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[Gumleaf]

ok, so my girlfriend and i have been together for more then 3 months now and we have decided to start doing some sexual stuff at some point soon. recently we did a little bit of sexual stuff, but we feel we are ready to do more. the sort of stuff we are looking at doing is more along the lines of oral sex. now, i have done it once before with my ex girlfriend, but i was pretty ordinary at it. i want it to be worthwhile for her as well as me, in other words i want her to be able to climax. to keep within the rules here i will ask my question in a subtle way so please try and read between the lines here. my question is, should i be concentrating on the stimulating the sensitive part on the outside, or should i be trying to find the g-spot? i know we have to explore and find what works best for us, but some guidance would be welcome all the same.

[Kallvin]

lol wrong section

[byee]

Stephen, I can't give lots of advice here, as you accurtely point out. But, I will mention 2 very important things in any relationship. Communication and expectations.

Communication is pretty self evident, it's important to get guidance from your partner any time you're either trying to meet any of their many needs, and anytime you're doing something new with them.

Expectations are more complicated. It's really nice whenever you want to meet your partner's needs, but it's also important to recognize that, your desire aside, b/c there's another person involved, you might not have the control over the outcome, no matter how skilled you might be at whatever needs it is you're endeavoring to gratify. So, although it's important to try to meet them, it's also important to recognize that some of her own experiences/issues/etc might prevent you from doing that, and to remember that has nothing to do with you or your performance.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Being subtle you have to know what she expects out of you like sam said. Don't go overboard but stick to something she likes or finds pleasurable.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

don't feel bad if you can't accomplish this, its very hard for some girls, and for some, they will acually never climax in there life.

[Gumleaf]

lol wrong section

if you have nothing worth while contributing to a thread, then don't post. posts like this one is considered as spam.

thanks to the others who posted. :)

[MoveAlong]

lol wrong section
also, fourseasons is a moderator, and should know where threads are supposed to be posted.

don't feel bad if you can't accomplish this, its very hard for some girls, and for some, they will acually never climax in there life.

very true

I suggest you search google, I have come across a lot of articles like this

Anyway, there's one thing to be said about sex: "different strokes for different folks". There isn't always one way that will completely do it for someone. Each person (guy or girl) like something different and it's the partner's (your) job to:
1. ask the person what they like or would like, and
2. try things and pay attention to their reactions.

In my opinion, instead of going for that right off the bat, try some warming up, like foreplay, masturbation, kissing, you know, that stuff. It can make sex and orgasm much much better, because you have all this build up and you're just waiting for it.
In my opinion also, I think you should start with the outside first, because supposedly the g-spot is a lot more sensitive and perhaps you should save that. then see where that goes. maybe you can combine the two.

[Gumleaf]

ok, that makes sense, thanks zach.