow you to join the band again.

[Patchy]

Right well parents get worried, when you suddenly start a new thing and then they notice your grades our down, they get concerned the best thing is to sit down with them and discuss what they think needs improving, not an argument but a talk and if things get out of hand go for a walk, go to your room and just walk away before a argument starts.

hope this helps :)

[heartagram72]

yeah i walk away before the arguments, but then my dad is like "GET BACK DOWN HERE!"
then he starts an argument and if he loses than i get my ass kicked.
and i try my best on my grades.
ever since this year my grades have beeen amazing, but this year they dropped, i didnt get into nation junior honor society, and hey its puberty of course i have a attitude.

[foof1]

They are just trying to help. If you want to play in the band just raise your grades. It's whats best for you.

[Nihilus]

Just try and raise your grades, then your parents will allow your to most likely join again. Good luck!!!!

[byee]

Well, why did your grades drop? What happened?

It's not unreasonable that your folks would notice a drop (esp. from NHS), and that they'd respond to it by restricting you. Did you and them have a discussion about this, did you explain to them why they dropped and, perhaps most importantly, what your plan was to get them back up?

If you didn't, then I hate to tell you this, but you're partly to blame for their reaction. In the absence of info, most people will draw their own conclusions and develop their own response. And maybe it will be correct, but usually not.

In your case, I'd recommend you try to figure out what happened to your grades and develop a plan to raise them, and discuss it with them. Fights happen when people want to talk but not listen, but if you have something reasonable to say (like an awareness of the problem, an explanation, and a fix), you and they might reach an understanding and maybe a better agreement. But it might take time, since the damage is done, and they might want to see some proof that you're correcting the problem. But be reasonable, and present it with a bit of contrition.

[heartagram72]

ok my grades dropped because all of my life, i have been smart enough where i dont need to study.
other people were progressing, as i stayed in place.
eventually people reached my level, and i didnt know how to study, so i also progressed, but verry veryy slowly.
i did discuss.
my parents said that its my band that is bringing my grades down, and that i think to much about it wehn i should be thinking about school. (?!?!) i talked to them about why there low, my plan to bring it up and that my band has no affect on my grades.
yeah my parents do fight with my a lot also.
my dad is one of those "if i say it, it goes. i say jump. you say how high?" it doesnt matter if the ceiling is touching my fucking head.
he says it and it is automaticallly right, no matter what i tell him, what i say.
he talks, doesnt listen, interrupts too much.
my mom has been starting to get the same way.

[byee]

Well, from what you're saying, it sounds like you need to start to study, that whatever worked for you in the past isn't going to work now.

As I said, i think in the absence of info people tend to come up with their own ideas about why something's happening. In the case of your folks, they've determined that the time and energy you're showing with the band is interferring with your studies. This may not be correct, but it's also not illogical of them to draw this conclusion. It's your job now to change that conclusion.

The plan to 'Raise your grades' might not be enough here, you might need to be more specific, as in "I'm coming home and studying from 4pm until 8pm, every nite except Saturday". That's more specific and gives them the sense that you understand what needs to be done, and you'll do it. Saying that you'll just raise the grades isn't as confidence inspiring as a specific plan, esp. if your folks are more authoritarian, as you say.

[Medical Kid]

yeah, you need to give up some stuff u dont need to do, like say if you do 2 more more sports in school perhaps give one up for some more study time, or if your school has a study hall (no matter how boring it is) you need it, and try to perk up a bit around your folks, really appreciate the little stuff, not that im saying you dont already, just do it as much as you possibly can :D