How far?

[Techno Monster]

How far should I go in a relationship? I always tend to regret things I do, like if me and my bf do stuff, the next day I regret it. Does anyone else have this problem, or am I the only one?

[BeautifulSilence]

Well, whenever something happens between me and a guy, I always spend days / weeks thinking about it and wondering if I should've done it... So I think the worry / regret thing is often there with most relationships. You'll probably always worry about what will be acceptable and what won't be acceptable in a relationship.

As for how far you should go, the only person who can determin that is you, and of course your partner. You should both feel comfortable about what you're doing and if you don't then maybe you just shouldn't do it. Also, it's good to think about what you're about to do and whether you feel you're going to regret it later (but that's often easier said than done).

Sorry if that didn't help - hope it made ya think though :D

[0=]

How far is determined by your comfort level. Just don't ever force anything or let your partner force anything. If you feel absolutely comfortable with something go for it, but if you have any discomfort think twice about it.

[Techno Monster]

How far is determined by your comfort level. Just don't ever force anything or let your partner force anything. If you feel absolutely comfortable with something go for it, but if you have any discomfort think twice about it.

That is my problem tough, I will be fine with it at the time, then afterward, I will regret it.

[Mzor203]

Then you must think, "Is this something that I always end up regretting?"

And if so, well, don't do it.

[0=]

That is my problem tough, I will be fine with it at the time, then afterward, I will regret it.

Do you discuss what you do with your partner? If not, maybe being more vocal and understanding of each others' feelings would help.

[Nihilus]

go as far as your comfortable with. If your bf likes you he'll respect that you don't want to do stuff.

[byee]

Caitlin, people usually have regrets when they do stuff that they know they aren't comfortable with. I think you're telling yourself something, and it would be wise to listen!

People do have choices, and no one can really advise you on which ones are 'good'. You have to decide that for yourself, but be aware that remorse the day after is a pretty clear acknowledgement that the choice you made the day before wasn't a good one for you. You might ask yourself why you did whatever it was in the first place, and maybe address that.

[The Batman]

Instead of thinking how far you should you go, you should be thinking how far are you ready to go. When we begin doing things sexually we begin to lose our purity and innocence so of course we begin to regret it. In your case it seems as if your physically ready to take it to the next level but your not emotionally ready. My advice is to just wait and let the relationship grow stronger that way there will be no regrets.

[Techno Monster]

Thanks Guys.