Girlfriend/family worries

[Supermario64]

Hey guys, i have a girlfriend i love her and we've been going out for a few weeks and i feel uncomforable telling my family about it... i have a big family and worried they will react differently like make jokes about it and stuff (17 yr sis. | 15 yr bro. | I'm 13. | twin sis. 13 | 10 yr old sis | 5 yr bro | 2 yr bro) the only person in my family who has has a relationship is my 17 yr old sis (that i know of) and when my sister had a bf my parents would always be argueing about their relationship... i don't want my parents or siblings to be disapproving of me or my gf, i don't want them to think i'm too young, i'm afraid to tell them and i'm not sure what to do only my friends know about our relationship... whenever we go to the movies or and stuff i have to tell everyone she's jsut a friend but i don't want to anymore :( please help me and give suggestions on what to

thanx for helping

[Gumleaf]

boys puberty - relationships


well the question you need to ask yourself is whether they really need to know at all? is it any of their business? and is it worth the possible uneasiness this may cause if you tell them. i had a similar situation with my current girlfriend. i kept it a secret, that was until we were caught kissing at our front door one night. but i found that they actually warmed to the idea of me and my gf together, and now they really like her too. so it may not be as bad as it seems to tell them, they might suprise you.

[byee]

Adam, what do you hope to gain from telling your family about your g/f? What will change?

I think you might need to lead up to it, esp. given your concerns about their acceptance, as well as your siblings experiences. Maybe you could just start by asking the 'easier' (more understanding) parent what they think about you dating, seeing a girl, having a g/f, etc. See what they say, and respond accordingly.

For you, there might be a big diff between having a girl friend and having a girlfriend, but from their perspective, what you have now might be the same. The important thing is that you can be with her, and that they're OK with that. And, unless they've completely forgotten what it was like being 13, if you continue to hang out with her (regardless of what you call it), they'll figure out soon enough that you and she are more than just 'friends'.

[Supermario64]

The reason i want my parents to know is because i want her to be able to come to my house and stuff

[byee]

Well, can't you ask if she can come over? Is there some rule that girls can't come over?

Ask them if you can invite your friend over, just don't look to make it sexual.

[kerry]

sit down your parents.......
talk to your parents and say " i need to tell you something ....
I have a gf and would like to invite her around so can she come over please