Why girls like bad boys so much?

[Medical Kid]

ok, I gotta know! why do girls like bad boys so much? I mean what happened to gentlemen being chivalrous, isnt that all great? holding doors, pulling out chairs, dont girls like that at ALL? I mean a bad boy could get the both of you into all sorts of trouble, where as a regular, average guy, would do nothing of the sort, so explain this please?

[byee]

"You need the right bait to catch the fish you're after".

Bad boys get bad girls. Good boys get good girls. Sometimes, good boys need to wait a little longer b/c what they offer is often more subtle.

hang in there, the fish you land will be far tastier.

[kerry]

girls go for bad boys because they think the bad people are better and cooler. if you are bad you stand a better chance with the girlies. girls think bad boys are so cool because they are popular in getting in trouble.Also girls think when they are with a bad boy they are good but they are not....
...bad boys are just normal but get in to alot of troulbe. girls think good people are rubbish and don't stand a chance..
but if you are average and normal it will take longer..........

[Maverick]

I remember an old thread on this. There are a few responses from girls that may interest you.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=3456

[Underground_Network]

Though this was probably stated in the thread that Ant linked to, girls also like to think that they can make these "bad boys" turn "good", and that they're "up to the challenge"... But yeah, that's not always the case, and most of what Kerry said is true as well.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I actually think this is a bad stereotype still. Some girls are more attracted to those boys who are all "gangster" and what not because their all buff and insecure (sorry thats a bit rash). Others just like boys who are nice to them and care for them.

[Oblivion]

"You need the right bait to catch the fish you're after".

Bad boys get bad girls. Good boys get good girls. Sometimes, good boys need to wait a little longer b/c what they offer is often more subtle.

hang in there, the fish you land will be far tastier.

Lmao that made me laugh

But yes, thats very true. Bad boys get bad girls. In movies... It seems to be exaggerated a lot. Not sure why

[scatman]

well bad boys are cooler and girls might like a boy who is not afraid to get out and do stuff i dont know.....like a skater for inctance

[Supermario64]

well doesn't the saying go good girls go for bad boys?

[byee]

OK, so much for my attempt at humor, glad Nick appreciated it.

I think 'good ' girls are (sometimes) drawn to 'bad' boys b/c there's something excting about the forbidden, the idea that they do all the things that we cannot, is exciting for some. So, by being around them, they feel that they're doing it, too.

Attractions based on stuff like that are all fizz and no substance, the thrill wears off quickly. It's been shown that the 'best' relationships are the ones between 2 people with similiar values, lifestyles, etc.

[Oblivion]

Also, this idea has been presented by girls so i suppose its somewhat believable :rolleyes:

That 'good girls' see a 'bad boy' being selfish and rude, and they want to 'help' him by 'correcting him' and making him care about others more than himself.

[Gumleaf]

my girlfriends ex boyfriend before me was a "bad boy". he was a rebel in the school and whatever. she said that she dumped him and it was because once the fun and excitement had passed from the start, there was no substance to the relationship. so now she is with me who would be mostly considered as a "good boy" i guess and she says she is liking us more because our relationship is based on things like love and trust rather then on the excitement of being a rebel.

[Medical Kid]

but why bother correcting them? do they think they can set a good example for the boy?

[Underground_Network]

but why bother correcting them? do they think they can set a good example for the boy?

They may simply think that the boy has family problems or doesn't have a good life, and they figure that if they love him and care for him he'll become a better person [in some cases], but that's not usually how it works... And once they get involved in the relationship, it starts off fun and so the relationship lasts a little bit, but then they get bored or they just realize that their relationship isn't making any progress and they leave the relationship...

[george]

http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=25648

There happens to be a study on why :)

[kerry]

Though this was probably stated in the thread that Ant linked to, girls also like to think that they can make these "bad boys" turn "good", and that they're "up to the challenge"... But yeah, that's not always the case, and most of what Kerry said is true as well.

i agree because girls think they can change a boys attitude but they can't :wub:

[liam]

They think its "uncool" to be seen with someone that doesnt play by his own rules =/

[byee]

Talk about me being too psychological!

Good girls sometimes like bad boys b/c they need to reform them. But, the bigger q is WHY they need to do this, what makes rehab so irrestible to them? Most people are repelled by those who need so much work, not attracted to them. I think it goes back to the stereotype that girls need to 'fix' problems, that they're somehow hardwired to nurture and bring back to health those who are 'sick' or 'broken'. You believe that?

Most of the 'good' girls I know who like 'bad' boys really seem to groove on them, they really seem to like their 'badness', they do NOT want to fix it! So, the idea that they're there to rehab them doesn't quite work for me.
I think for some, there's something irrestible about the forbidden, the part that makes them 'bad'. Maybe it's their risk taking, maybe it's their impulsiveness, their overt sexuality, those things that 'Good' girls learn to control and tuck away, but on some level miss.

Mostly, though, I think we're drawn to others who remind us of ourselves, who are like us on a deeper level. So, 'good' girls tend to settle down with 'good' boys, and vice versa. There's a difference between 'attraction' or 'arousal' or 'curiosity' and attachement. Healthy relationships, the ones that feel good forever, are typically based on complimentary values, needs, etc., not outright lust.

[Ryandel]

It's the excitement it brings them. And there's still some guys who have proper etiquette. But most of them still have have that bad side to them. It's just how civilization evolved over the years. Long before, people worried if they would look good on their dates, and now well people just worry if they'll get laid tonight. It's just how people adapted over the years.

[kerry]

They think its "uncool" to be seen with someone that doesnt play by his own rules =/

exactly if they are not with somebody cool they cant be cool :rolleyes:

[alicia]

Some girls like bad boys because of the thrill and most girls want a challenge.
Bad boys seem attractive, but you know they are unwilling to offer sacrificial love in a relationship.

My ex boyfriend was a 'bad boy' and to be honest, there was no thrill at all.
I don't like a bad boy, but I don't like a good boy.. if that makes sense.

I like a guy that is polite, but likes a good adventure once in a while.
I don't really like it when a guy pulls out my chair and such because I can do it myself.. I know hes only trying to be nice, but cmon.

I guess it depends on the girl. Most 'bad boys' to me become total players.
They try to rebel everything and they think to much of themselves..
My opinion :)

But guys.. don't ever change yerselves into a "bad boy" to get a girl. Trust me ;)

[Neverender]

"You need the right bait to catch the fish you're after".

Bad boys get bad girls. Good boys get good girls. Sometimes, good boys need to wait a little longer b/c what they offer is often more subtle.

hang in there, the fish you land will be far tastier.

girls are not fish..lol

and yes like iamsam said bad boys get bad girls and so on..

[ItsMyTime2009]

my friend has this problem. Cos im really bad and he's really good. Everyone wants to go out with me and no one with him, i actually feel sorry for him.:yes::confused:

[laurita_21]

not all girls are like that ! im not :) i like geeky shy kinda guys. :P

[Art_dude]

FINALLY a thread I can relate to! In case you didn't know, I've asked this sort of question in two other threads. And the answer comes down to this: bad boys are 'fun/cool'.

"good girls" and "bad girls" pursue "bad boys" because it's considered rebellious, fun, and wild. It would be stereotyping to say all girls pursue bad boys only to spite their parents. There is something inherently interesting and mysterious about the bad boy. Same with 'bad girls'. It's like they give you access to this otherwise ambiguous and off limit parts of the world - trouble, sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. Who wouldn't be attracted to the bady boy/girl? There's your answer

However, I don't think there's anything wrong with falling for the bad boy or the bad girl. I think there's something wrong with falling ONLY for the bad boys and girls. I appreciate and like all types of people. The problem with girls now-a-days, is that they fall only for bad boys, and have ridiculous standards. Not all girls fall for the bad boys, but it's quickly becoming an obnoxious epidemic. Why not try taking on a bad boy persona? I'm not saying you should end up with a tattoo, pierced lip and a drug problem, but trying to be a little 'edgier' doesn't hurt anyone.

[Baudelaire]

FINALLY a thread I can relate to! In case you didn't know, I've asked this sort of question in two other threads. And the answer comes down to this: bad boys are 'fun/cool'.

"good girls" and "bad girls" pursue "bad boys" because it's considered rebellious, fun, and wild. It would be stereotyping to say all girls pursue bad boys only to spite their parents. There is something inherently interesting and mysterious about the bad boy. Same with 'bad girls'. It's like they give you access to this otherwise ambiguous and off limit parts of the world - trouble, sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. Who wouldn't be attracted to the bady boy/girl? There's your answer

However, I don't think there's anything wrong with falling for the bad boy or the bad girl. I think there's something wrong with falling ONLY for the bad boys and girls. I appreciate and like all types of people. The problem with girls now-a-days, is that they fall only for bad boys, and have ridiculous standards. Not all girls fall for the bad boys, but it's quickly becoming an obnoxious epidemic. Why not try taking on a bad boy persona? I'm not saying you should end up with a tattoo, pierced lip and a drug problem, but trying to be a little 'edgier' doesn't hurt anyone.

I know right? Its fun to pretend but you shouldnt let a fake personality consume you

[Sage]

my friend has this problem. Cos im really bad and he's really good. Everyone wants to go out with me and no one with him, i actually feel sorry for him.:yes::confused:

Hey, bucko! Reality check: At 13, you're not really bad.

^ And this is why girls like me.

[Kahn]

Because you can point out the obvious Tim? ;)

[Blank]

they are trying to get attention by 'standing out' and 'being cool'
some have got their own reasons, maybe when they were young they didn't
get enough attention from their parents.