Secret Note?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well, this sorta happened a while back but just recently more stuff has happened so I just wanted to get some feedback.

Anyways, a while ago (like months ago, 4 maybe) I found a note in my locker from "?" so obviously a secret admirer. All the person really said was that she thinks I'm "hot" and left a heart and some xoxo's. Well I have literally NO experience with this sort of stuff (or with girls liking me for that matter) so I assumed somebody was trying to play a prank on me, get my hopes up or something. So even though I wondered for a bit who it might be, I eventually forgot all about it and stopped looking for this "secret admirer".

That is, until recently. To keep things short, basically, I've kinda figured out who this person is. The real kicker is that she's the girl who's locker is like 2 down from me! I just saw the note again (I kept it in my locker... I dunno I guess I was still hoping :whoops:) and noticed how she acts around me. I can hardly tell that she has a crush on me when I talk to her (she rarely talks to me for more than a few minutes before we go our separate ways in the morning). I think she's slipped up a couple times though. I THINK I've heard her say things (quietly so she thinks I can't hear) like "you're hot" as we're talking. She did it recently and I was asked what she just said but she said "nevermind". I've kept my ears open and have heard her say similar things to herself when I have my back turned, but that's not the point. The point is... what should I do?


I've never had a girlfriend or any sort of relationship before. I'd certainly LIKE to, but I don't know about this; she seems to like me 'cause I'm "hot" but of course I can't really see it (I know I'm not UGLY, but I don't exactly picture myself as your typical teen heart-throb, I'm more of the cute innocent nerd guy... well at least I'm a cute nerd! :whoops:). So what should I do? Should I tell her that I know she likes me? What could I possibly say? Should I ask her out? I have no idea what to do guys so your advice would be greatly appreciated :whoops:

[Gumleaf]

you need to ask yourself first if you like her. if you do like her then maybe you should take the first step and ask her out. if you don't like her as more then a friend then i would suggest just leaving it for now.

[theOperaGhost]

I think that if you like her, then you should ask her out. Just do it some morning when you are talking to her. I don't know if you should bring up the note though. Definitely not right away, but maybe if the relationship gets close, it could be brought up.

I know you didn't really ask us about the note, but I just didn't want to make nearly the exact same post as Stephen.

[byee]

This is a nice thing, Canada! And, I must add, that I cannot believe that this was a prank, you are way to nice for that, maybe she sees what we here see.

OK, remember that we never see ourselves as others see us, (which I often think is a darned fine thing), but others often see things in us that we don't recognize, so don't dismiss her attraction to you.

If you're reasonably sure that she's your secret admirer (easy way to find out: Ask her girl friends), then I wouldn't let her know you know, she's modest here (that's whay she choose the anonymous method of contacting you), I would just turn up the charm a notch or 2, let her know you know by merely being more responsive and receptive to her. Little things matter here, a more enthusiastic 'Hi!', a broad smile, and maybe standing a bit closer to her.

It's hard to imagine a nice, smart, caring guy like you hasn't been snapped up yet, so if this is your first, just take it slow and remember that time is on your side, AND b/c she likes you, this is a low risk situation. Just pace yourself, talk for a while, and when it seems awkward, walk away. When you're ready, casually suggest a burger/walk/ice cream. But don't feel pressured to 'ask her out, just go slow here.